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Professional wrestling has always had a unique relationship with the truth. The most obvious example of this mercurial bond is kayfabe, performers’ efforts to present everything that happens in the ring as 100% true and spectators’ agreement to accept this, but in reality the phenomenon goes far beyond the squared circle.

As author David Shoemaker puts it in the second episode of Netflix’s new documentary series Mr. McMahon, “Nothing that anybody involved in wrestling tells you should be regarded as fact.”

Since pro wrestling’s early days as a carnival sideshow attraction, performers and behind-the-scenes staff have misled the media, fans, and even themselves for purposes ranging from harmless to sinister. Some become unsure of where their characters end and real life begins. Promoters exaggerate their attributes and obfuscate their problems to make more money, solidify their legacies, and avoid fallout for any misdeeds. WWE founder and figurehead Vince McMahon was particularly adept at this. He even managed to rebound from his first retirement as WWE CEO and chairman amidst allegations of sexual misconduct in 2022 before a lawsuit filed by former employee Janel Grant, alleging that McMahon had subjected her to sexual assault, trafficking, physical abuse, and “extreme cruelty and degradation” led to his resignation, again, in late Januaury, 2024.

It’s not easy to honestly and thoroughly cover any aspect of this business when you have to constantly navigate all of the above. It’s even harder when your subject matter involves a company as dedicated to controlling its image and massaging its history as the WWE has been over the course of its 45-year existence (or 70-plus years, if you count its pre-WWF-branded origins). Some sports writers, including people featured in Mr. McMahon, have made valiant and valuable efforts to deliver serious reporting on the topic. The Vice TV series The Dark Side of the Ring has made some decent headway outside of the WWE’s reach over five seasons released since 2019. The show’s talking heads, a mix of wrestlers, promoters, and experts, can’t resist a certain degree of self-mythologizing, but it has produced probing looks at serious incidents involving the WWE, including Chris Benoit’s horrifying family annihilation and the infamous “Plane Ride From Hell.

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Productions that have been granted any degree of access to the company haven’t been able to get very far. Even acclaimed films like Beyond The Mat, and Hitman Hart: Wrestling With Shadows, both released in the late 1990s, offer only fleeting glimpses behind the company’s curtain. Most of the current “factual” content involving the WWE is produced by the WWE itself, which has yielded a lot of rose-tinted profiles of stars and pivotal moments. 

When the WWE announced in 2020 that they’d sold a multi-part documentary series on embattled WWE co-founder and figurehead Vince McMahon with The Ringer’s Bill Simmons as executive producer and Fyre and Tiger King’s Chris Smith directing and producing, there was little reason to believe they’d have better luck penetrating the palace walls. Simmons and Smith are a respected journalist and filmmaker, respectively, with proven track records. But nothing in the early days of this particular project suggested that they were any match for the WWE machine. It didn’t help that Simmons’ previous collaboration with WWE studios, HBO’s 2018 documentary film André the Giant, while well made, wasn’t especially hard-hitting. The fact that WWE President and Chief Revenue Officer Nick Khan gushed about an early cut of the series, calling it “out of this world, amazing” in a Q3 2021 Earnings Call, wasn’t promising, either. Few experts in the field or fans with any knowledge of how the WWE operates—myself included—expected Simmons and Smith could take on WWE’s insular universe.

Judging by Mr. McMahon’s interviews with its key subject and his most vehement yes-men, like Terry “Hulk Hogan” Bollea and WWE Executive Director Bruce Pritchard—the majority of which were filmed before the most recent sexual misconduct allegations against McMahon—no one in his inner circle thought they could, either. Which might be the series’ greatest asset. Years of softball questions for whitewashed productions appear to have left McMahon ill prepared for the most rudimentary journalism. He blithely brags and confabulates, fudges easily refutable details like attendance numbers, makes spurious arguments (he doesn’t believe that Mark Calaway, a.k.a. the Undertaker, suffered a concussion during his Wrestlemania 30 match against Brock Lesnar and suggests that the star’s extensive physical symptoms were actually a trauma response to having to lose), and smugly declares that he’s working the crew as he speaks to them as if everyone involved will be sympathetic to him and no one will consider any fact checking or follow-ups. All that Simmons and Smith have to do to make this footage more than a hollow and bloviated tribute to McMahon is the fundamentals of their jobs. And they do.

It’s impossible to guess what the tone of the show might have been before the sexual abuse allegations against McMahon, which are referenced in multiple episodes and unflinchingly discussed in the finale, halted production and shifted the focus in 2022. But the version that does exist is far from the puff pieces fans of the league have come to know. (In another departure from the formula, WWE Studios is no longer associated with production.) Throughout the six-episode series, the Mr. McMahon crew give their titular subject the opportunity to tell his side of his story, starting with his impoverished childhood and weaving through four decades of highs and lows in the WWF-turned-WWE’s history. Then they repeatedly follow up with a mix of interviews with industry leaders and experts, archival news, and footage from McMahon’s own programming, to provide greater context for—and often flat out debunk—what he’s saying. 

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The breadth of the show’s coverage is fairly substantial. It touches upon a number of serious issues that McMahon and his company prefer to gloss over or sidestep, including labor abuses and union busting, the steroid trial, the ring boy scandal, referee Rita Chatterton’s rape allegations against McMahon, the suspicious death of Jimmy “Superfly” Snuka’s girlfriend, Benoit’s double murder-suicide, Ashley Massaro’s rape during a WWE appearance at a military base and the company’s efforts to cover it up, and the current civil lawsuit around sexual trafficking against McMahon and the federal criminal investigation it has spawned. 

The cast of interviewees that the series has assembled is mostly up to the task of discussing these topics and many more, too. Former wrestlers Anthony White, a.k.a. Tony Atlas, and Bret Hart give clear-eyed (by wrestling standards) looks into the era in which they worked for the WWF. The Wrestling Observer’s Dave Meltzer does an excellent job of breaking down the WWE’s history in a way that is comprehensive enough for people who follow wrestling but still accessible for the uninitiated. Authors Sharon Mazer and David Shoemaker provide vital cultural criticism. Veteran New York Post columnist Phil Mushnick frankly discusses his decades-long coverage of McMahon’s professional and personal misdeeds while reporters Khadeeja Safdar, Ted Mann, and Joe Palazzolo provide insights into their recent investigations into his crimes. 

Mr. McMahon is not perfect. While I appreciate that time constraints would make it almost impossible to properly investigate every scandal related to the WWE over the course of six episodes, some of them get little more than a fleeting mention here. (Netflix described the series in marketing materials as being culled from more than 200 hours of interviews with McMahon alone.) It’s significant that Snuka was acknowledged at all, but it’s a shame that there wasn’t the time, resources, or interest to investigate the long-standing rumors that the then WWF might have played a role in covering up his involvement in Nancy Argentino’s death. 

Some periods of the WWE’s history are more thoroughly explored than others. The post-Attitude Era coverage in particular would have benefited from more cultural criticism and expert opinions. It’s odd that the series seems content to allow modern-day stars like Cody Rhodes insist that the current version of the company is supportive and devoid of the issues that plagued the rest of its history without the pushback that almost every other claim receives. (Although it’s convenient for Netflix, which will begin streaming WWE Raw in 2025, that their show is apparently completely separate from anything unsavory covered in this series.)

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Despite its minor flaws and the limitations of its scope, though, the series remains a solid interrogation of McMahon’s life and work. I’ve followed wrestling for too long and seen too many improbable McMahon comebacks to be able to declare with any confidence that he won’t bounce back once more, but I believe that it will leave a permanent mark on his ability to control his own narrative. All of the usual tricks he’s employed to aggrandize himself and avoid accountability throughout his career are laid bare here. He mythologizes and exaggerates the details of Wrestlemania III and the producers immediately follow up with actual attendance numbers and background information about its stars. He shrugs off proven instances of harm as isolated events while the series has already made a solid case that they were consistent with his patterns of behavior and the company culture he fostered. And he keeps trying to draw a definitive line between himself and his alter ego and pin every accusation and criticism he’s received on the latter. (In fact, he’s still doing it. In a statement shared on X on Sept. 23, McMahon accused the producers of conflating himself with his character.) But the entire show serves as convincing evidence that no clear boundary between person and persona exists.

Mr. Vince McMahon might have believed that he could talk and confabulate his way out of anything the people involved in this production threw at him when he agreed to participate. But by the end, it’s clear that the only person he’s successfully worked is himself.

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Strictly It Takes Two fans were not impressed as the ‘Friday panel’ returned to the BBC Two show, with one branding all three guests ‘abysmal’ in a savage swipe

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Fukuyama’s prediction — from dream to nightmare

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Francis Fukuyama did say, as Edward Luce points out, that liberal democracy might end up as the caretaker of the museum of human history (Books, September 21). But his real prediction was that “the end of history” might be the beginning of something else: “Is not the man who is completely satisfied by nothing more than universal and equal recognition something less than a full human being, indeed, an object of contempt, a ‘last man’ with neither striving nor aspiration? . . . And might not the fear of becoming contemptible ‘last men’ lead men to assert themselves in new and unforeseen ways, even to the point of becoming once again bestial ‘first men’ engaged in bloody prestige battles, this time with modern weapons?”.

Fukuyama, perhaps more frequently criticised than read today, displayed imaginative prescience of the highest order already in 1992.

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Major supermarket makes change to 53 stores ahead of nationwide expansion next month

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A MAJOR supermarket is set to make a change to 53 of its stores ahead of a nationwide expansion next month.

Iceland has partnered with the food delivery service Deliveroo as part of the latest expansion of its rapid delivery offer.

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Deliveroo will deliver from all Iceland stores from next month

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And the frozen food retailer is now offering the service at 53 of its UK stores.

Under the plan, the supermarket chain will expand to its 800 Iceland and Food Warehouse stores by the end of October.

More than 3,000 Iceland products are understood to be available to buy through Deliveroo.

You can nab Iceland’s full range of essentials, frozen and fresh groceries from the click of a button.

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Iceland says shoppers will be able to receive their orders within 25 minutes under the new partnership.

Products from the retailer’s brand connections such as Greggs and Myprotein are also available to order.

Amazon Prime customers in Manchester and London can also have Iceland food delivered through its third-party deal with Amazon.

Iceland and Food Warehouses already offer deliveries through Just Eat and Uber Eats and also offer a next day and same day delivery service itself.

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Justin Addison, Iceland Foods international and partnerships director said: “We’re dedicated to making sure our customers can enjoy our innovative, value-driven range of products, no matter where they are.

“This past year has been a real moment of growth for Iceland and The Food Warehouse, and we’re thrilled to add Deliveroo to our list of partners.

“More customers across the UK will now be able to easily access their favourite Iceland products from the comfort of their own homes.”

Four ways to save money on your weekly shop in Iceland

Suzy McClintock, Deliveroo VP of new verticals added: “We’re delighted to announce our partnership with Iceland, bringing thousands of fantastic products to customers across the UK in as little as 25 minutes.

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“As demand for convenient grocery delivery grows, this partnership means even more households can access their Iceland favourites quickly and easily via our app, including thousands of great value products.”

It comes as Iceland revealed its Christmas 2024 range and it includes a pigs in blankets Yorkshire pudding.

The big day is still a while away, but it’s always good to plan ahead for the merry season.

Luckily, Iceland has unveiled its Christmas menu which will be available in stores and online from November 12.

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The items will also be available to buy at Iceland’s The Food Warehouse.

Iceland‘s menu this year offers customers everything they’ll need for Christmas lunch or dinner, but there are some quirky items included as well in case you’re after something a bit different.

Shoppers will be able to feast on mini fish, chip and ketchup sarnies, prawn tacos and an unbelievable XXL pigs in blankets Yorkshire pudding.

The supermarket is also launching battered lobster tails, mini garlic and herb kievs and even some exclusive brand items like Harry Ramsden’s battered mini sausages.

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Also returning are familiar favourites such as the turkey crown, mince pies, Christmas pudding and of course all the trimmings like roast potatoes and veg.

Those who want to feast on the exclusive brand’s range like Galaxy, TGI Fridays and Harry Ramsden’s can do so with the mix-and-match deals like three items for £10.

Iceland’s head of development David Lennox said: “We’ve focused on perfecting the classics and making them the best and most delicious yet, as well as offering our customers a range of innovative and affordable new Christmas products which are sure to delight everyone at the dinner table.

“Iceland has some extra special products on offer this festive season.”

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How to save money on your food shop

Consumer reporter Sam Walker reveals how you can save hundreds of pounds a year:

Odd boxes – plenty of retailers offer slightly misshapen fruit and veg or surplus food at a discounted price.

Lidl sells five kilos of fruit and veg for just £1.50 through its Waste Not scheme while Aldi shoppers can get Too Good to Go bags which contain £10 worth of all kinds of products for £3.30.

Sainsbury’s also sells £2 “Taste Me, Don’t Waste Me” fruit and veg boxes to help shoppers reduced food waste and save cash.

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Food waste apps – food waste apps work by helping shops, cafes, restaurants and other businesses shift stock that is due to go out of date and passing it on to members of the public.

Some of the most notable ones include Too Good to Go and Olio.

Too Good to Go’s app is free to sign up to and is used by millions of people across the UK, letting users buy food at a discount.

Olio works similarly, except users can collect both food and other household items for free from neighbours and businesses.

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Yellow sticker bargains – yellow sticker bargains, sometimes orange and red in certain supermarkets, are a great way of getting food on the cheap.

But what time to head out to get the best deals varies depending on the retailer. You can see the best times for each supermarket here.

Super cheap bargains – sign up to bargain hunter Facebook groups like Extreme Couponing and Bargains UK where shoppers regularly post hauls they’ve found on the cheap, including food finds.

“Downshift” – you will almost always save money going for a supermarket’s own-brand economy lines rather than premium brands.

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The move to lower-tier ranges, also known as “downshifting” and hailed by consumer expert Martin Lewis, could save you hundreds of pounds a year on your food shop.

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TURKEY’S third biggest city, Izmir, sees temperatures hovering around 25C well into autumn.

Combining culture and coastline, it is the perfect place to get your fix of sunshine.

Izmir is also a short trip from the ancient site of Ephesus, which dates back to 10,000 BC

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Izmir's Kordon sea promenade at sunset is a sight to behold and one of Turkey's hidden gems

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Top that off with fabulous food and you’ve got an epic city break.

WHY SHOULD I VISIT?

OFTEN overlooked in favour of the capital, Istanbul, or other coastal towns such as Bodrum, Marmaris or Kusadasi, Izmir is something of a hidden gem.

It’s the gateway to the pretty Cesme peninsula, which juts out into the Aegean and is dotted with beautiful beaches (try Tekke, a stretch popular with families, near a string of hotels and apartments, or Alaçatı Körfezi, a shallow, protected bay which offers jet skis, banana boats, and windsurfing).

And if you love food, you are in luck. Fish and seafood restaurants line the waterfront, known as the Kordon, while you can taste a variety of snacks in the city’s bustling Kemeralti bazaar.

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Most sights are within easy distance from each other, but there’s an efficient public transport system, including bus and underground.

The Bilet 35 ticket can be bought for two, three, five or ten journeys, starting from just nine lira (20p).

STREETS MADE FOR WALKING?

IZMIR’S centre has several must-sees, all within walking distance of each other.

Start by strolling the picturesque Kordon, where you will see ferries regularly crossing the bay, and pass by Konak Pier, which was designed by French architect Gustave Eiffel. Here you will find several retail stores, as well as a handful of bars and restaurants.

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Beyond this is Konak Square, known for the distinctive marble and stone Clock Tower in its centre which dates back to 1901.

From here you can lose yourself in the maze of streets that make up the Kemeralti Bazaar.

Stalls sell everything from clothing to fruit and vegetables, and you will find plenty of souvenirs to take home, from glass tea sets to baklava and lokum (Turkish delight).

Don’t miss a swift ride up 56m to the top of the city’s “Asansör” — the word means elevator, and this one, which was first built in 1907, used to be powered by steam, like the one in Lisbon. You will get a fantastic view of the city from the top (free).

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ANYTHING FOR BUCKET LIST?

IT’S not in Izmir, but while you’re there, a trip to the ancient site of Ephesus is a must (£33pp, muze.gov.tr).

Less than 90 minutes’ drive away, the old city dates back to 10,000BC, and at various points, was ruled by the Greeks, the Romans, and the Ottomans.

Today you can still see what’s left of its inhabitants’ elaborate houses complete with mosaic floors, temples to gods and goddesses, and even a set of open-air, marble-topped public loos.

Pose for pictures next to the impressive 56ft-high remains of the Library of Celsus. Measuring 2,000 sq ft inside, it was one of the largest libraries in the Greco-Roman world.

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You will also want to snap some of the dozens of cats who consider this site their home.

The fish market in the Kemeralti Bazaar offers a wide range of seafood options, and there is a lot more on offer too

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WHERE SHOULD I EAT?

IF you are just looking for a snack, Kemeralti Bazaar has simple cafes which specialise in cheap and tasty fish sandwiches — a local favourite.

And look out for those selling kumru, a hearty, local sausage, cheese and pepper roll.

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You will also find street carts offering midye dolma, cooked mussels stuffed with rice and herbs, and served cold.

For more traditional Turkish food, try affordable Konyali Alsancak for kebabs and lahmacun (Turkish pizza made with mincemeat).

Or for a more romantic setting, Adabeyi on Konak Pier offers the chance to dine on anything from calamari to grilled sea bass as you watch the sun set.

Kordon's Konak Square is known for the distinctive marble and stone Clock Tower in its centre which dates back to 1901.

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I FANCY A DRINK

FOR a tipple with a stunning outlook, head to the Skyfire bar and restaurant on the eighth floor of the Renaissance hotel, which offers a panoramic view across the Aegean.

WHERE SHOULD I STAY?

THE Swissotel Buyuk Efes Izmir is a smart, contemporary hotel close to the waterfront, featuring cool artwork and sculptures dotted around the grounds.

Or the nearby cosy Renaissance Izmir has rooms decorated with vintage, black and white photos of the city.

GO: Izmir

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GETTING THERE: Jet2 flies from Stansted to Izmir from £68 one way. See jet2.com.

STAYING THERE: Swissotel Buyuk Efes Izmir has double rooms from £120.

See swissotelbuyukefesizmir.com. The Renaissance Izmir has double rooms from £102 with breakfast. See marriott.com.

OUT & ABOUT: A three-hour walking tour of Izmir costs from 26€/£22pp. See withlocals.com.

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For more information see visitizmir.org/en.

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There are many factors to consider when buying a home, and evaluating factors like cost of living, crime rate, climate change, local issues and property taxes can help you save money.

Whether you’re saving to buy a house, waiting for mortgage rates to fall or planning a big move in the next few years, researching the market now can help you decide where to invest later.

Check Out: 8 Places Where Houses Are Suddenly Major Bargains

Read More: How To Get Rich in Real Estate Starting with Just $1,000

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“While no one can predict the market with absolute certainty, the patterns we’re seeing now offer some valuable clues,” said Yawar Charlie, estates director of Aaron Kirman Group at Christie’s International Real Estate and cast member of CNBC’s “Listing Impossible.”

Based on current market trends, GOBankingRates spoke with experts who shared which states to avoid buying property in the next five years and why.

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California

Stunning scenery, a vibrant culture and near-perfect weather make California so appealing, but the affordability is an issue.

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“As a real estate broker in Los Angeles, I’ve observed some trends that suggest certain states might become less attractive for homebuyers over the next five years,” Charlie told us.

“It’s not just the high cost of living here that’s a problem. The state also struggles with issues like wildfires and droughts, which can make homeownership even more challenging and expensive,” he explained.

“Additionally, the tech boom, especially in areas like the Bay Area, has driven housing prices to astronomical levels, pushing many to seek refuge in more affordable states.”

Rachel Stringer, a Realtor at Raleigh Realty, added, “Demand continues to outpace supply, keeping inventory tight drastically.

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“This supply crunch, coupled with slow wage growth, raises affordability concerns over time,” she explained. “As costs rise faster than incomes, keeping up with mortgage payments could become increasingly difficult.”

Explore More: 5 Types of Homes That Will Plummet in Value in 2024

Florida

For many retirees, Florida is a sunny paradise, but one bad storm can quickly make things a nightmare.

“The state’s location makes it extremely vulnerable to hurricanes and rising sea levels driven by climate change,” Stringer told us. “Serious considerations include rebuilding costs, disruptions and escalating insurance premiums due to storm damage. Coastal properties may lose substantial value if they become uninhabitable due to rising sea levels.”

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Illinois

Known for its big cities and expansive farmlands, Illinois is a major manufacturing center for food, chemicals, rubber products and more.

According to Charlie, though, the state is in trouble:

“Illinois, and specifically Chicago, faces significant financial woes,” he said. “The state has some of the highest property taxes in the country, and Chicago is grappling with a high crime rate and budget deficits, leading to cuts in essential services and increased taxes. These financial strains make it difficult for residents to justify staying when they could find a safer and more financially stable environment elsewhere.”

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Louisiana

With its reputation for good times, delicious food and rich culture, Louisiana is a state people enjoy. However, according to Tony Mariotti, founder of RubyHome, you might want to rethink real estate investments there.

“Louisiana is highly susceptible to climate change impacts, such as hurricanes and flooding. These risks can lead to higher insurance costs and potential property damage,” he said.

“The state also struggles with lower job growth and economic diversification, making it less attractive for long-term investments. Infrastructure issues add to the challenges of property ownership here.”

New Jersey

New Jersey is another East Coast state you might steer clear of when buying property.

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“Besides the high property taxes, New Jersey is dealing with an exodus of major corporations, which impacts job availability,” Charlie explained. “The state also has some of the highest health insurance premiums in the country, adding another layer of financial stress for residents. Furthermore, the congestion and traffic, especially for those commuting into New York City, can be a daily frustration.”

New York

Another infamously high-priced state is New York, which Charlie revealed has major issues beyond the cost factor.

“Beyond the high property taxes and cost of living in New York City, there’s also the matter of aging infrastructure,” he noted. “The subway system, for example, has been notorious for delays and breakdowns, making daily commutes a headache. Plus, the pandemic has shifted many jobs to remote work, reducing the need to live in or near the city and prompting many to relocate to suburban or even rural areas.”

West Virginia

West Virginia is known as a coal country, but the industry is declining, which has  “economically devastated many parts,” Stringer said. “As jobs dry up, the population drains in these small towns, leaving little demand for housing. Homeowners may struggle to find buyers willing to pay a fair price.”

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A simple antidote that will dispel the parenting blues

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Camilla Cavendish’s article “It’s not you — parenting really is becoming more stressful” (Opinion, FT.com, September 7) left me feeling disheartened. Yes, parenting can be incredibly stressful, all-consuming and downright difficult at times. In the months after childbirth the constant tiredness and disappearance of one’s social life are universal for any new parent.

And yet, as children grow up and become young adults themselves, I would wager that the vast majority of parents would see parenthood as one of, if not the most life-affirming, heartwarming and rewarding periods of their lives. Notwithstanding the setbacks that are almost inevitable along the path towards adulthood, little if anything can give a parent more joy than seeing their child learn, develop and grow up. Parents don’t need books telling them how to be a parent. They need to ensure that their children have time to play with their peers, time with their parents and also time alone.

In the UK, Kirstie Allsopp, a television presenter, found herself in the news recently, having been reported to social services for allowing her teenage son to go inter-railing. Any parents who spent time on social media debating this might care to consider whether that time could have been spent better with their children.

And finally, I dispute the assertion that “modern parenting is performative, and competitive”. Only if you let that be the case.

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Parents should lead by example and turn off the social media to which Cavendish refers a number of times in her article. Who knows — that might even answer the question in her final sentence as to why parents, as distinct from non-parents, now spend less time with their friends.

Jeremy Pennant
Hambledon, Hampshire, UK

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