Essential guide on how to find love

Finding true and lasting love is a top priority for many of us, but it’s not always easy to achieve. If you’re widowed or dating post divorce, you may not feel motivated to go on countless dates with new people. However, sex and relationship coach Angela Vossen believes there are practical ways to build your confidence.

How to find love 

“The best way to find love is to enjoy life to the fullest, rather than forcing a relationship into your life,” Angela explains. “Stop looking for someone to complete you and start becoming someone you actually enjoy spending time with,” she adds. “Love finds its way to people who are already living, not to those who have put their lives on hold waiting for it to arrive.”

She adds that life-changing love rarely lands on your doorstep; it tends to turn up in the places you haven’t been yet. “Say yes to things that make you slightly uncomfortable. Join the club, attend the event, download the app you’ve been dismissing,” Angela adds. “And when you do meet someone interesting, be curious rather than trying to be impressive. Ask questions you actually want the answers to. Listen as though what they are saying matters, because if there’s real connection there, it does.”

With this in mind, here are 10 essential tips to finding love and building a fulfilling relationship. 

10 tips for finding love

1. Prioritise self-love and confidence

It’s true that confidence can be incredibly attractive. When you care for yourself, it sets a precedent for how you expect others to treat you, too. There are lots of ways you can show yourself love, from doing things that bring you joy, to spending time with people that make you feel good, and taking care of yourself with exercise and nutrition. 

When you feel good about yourself, you’ll be much more likely to attract like-minded people with a similar energy. 

2. Focus on being yourself

The right person for you will love you exactly as you are, so always focus on being your authentic self when looking for love. While it’s natural to want to show a highlight reel of your life, don’t be afraid to be vulnerable too and share the less impressive parts that make you human. Trying to change or hide things about yourself to impress others may work in the short term, but genuine love should always be based on authenticity, not a fantasy. It’s worth remembering that the rough edges are often where trust and genuine connections are made.

3. Use online dating effectively

Online dating can be a very effective way of finding a potential romantic partner. Research from 2023 showed that 11.1 million people in the UK use dating sites. This figure is expected to rise to 12 million by 2028.