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Orgasm Day: The Best Sex Toys And Ethical Porn Sites For A Guaranteed Orgasm
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Every day should be orgasm day, but today it actually is. Didn’t know National Orgasm Day was a thing? Well, now you do.
I would say I’ll leave you to celebrate accordingly, but unfortunately that’s not achievable for everyone.
In case you didn’t already know, the orgasm gap still exists. Although men orgasm 95% of the time during partnered sex, this goes down to 65% for women.
But, contrary to what we’ve been told until fairly recently, that’s not because it’s ‘harder’ for people with vulvas to orgasm, or because they don’t want to.
In fact, research commissioned by ethical porn platform FrolicMe finds that 65.3% say orgasm is important to them during sex. Fair!
While orgasm doesn’t always have to be the goal, things can get frustrating pretty quickly if you’re consistently not reaching orgasm – or having it prioritised – with the same partner.
Whether you’re in pursuit of orgasm with a lover or by yourself this orgasm day, I’ve rounded up my favourite tools for reaching orgasm as someone with a vulva.
Namely: sex toys and ethical porn. As a sex writer and podcaster, I’ve tested hundreds of sex toys at this point, and (ahem) visited plenty of erotic platforms in my time – not to mention I constantly speak to the brands and owners trying to boost the orgasm rate for women and represent female fantasies in all their wonderful forms.
Keep reading for my go-tos when I want to know for sure that I’m going to have an orgasm.
Best sex toys for vulva owners
If you’re not into internal vibrations, finding a great dildo that you can use alongside a clit vibrator is a great way to get your blended orgasm in.
This one from So Divine is my fave, thanks to being super flexible (and pink).
I love that it’s not realistic, which makes it accessible for anyone who’s not attracted to penises, not to mention it has a strong suction base, so you can attach it to any surface you like for the ride of a lifetime.
Type: Dildo
Features: 6 inches
Material: Silicone
Power: N/A
Waterproof: Yes.
You know that numb sensation you can get in your clit when using a suction sex toy? Yeah, well that doesn’t happen with the SONA.
Instead of the magic other clit suction toys use, this one is loaded with sonic waves, which suck and pulse against your clit without even touching it.
It has 10 built-in suction modes, with an extra two unlocked when you connect it to the app, which means you can enjoy everything from a gentle tickle to a body-shaking tremor, if you so please.
Type: Suction vibrator
Features: 10 vibrations plus 10 via the app
Material: Silicone
Power: Rechargeable
Waterproof: Yes
Should you be wondering the best kind of stimulation for a near-instant orgasm, it’s blended. Just FYI, C-shaped toys are the way to go for that.
This one from Bellesa has a suction end that sits against your clit, while the other end sends deep vibrations against your G-spot.
Each end has five speeds to choose from, which are all controlled via the handy remote, which you can hold yourself or hand over to a partner for a spot of power play.
Type: C-shaped toy
Features: 5 suction and 5 vibration speeds
Material: Silicone
Power: Reachargeable
Waterproof: Yes.
Honestly, sometimes I come too quickly with this thing. If that’s not enough to convince you that you need it, I don’t know what will.
As well as 10 vibration speeds against the clit, that shaft thrusts in five speeds inside of you, so you don’t have to move an inch.
But that’s not all. Oh no, the base of the shaft is filled with rows of beads that rotate around the entrance of your vagina, so you’ll be at the mercy of three kinds of stimulation. BRB.
Type: Rabbit vibrator
Features: 5 thrusting, rotating & vibration speeds, and 10 clit vibration modes
Material: Silicone
Power: Rechargeable
Waterproof: Yes.
How does 100% orgasm success rate sound to you? Yeah, you’re not going to want to put this Womanizer clit suction toy down.
With 10 Pleasure Air intensities, 10 vibration intensities, and 10 vibration patterns, Enhance has over 10,000 possible combinations to play with.
Now that’s something your partner can’t do.
Type: Clit suction toy
Features: 10 vibration speeds, 10 patterns, and 10 suction modes
Material: Silicone
Power: Rechargeable
Waterproof: Yes.
Best ethical erotic platforms for vulva owners
Berlin-based Ersties is run by an all-woman team, which naturally means it prioritises spotlighting female pleasure in all its forms.
FrolicMe centres the spectrum of female fantasies in all their glory. Created by Anna Richards, the site showcases audio and video erotica filmed in the most beautiful, luxurious destinations you can imagine, to give your mind some much needed respite.
With two decades of experience in the adult film industry, Erika Lust makes films described as ‘adult cinema’ for a reason. They’re visually appealing enough to be shown on the big screen, with creative storylines designed to spark imagination and conversation among couples.
If you’re bored of seeing unrealistic storylines play out in porn, Lustery could be just what you’re looking for. It shows real couples having sex how they like it: no frilly storylines, just authentic bodies and couples giving each other pleasure the best way they know how.
If you prefer things short and sweet, RedGIFS shows erotic content in short, digestible videos, akin to scrolling on Reels or TikTok (but much, much sexier).
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