While at the Bathgate school, the inspector spent time speaking with children who attend the nursery, their families/carers and observed and spoke with members of staff to help inform their final judgement on practices at the nursery.
Windyknowe Primary School Nursery has received excellent praise from the Care Inspectorate.
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An unannounced inspection from the Care Inspectorate took place in March of this year.
While at the Bathgate school, the inspector spent time speaking with children who attend the nursery, their families/carers and observed and spoke with members of staff to help inform their final judgement on practices at the nursery.
The Care Inspectorate has now released its verdict and it’s great news for everyone at Windyknowe Primary School Nursery as top marks have been handed out.
Following their visit, the Inspector evaluated the Nursery on the Care Inspectorate’s six point scale indicators as 6- Excellent for ‘Leadership’ and 5-Very good for both ‘Children play and learn’ and ‘Children are supported to achieve’. For context these are two of the highest marks a nursery can receive from the Care Inspectorate with the final report detailing the major strengths found throughout the nursery
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The report from the Care Inspectorate noted that the service was exceptionally well led, and the dedicated staff team had created a very positive and nurturing ethos.
Leaders used highly effective quality assurance and involved all staff in improvement work, resulting in confident leadership at all levels and a positive impact across the nursery and wider community.
Children enjoyed a wide range of high-quality play experiences both indoors and outdoors. They were confident, engaged and empowered to lead their own play and learning.
Staff used warm, responsive interactions to support learning. They knew when to step in to extend thinking and when to give children time and space to explore independently.
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Children experienced caring and respectful relationships that helped them feel safe, secure and included. Staff showed genuine care and love, and used wellbeing tools and rights based approaches to support children to understand and express their feelings.
Personal plans were clear and up to date, with strong involvement from families. Staff knew children well and used this information to provide consistent support that met individual needs.
Windyknowe Primary School and early Learning Centre Head Teacher, John Cloherty said: “We are very pleased with the outcome of the inspection from the Care Inspectorate.
“This is a true reflection on the excellent commitment of the nursery staff who go that extra mile for our children on a daily basis and who are a privilege to work alongside.
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“It is hard to believe that the team have been working together for less than two years and achieve this in such a short period of time.
“We will use this feedback to build further on that ethos so that we can be the very best for our young people and their families.”
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England head coach Brendon McCullum says he is ready to work with Ben Stokes when the captain returns for the third Test against New Zealand at Trent Bridge.
The results of the investigation are still to be confirmed, but McCullum has confirmed Stokes will return as captain, a position he has held since 2022, in Nottingham.
“Ben will be back,” said McCullum. “He’ll be back and he’ll be captain.”
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Following a 4-1 Ashes series defeat that was dogged by off-field problems, both Stokes and McCullum denied their relationship had deteriorated in Australia.
Then, following England’s win in the first Test since the Ashes – against New Zealand at Lord’s – Stokes broke the team’s midnight curfew in celebrating the victory.
On his relationship with Stokes, McCullum told BBC Test Match Special: “You’re just trying to make sure you’re very communicative right throughout.
“We all got the same ambition, which is to make English cricket a very good team and to try to achieve results on the field, and that hasn’t changed.”
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McCullum said he has spoken to Stokes “every day” since the nightclub incident, which occurred in the early hours of Monday, 8 June.
The New Zealander also confirmed England director of cricket Rob Key has visited Stokes this week.
U.S. and Iranian negotiators were in Switzerland on Sunday for talks on their interim agreement to end the Iran war. Pakistani and Qatari mediators were also at the scene for the technical-level discussions on resolving the conflict that began in late February.
The U.S. team is led by Vice President JD Vance and includes Jared Kushner and Steve Witkoff. They will meet with Iranian negotiators led by Parliament Speaker Mohammad Bagher Qalibaf and Foreign Minister Abbas Araghchi.
On the eve of the talks, Tehran announced it has closed the Strait of Hormuz again over Israel’s ongoing military campaign in Lebanon. The interim deal between the U.S. and Iran is meant to stop fighting on all fronts, including Lebanon, as well as calling for billions of dollars of Iran’s assets to be unfrozen.
U.S. President Donald Trump has threatened to impose American tolls in the strait if a final deal with Iran isn’t reached in 60 days. The interim agreement calls for toll-free travel for 60 days in the waterway that is vital for the world’s oil supply.
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Israel says it killed 2 militants in Gaza involved in Hamas’ financial arm
The Israeli military says it killed two militants who were involved in helping transfer up to half a billion dollars to Hamas. The military says the two — Hussein Qadra and Mohammed Farra, who worked with Hamas and the militant group Palestinian Islamic Jihad — were killed in a strike last week.
It said on Sunday that the men oversaw a network of couriers and money exchange spots in both Gaza and Turkey that funneled money towards Hamas militants and infrastructure.
Both men were killed on Wednesday and buried on Thursday, according to their families. Farra’s family said his father, mother and sister were killed in an Israeli strike earlier in the war.
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The conflict in Gaza is not part of the U.S-Iran talks underway in Switzerland.
Pakistani team meets separately with US, Iranian delegations
Pakistan’s Prime Minister Shehbaz Sharif has separately met with JD Vance and with the Iranian delegation at the Bürgenstock Resort near Lucerne in Switzerland where the high-level talks are taking place.
Islamabad says Pakistan’s army chief, Field Marshal Asim Munir, accompanied Sharif at the meetings. It did not provide further details.
Sharif has repeatedly said Munir played a key role in brokering the memorandum of understanding between the U.S. and Iran.
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A video released by Sharif’s office shows him warmly embracing Qalibaf, Iran’s parliament speaker, and Araghchi, Iran’s foreign minister, as Munir looks on.
The head of the UN nuclear watchdog is also at the scene of the talks
Rafael Grossi, chief of the U.N. nuclear watchdog — the International Atomic Energy Agency — met with Swiss Foreign Minister Ignazio Cassis on the sidelines of the gathering at the picturesque mountainside resort near Lake Lucerne on Sunday morning.
The agency had monitored the 2015 nuclear deal negotiated between the U.S. and Iran under the Obama administration.
Trump in 2018 withdrew the U.S. from that agreement.
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Talks in Switzerland will focus on the Israel-Hezbollah war, Iran says
Iran’s Foreign Ministry spokesman Esmail Baghaei says Tehran will mainly focus during the talks on Sunday on the ongoing fighting in Lebanon.
Tehran insists that the deal’s implementation start with a cessation of all fighting — including between Israel and Hezbollah.
Iran will meet in the morning with Pakistani and Qatari mediators, and in the afternoon, there will be a four-way meeting including the U.S. negotiating team. There is currently only one day of negotiations planned, Baghaei told the state news agency.
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“The implementation of any document is more important than its signing,” Baghaei also said Sunday.
Iran’s president has said that Iran will maintain its right to a nuclear program.
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“What is certain is that we will never back down from the right to enrich uranium, and the other side is also forced to accept it,” Masoud Pezeshkian said on Sunday, according to state media.
A temporary lull in Israeli strikes in Lebanon
As the U.S.-Iran talks were to kick off in Switzerland, a ceasefire appears to be holding in Lebanon, a lull that came after another day of heavy fighting.
Since the ceasefire, Israeli strikes on Friday and Saturday killed 97 people, including eight women and four children, Lebanese officials said. Five Israeli soldiers were also killed.
Israel says it targeted Hezbollah infrastructure on Saturday, including a tunnel network in the southern Lebanese town of Kfar Tebnit.
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But by Sunday morning, residents in southern Lebanon reported a lull in Israeli strikes. There also were no reports of Hezbollah fire from the Israeli side.
Israel’s military has received instructions to uphold the ceasefire, and said it is only acting defensively, according to an Israeli military official who spoke on condition of anonymity in line with military guidelines.
—Melanie Lidman in Tel Aviv, Israel
Pakistani mediators also in place in Switzerland
Pakistani Prime Minister Shehbaz Sharif and army chief Field Marshal Asim Munir are also in Switzerland for the high-level U.S.-Iran talks, the prime minister’s office said without providing further details.
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The technical-level talks at Bürgenstock Resort near the Swiss city of Lucerne are being held after Sharif dispatched his special envoy, Interior Minister Mohsin Naqvi, to Tehran to persuade Iranian authorities to send a delegation to Switzerland. The meeting was originally scheduled for Friday but was delayed because of concerns raised by Iran.
Naqvi later informed Islamabad that Iran was willing to attend the talks. Pakistan subsequently conveyed the development to Washington.
Strait of Hormuz is once again a challenge
The strait has emerged as a key focus, with Iran’s joint military command saying on Saturday that it was closed again because of the U.S. “clear breach of its commitments” by failing to end the war. The interim deal is meant to stop fighting on all fronts, including in Lebanon where Israeli forces are battling the militant Hezbollah group.
The U.S. disputed Iran’s announcement, with the U.S. Central Command saying that traffic continues to flow and that 55 merchant ships transited on Saturday with more than 17 million barrels of oil.
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Ships began transiting after the interim U.S.-Iran agreement was signed last week. The U.S. lifted its blockade of Iran’s ports and now allows Tehran to sell its oil freely — terms that have left some in U.S. Congress asking whether the war was worth it.
The interim deal signed by Trump and Iranian President Masoud Pezeshkian gives negotiators 60 days to reach a nuclear agreement, but the time can be extended.
The debate surrounding Roberto Martinez’s side remains the same: will he, or Portugal ever drop 41-year-old Cristiano Ronaldo?
After the No7 was criticised for robbing Bruno Fernandes of a goalscoring opportunity, Thierry Henry said: “The team needs to score, not you”.
Uzbekistan will feel confident of their chances despite a defeat to Colombia. Manchester City defender Abdukodir Khusanov will be tasked to shackle Ronaldo.
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Date, kick-off time and venue
Portugal vs Uzbekistan is scheduled for a 6pm BST kick-off on Tuesday, June 23, 2026.
The match will take place at the NRG Stadium in Houston, Texas.
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TV channel: In the UK, the game will be televised live on ITV1, with coverage starting at 5pm BST.
Live stream: UK viewers can also catch the contest live online via ITVX app or the channel’s website.
Live blog: You can follow all the action on matchday via Standard Sport’s live blog.
Free highlights: World Cup highlights are available on FIFA’s official YouTube channel, along with ITVX app and their websites.
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Portugal vs Uzbekistan team news
All the talk about the Portugal squad surrounds Ronaldo, but this does a disservice to their other talents: Fernandes, Vitinha, Neves and new Real Madrid signing Bernardo Silva form the tournament’s best midfield.
Ruben Dias was a notable absentee from the starting XI in their opener, with Martinez revealing the Manchester City was “not 100% fit”.
Portugal squad: Diogo Costa, Jose Sa, Rui Silva, Ricardo Velho, Diogo Dalot, Matheus Nunes, Ruben Dias, Nelson Semedo, Joao Cancelo, Nuno Mendes, Goncalo Inacio, Renato Veiga, Tomas Araujo, Ruben Neves, Samu Costa, Joao Neves, Vitinha, Bruno Fernandes, Bernardo Silva, Cristiano Ronaldo, Joao Felix, Francisco Trincao, Francisco Conceicao, Pedro Neto, Rafael Leao, Goncalo Guedes, Goncalo Ramos
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Khusanov, 21, is Uzbekistan’s leading light after his £40m move to City last year, while their goalscorer against Colombia, Abbosbek Fayzullaev can threaten the A Selecao’s backline.
But it’s Uzbek veteran Eldor Shomorudov who is the real dangerman here: Shomorudov has 44 goals in 93 caps for his country. If he finds his shooting boots here the debutants could cause another upset.
With such a strong midfield, Portugal should be able to dictate play against almost any team in the tournament, but against DR Congo their only shot on target was Neves’ early header – clearly it’s not leading into enough attacks.
Will that change with this game? CR7 will be up front again, so I’m not sure it will.
But Uzbekistan lack pedigree at this level, and a single goal could decide it.
Head to head (h2h) history and results
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Network Rail said it would be a ‘complex recovery operation’
The fatal train crash near Bedford was a “tragic, isolated incident”, Network Rail has said, as it announced that rail services will be disrupted until June 28 while a “complex recovery operation” to remove the damaged trains and carriages from the track continued.
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The collision, which killed a train driver and left 100 others injured, involved two East Midlands Railway (EMR) trains – with one smashing into the back of the other on the same line shortly after 5pm on Friday.
On Sunday, Network Rail said a “complex recovery operation” to remove the damaged trains and carriages from the railway had begun.
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Engineers will then need to assess the damage and complete repairs.
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Rail passengers have been warned to expect disruption to services to and from Bedford for another week, and were urged to only travel if it is “absolutely necessary”.
There will be no services north of Luton on the busy commuter Thameslink line and no EMR services south of Bedford, with a limited rail replacement bus service in operation between Luton and Bedford, Network Rail said.
British Transport Police said more than 80 people were treated in hospital on Friday night, and as of Saturday morning 28 remained in hospital, with nine in a critical condition.
Of the 100 victims, 11 people were very seriously injured, a further 32 were seriously hurt and 57 others suffered minor injuries, the East of England Ambulance Service (EEAS) said.
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“While investigations are still at an early stage, current indications are that this was a tragic, isolated incident,” said Ellie Burrows, Network Rail Eastern regional managing director.
“We are focused on the safe reopening of the railway and getting services running as quickly as possible.
“During this time, our message to passengers is clear – please expect disruption to services through this area for the majority of next week and only travel if absolutely necessary.”
Is AI a boom that’s just getting started or a bubble about to burst?
Whichever you think, in San Francisco, once again the epicenter of a tech revolution, one thing is certain: AI is driving an already expensive housing market completely nuts.
In March, the median home price in the city topped $2 million. Bidders regularly pay more than $1 million above listing prices for houses that, in most other places, would be unremarkable single-family homes with a few bedrooms and small backyard. The California city has both the highest and fastest-rising home prices in the country, according to Redfin.
The median monthly priceof a one-bedroom apartment is hovering around $4,000. Since Covid, rent has roughlydoubled, at times hitting $10,000 per month on the iconic Victorian mansions sprinkled throughout the city, according to one real estate broker.
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Real estate insiders say the spike in property prices is unmistakably tied to the AI race as start-up investors and major tech companies alike throw around huge sums of money to attract top talent to the region.
In San Francisco, the median monthly price of a one-bedroom apartment is hovering around $4,000 (Getty)
“They make really good money,” commercial real estate broker Dimitris Drolapas told The Independent. “We’re seeing $500-, $600-, $700,000 of income isn’t unheard of, plus stock and all that.”
The AI boom has helped drive a “complete 180” from the pandemic era, he added, when San Francisco was a poster child of urban dysfunction with residentsleaving in droves and the downtown area resembling a ghost town due to remote work.
Mo Zhu, an activist with local housing group SF YIMBY, lives in Mission Bay – a revamped waterfront district that houses offices for the leading AI companies who have helped drive a commercial real estate comeback around the city and a return to in-office work.
Zhu’s own rent recently went up by 10 percent,a fact he attributes to the AI-related investment in the area. At first, he felt lucky the price hike wasn’t worse – then realized it was shocking to feel fortunate to be facing a double-digit increase in his bills.
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“I was upset that I felt lucky,” he said. “10 percent is not lucky in any objective sense of the world…I certainly was directly impacted by that with OpenAI down the street and Anthropic up the street.”
Many of his friends want to move into the neighborhood, which is home to scenic parks and the new Warriors NBA stadium, but can’t afford it.
In recent years, prices have roughly doubled for multi-bedroom rentals in San Francisco’s famous Victorian homes, which can be found scattered across neighborhoods including Alamo Square (pictured), Haight-Ashbury and the Mission District (Getty Images/iStockphoto)
“They work in high-paying tech jobs,” he said. “They’re not even able to…It’s really squeezing out even families in good economic situations. I can’t imagine what it’s like for families who are not.”
The squeeze is only going to worse this year, thanks to three blockbuster initial public offerings from AI-related companies with deep ties to the city and state.
Elon Musks’s SpaceX just went public, making Musk the world’s first trillionaire, and the company soon expanded on its existing xAI division with a $60 billion deal to acquire Cursor, a San Francisco-based AI coding agent start-up.Rivals OpenAI and Anthropic are next up for sale, and will mint plenty of other new fortunes, too. Some Anthropic employees could be set to earn $50 million from the I.P.O. Together, the three I.P.O.s could generate as much as $4 trillion in value, Barron’s estimates. One local real estate agent predicted these offerings will unleash a “thermonuclear wealth explosion deposited squarely in San Francisco.”
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In anticipation, sellers around the region have been offering to accept shares in these companies instead of cash for home purchases, according to reports.
The influx of people and capital is welcomed news for some but it’s putting enormous pressure on the city’s existing lower-income renters, according to Jennifer Fieber of the San Francisco Tenants Union, as landlords stand to gain from replacing longstanding tenants with wealthier new arrivals. The city has struggled for years to build enough affordable housing and keep rents feasible for lower-income people, and state law prevents cities from enacting rent control on large swathes of the housing stock.
Housing construction in San Francisco hasn’t kept up with the region’s booming tech wealth, leading to high prices and intense competition for desirable homes (Getty)
“Because the rents have increased in the city, there’s going to be huge pressure to get rid of the people you have, regardless of whether they’ve been paying on time,” Fieber said.
There is also concern that the AI industry might be a bubble about to pop – with investors irrationally assigning too much faith, capital and value to ventures that won’t survive, while letting this same optimism drive other major investments in their lives, such as splashy home purchases.
So far, according to Mike Simonsen, chief economist at real estate firm Compass, the AI boom hasn’t sent the San Francisco property market into full-on bubble territory just yet, where “junk starts getting overpriced.” Instead, the craziness is more concentrated.
In May, according to Compass data, homes were selling at 124 percent of their asking prices. The city’s wealthiest have begun “massive overbidding” on an even smaller basket of the most attractive homes in the most desirable areas. Last month, a five-bedroom mansion overlooking San Francisco Bay in scenic Pacific Heights sold for $3 million over asking price, and in nearby Presidio Heights, another palatial home went for nearly $4 million above the sticker price.
“Much of thewealth generation, especially around real estate, as a result of the AI companies is actually already in the system,” Simonsen said. “These are people who are already moved into town with big salaries and go, ‘I‘ll take whatever apartment is available.’”
By the end of 2026, AI-related companies SpaceX, Anthropic and OpenAI will have all gone public, generating $4 trillion and unleashing what one San Francisco real estate agent called a ‘thermonuclear wealth explosion’ in the city (Reuters)
“The concentration becomes overwhelming,” Simonsen added of those now pursuing top homes in the city. “Someone who is not armed with millions in new wealth, the scenario is just really stacked against ‘em.”
“The IPO mania is real and there are people making a lot of money, and there are clearly people moving here and taking very high-paying jobs at AI companies, but that’s also balanced with other people becoming unemployed and other jobs moving out of the city,” he said. “So there’s kind of a mix of many different things going on at once here.”
Simonsen, the Compass economist, said the soaring AI industry could eventually turn and resemble the early 2000s dot-com crash, which sent San Francisco real estate values plunging along with it.During the dot-com crash, tens of thousands of Bay Area workers lost their jobs, and San Francisco real estate took its worst hit since the Great Depression. By the time the bubble popped, commercial rents had fallen 60 percent from their year 2000 peak and residential rent was down 12 percent in the city.
If the AI economy suffers a similar bust, it could mean similar impacts. AI workers would lose their high-income jobs, and the stock some used as collateral to get home loans — or pay for houses outright — could become nearly worthless.
“All of a sudden, the stock is worth 90 percent less,” Simonsen said of this scenario.
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In a downturn, homeowners also would not be able to sell their properties at the same high prices they paid for them, compounding the economic pain.
As for solutions to prevent some kind of AI-related housing apocalypse, experts told The Independent about a variety of reforms that could make a difference. These include expanding rent control, cutting down on city bureaucracy, and supporting existing pro-housing zoning reforms and state laws.
For the time being, demand remains high for premium properties in scenic areas such as Pacific Heights, which has sweeping views of San Francisco Bay (Chris Coplans)
Groups like SF Yimbyarechampioning mid-rise, “single-stair” apartment buildings, which feature one central staircase, rather than the multiple required under state law, as a way to maximize the number of units in buildings on San Francisco’s typically small property lots.
San Francisco Mayor Daniel Lurie and District Supervisor Myrna Melgar are backing $70 million bond to raise funds for affordable housing and a November ballot initiative to increase the city’s contribution to its affordability-focused Housing Trust Fund.
Whatever the future of San Francisco housing looks like in the age of AI, it doesn’t seem likely the city will return to the Covid days any time soon, when landlords were lowering prices to entice people to come back and keep residents who were on the fence about leaving. In an April 2020 survey, more than a third of San Francisco landlords said they had granted reductions, and 10- and 20-percent cuts could be seen on rents everywhere from finance-focused downtown to leafy, residential Glen Park.
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Jennifer Fieber, the tenant activist, was one of those who benefitted from this brief window of declining prices. “Those days,” she said, “are definitely gone.”
As Drolapas the real estate broker sees it, the region is stuck in a bind. A booming economy strains San Francisco’s renters, and a declining economy offers them a silver lining. Neither scenario is a win-win for the city as a whole.
“There’s always good, there’s always bad,” he said. “The good is it’s nice to see some economic stimulation, especially after things were so dire here. The bad would be, you know, it’s hard for everyone to be able to afford to live here. That’s really where the conundrum is.”
This exchange, or some variation of it, used to be the sonic backdrop to every holiday I took with my ex. I defy any established couple not to recognise the seething tensions that roil beneath the somewhat calm transcript – the passive-aggressive undercurrent that flows through it – like strong waves on a beach getaway.
The subject of the discord was almost immaterial. There would always come a point – usually while sitting in tense silence at a restaurant, oblivious to the majestic sunset and delicious grilled seafood – when I’d wonder where it had all gone wrong. We were on holiday, for goodness sake! We were meant to be having a nice time!
It’s not just me who’s experienced the perils of the vacation barney. According to research by railcard.co.uk published earlier this year, one in four couples clash when travelling; another study found that more than 42 per cent of respondents argued more than expected with their partner on holiday. Far from being relaxing, time away could well be the ultimate stress test for a relationship. Why are we so prone to disagreements when not on home turf?
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“A holiday places a magnifying glass on the relationship, and that can intensify things quite a lot,” says Elinor Harvey, a psychotherapist and clinical director at The Relationship Therapy Practice. It’s not that the holiday creates problems out of nowhere, but that it amplifies issues that were already there.
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“Think about all the combinations of things that have to happen in order for the holiday to even come about – possible financial stress around how much is acceptable to spend on a holiday, or there might be friction when planning it, because one person might be the natural organiser but have a lot of resentment about that,” adds Harvey. (I can certainly relate to that feeling.)
Then there’s the difference between expectation and reality, according to Fenia Christodoulidi, head of training and consultancy for Relate. “One reason that couples tend to have tension is the fantasy that the holiday will be perfect, and I think social media bombards us with a lot of information about what makes a ‘perfect’ holiday,” she says.
Decision fatigue is an inherent part of planning and executing travel too – where to stay, where to eat, which sights to see. It can be exhausting. And the gap between what you and your partner expect from a break can prove incredibly disappointing. “One partner may see it as time to pause and restore, whereas the other partner may think it’s time to be adventurous and explore – so they may clash about what needs they want to be met,” adds Christodoulidi.
I’m reminded of a friend who found herself weeping in the middle of Paris when she realised that her then partner’s idea of the perfect romantic mini-break involved ticking off every museum in a five-mile radius, while she’d been fantasising about quaffing red wine and slow strolls along the Seine.
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One reason that couples tend to have tension is the fantasy for the holiday to be perfect
Fenia Christodoulidi, Relate
Frustrations can arise, too, around exactly the same domestic issues that plague day-to-day life. If you’re staying in a villa, no matter how beautiful it is, someone has to cook and wash up. “Technically you’re on holiday, but the roles and responsibilities often revert to type – and that can be huge, because you’ve come into it with the expectation that it’s going to be a chance for you to have a break,” Harvey explains. This reaction can be further heightened when you factor in childcare on a family holiday.
For a partner who has a high-pressure job, it can be a real challenge to switch off from work – another source of friction. “I work with lots of professionals and they crash into a holiday because they’ve been working flat out,” says Harvey. “In a week’s holiday, you can’t just decompress immediately. It might take several days to get out of work-mode.”
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But couples don’t just have to accept that spats or all-out warfare are inevitable. Simply talking in the run-up to going away can make a world of difference.
“Communication is king,” advises Harvey. “How do we navigate what our different expectations might be, our different vision of holidays? Ideally, we’re not leaving that conversation until the week before; we’re hopefully having those discussions over a longer period in the lead-up.”
She recommends naming any specific anxieties ahead of time. Worried that you’re going to be saddled with making all the meals and cleaning the Airbnb kitchen every night? “Don’t be afraid to raise that stuff before you’re out there – don’t wait till you’re full of resentment as you scrub the worktops while everyone else is at the pool,” says Harvey.
Holiday blues? One in four couples clash when travelling (Getty)
Lifting the pressure to be joined at the hip on holiday is also advisable. “My husband likes hiking and exercising, whereas I may want to lie on the beach – and as long as we agree that we don’t have to do everything together, that is fine,” says Christodoulidi. She also recommends explicitly hashing out how you’re going to make decisions and who’s responsible for what in advance.
Even if you’ve laid the communication groundwork, conflict can and does still arise on holiday. Rather than avoiding it at all costs, what’s crucial is being able to navigate disagreement in a healthy way. (It’s certainly cheaper than booking a separate hotel room or catching the next flight home in a fit of pique.)
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The normal dynamic of “rupture and repair” can admittedly be tougher – you’re spending an intense amount of time together, perhaps trapped in one hotel room. “I’m a big believer in a timeout,” says Harvey. “If you’re in a full emotional blast, communication is quite challenging.” If you notice things are escalating, her advice is to say: “Let’s press pause, let’s give each other some space.” Emotions can spike but then recede just as quickly; humans naturally self-regulate quite well.
Christodoulidi emphasises the need for the timeout to be “responsible”: “It’s not a timeout where I abandon you. It’s a timeout that says, I’ll go for a walk, and then I’ll come back in an hour, and we’ll speak. There needs to be a promise of return and a commitment to addressing the issue when I come back.”
If you’re in a full emotional blast, communication is quite challenging
Elinor Harvey, The Relationship Therapy Practice
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Sharing more vulnerable emotions – saying you feel sad or overwhelmed, for example, rather than expressing frustrations through anger – can also invite compassion from your partner, says Harvey.
A final tip is to have a post-holiday debrief if micro-tensions or, indeed, World War Three did erupt. “Lots of couples just brush it under the carpet and pretend it didn’t happen,” says Harvey. “But it’s actually much better to use that as a bit of a wake-up call. Ask: ‘What was that about? What do we need to look at here?’”
She explains that we should frame our feelings as simply messengers that are trying to tell us something: maybe we need to be clearer with our expectations rather than projecting assumptions; maybe we need to work on communication. “Those tough holiday experiences can be a learning experience. Conflict is really healthy for couples, because they can grow through it; it doesn’t have to be a breaking point.”
When it comes to holidaying with your other half, a change may not always be as good as a rest – but you might not have to throw in the (beach) towel just yet.
Reece James is sick of talking about his assorted injuriy problems, and says the constant chatter about his physical problems is “boring now.”
The England defender’s career has been plagued by injuries, which saw him suffer heartbreak when ruled out of the 2022 World Cup in Qatar, a disappointment that was compounded by also missing England’s run to the Euro 2024 final.
Another injury with Chelsea disrupted the second half of his season before returning for the final few games and earning a seat on the plane to North America.
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James says the narrative about his injuries is wearing thin.
“People always talk about injuries and availability, and to me it’s so boring now.” James told BBC 5 Live.
“I have one job, which is to be the best I can when I’m on the pitch. To be honest, I understand the stigma at the start, but after a while it gets boring.
“I’ve been fit for a long time before my last injury, and I don’t listen to too much noise.
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“I just focus on myself, my body, trying to perform the best I can and help the team I’m playing in.”
James is Thomas Tuchel’s first-choice right-back and he says he “connects really well” with the boss as the pair aim to win another major trophy together
However, the men had been rescued by the time they arrived and were said to be safe and well.
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Lifeboat organisation the RNLI has praised the youngster for his heroic efforts.
Andrew MacDonald, helm at Kyle RNLI, said: “Thanks to the quick thinking of the teenager going out in his own boat to rescue the two casualties, a far more serious situation was averted.
“We’d like to remind people that blow-up inflatable toys should be kept for use in swimming pools and not open water, and to always ensure that you have lifejackets on and a means of communicating to the emergency services if you get into any difficulty.”
Magistrates went ahead with all their cases, found them guilty in their absence and sentenced them.
Three cases were heard at Harrogate Magistrates Court.
Sarah Partridge, 38, of Water Lane, York, was convicted of failure to tell police who was driving her vehicle when it was allegedly committing a traffic offence.
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She was banned from driving for six months, fined £120 and ordered to pay £120 prosecution costs and a £48 statutory surcharge.
Jamie Lee, 52, of Middlefield Close, Osgodby, Scarborough, was convicted of not telling police who was driving his vehicle when it was allegedly committing a traffic offence.
He was banned from driving for six months, fined £660 and ordered to pay £120 prosecution costs and a £264 statutory surcharge.
Thomas Butler, 37, of Hugden Close, Pickering, was convicted of driving without insurance in Helmsley and was banned from driving for six months.
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He was fined £660 and ordered to pay £120 prosecution costs and a £264 statutory surcharge.
Christopher Roche, 36, of Millgate News, Selby, was convicted by Bradford magistrates of failure to tell police who was driving his car when it was allegedly speeding in a 30mph zone at Walton near Tadcaster.
He was fined £660, ordered to pay a £264 statutory surcharge and £130 prosecution and given six penalty points.
Having made his England debut in 2017, Pickford helped the team reach the World Cup semi-finals the following year in Russia and has cemented his place as manager Thomas Tuchel’s number one.
Now a veteran of the team with 85 caps at the age of 32, Carlisle played their part in his development after he joined the then-League One team on loan from Sunderland.
He only played 18 games for the Cumbria-based club but clearly left his mark.
“I remember one game in particular, we were playing at Deepdale against Preston,” said Ben Benson, who went to the game as a fan but was also part of Carlisle’s goalkeeping set-up.
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“He made a mistake, one that goalkeepers up and down the country make every week.”
The stakes couldn’t have been higher in the incident Benson recalled as Pickford, aged just 19, had joined a club struggling to stay in the division.
Away to Preston he’d come for a cross and, despite seeming to have both hands on the ball, it fell from his grasp and Lee Holmes poked home to score North End’s third goal in a 6-1 success.
However, it was what Pickford did after that mistake which impressed Benson and set the tone for the rest of the season.
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He added: “Once it happened, I could remember him going back to his goal. He got his towel and put it over his head for maybe five seconds.
“He took it off, put it back on, and it was almost like he’d pressed the reset button. From the moment on, I remember him being outstanding.”
Pickford’s displays weren’t enough to save Carlisle from relegation but he returned to Sunderland where he established himself as their first-choice keeper and moved to Everton in 2017 for a transfer fee reported to be £30m.
“In Jordan you see reliability and robustness first and foremost,” said Benson. “For him to have over 300 Premier League appearance and more than 80 England caps, there’s a robustness there and I think that’s very important.”
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