A woman shared her dilemma after her neighbour started coming into her front garden to weed, claiming part of the property belongs to her despite the homeowner’s deeds showing otherwise
When it comes to neighbours, some hit it off brilliantly while others become bitter rivals. Many find themselves treading carefully between these two extremes, attempting to maintain cordial relations with those living next door.
And one woman has revealed how she’s been trying to achieve precisely that with her neighbour while avoiding any conflict – but they’ve run into a problem.
In a post shared on Mumsnet, the anonymous woman explained how her neighbour keeps entering her front garden and has even begun weeding it.
The other woman is convinced a section of the garden is hers and maintains the boundaries are incorrect. She and her partner have examined their deeds and are certain the neighbour is wrong – yet she continues entering the garden.
The post states: “Moved house three months ago. Next door neighbours seem fine, however, about a month ago the lady collared me as I was setting off on the school run to ask about popping into the front garden to access something. I had my two-year-old kicking off as standard and was quite distracted so (also wanting to be an amenable neighbour) said yes fine and set off on my way.
“A week or so later, I came home to find her sitting on my driveway weeding. Before I had a chance to ask what she was doing, my four-year-old innocently asked why she was sitting in our garden to which she replied ‘well this bit is actually my garden’.
“I asked what she meant and she began waffling about how the boundary goes beyond the fence they erected and this strip of land is actually hers, she just hasn’t been able to access the garden to weed it for some time.
“Confused and again distracted by the kids, I went inside and relayed the conversation to other half who was NOT happy, especially after getting the title deeds out which shows the boundary line as being in line with the brickwork of our garage.”
She continued by explaining how the woman recently wandered into their garden uninvited and laid down weed matting along the disputed strip of land she insists belongs to her.
Now her partner is livid with her for permitting the woman access to their garden initially and failing to clarify the boundary situation properly. He’s insisting that she confronts the neighbour about the facts, but the woman is anxious about sparking a row.
She confessed: “I HATE confrontation, even when I’m in the right feel guilty and uncomfortable like I’m doing something terribly wrong in asserting myself or opposing something, and usually end up getting shouted down and back down.
“Dreading this conversation. Have they got a leg to stand on if I say take the matting away and stay on your side of the fence? Am I about to make a dick of myself and an enemy in my new neighbours?”
The post garnered dozens of responses – and many urged the woman to take control of the situation by getting out the property’s official paperwork.
One person responded: “Just take a copy of the deeds and show her, it really doesn’t need to be a big drama.”
Another suggested: “I believe that the deeds are the end of it. Just take round a copy. No need to have a fight as it might very genuinely be a misunderstanding.”
A third wrote: “I believe that the deeds are the end of it. Just take round a copy. No need to have a fight as it might very genuinely be a misunderstanding.”
And a fourth added: “How annoying for you. I hate confrontation too but perhaps this is a good opportunity to stand up for yourself. This must be nipped in the bud.”
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