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Signs Your Venting Is Straining Your Relationships
“Venting is discrete,” says Jenny Martin, a psychologist and founder of Gemstone Wellness, a trauma-informed practice in Chicago. “It has a beginning, a middle, and an end.”
But venting can also keep you stuck—not to mention, exhaust the person listening. The distinction isn’t whether you complain, get worked up, or talk for a long time. It’s whether the conversation eventually moves somewhere, and whether the other person still feels like a participant rather than an audience member trapped in the front row.
So how can you tell when blowing off steam has started straining your relationships? Therapists—who listen to people vent for a living—say there are a few consistent tells.
It’s a monologue, not a dialogue
Genuine, healthy venting isn’t one-sided. You talk; the other person asks a question, winces in solidarity, or says the same thing happened to them. Maybe they offer a perspective you hadn’t considered. Then you keep going from there. (There are, after all, far more exciting things to discuss, like the tacos and drinks you’ll be enjoying after work on Friday.)
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