Reform UK have been urged to sack the party’s housing spokesman over his “disgraceful” comments about the Grenfell Tower tragedy.

Simon Dudley said “everyone dies in the end” and “fires happen” as he said there was now too much regulation in the building industry.

A huge fire at the 24-storey west London tower block killed 72 people in 2017.

The tragedy led to a major overhaul of building regulations to prevent it happening again.

But in an interview with the trade publication Inside Housing, Dudley said the pendulum had “swung too far the wrong way”.

He said the Grenfell fire was a “tragedy” but added: “Sadly, you know, everyone dies in the end. It’s just how you go, right?”

Dudley went on: “Extracting Grenfell from the statistics, actually people dying in house fires is rare.

“Many, many more people die on the roads driving cars, but we’re not making cars illegal, so why are we stopping houses being built?”

Reacting on X, Keir Starmer said: “Shameful. Nigel Farage should do the decent thing and sack him.”

London mayor Sadiq Khan said Dudley’s comments were “sickeningly insensitive”.

In a post on X, he said: “Not an ounce of decency, compassion or respect for the 72 lives lost and wider community. But this isn’t a slip-up or a stumble. This is Reform showing us exactly who they are.”

Housing secretary Steve Reed said: “If Nigel Farage has an ounce of decency, he will sack his housing chief immediately.

“These disgraceful comments about those who died in the Grenfell Tower fire are beyond the pale and it is completely untenable for Simon Dudley to continue in his position.”

Green Party MP Sian Berry said: Reform has sunk to a new low and shown a real disrespect to the victims of Grenfell.

“Anyone who has any awareness of what Grenfell residents went through, in fact anyone with any empathy or humanity, will find these comments truly abhorrent.

“Nigel Farage must sack Simon Dudley for this disgusting outburst.”

In a post on X on Thursday morning, Dudley said he was sorry if is his comments were “not sufficiently clear”.

He said: “Grenfell was an utter tragedy and quite rightly prompted a wholesale review and tightening of fire regulations.

“I said it was a tragedy in my interview with Inside Housing and in no shape or form am I belittling that disaster or the huge loss of life. It must never happen again. I reiterate that, and am sorry if it was not sufficiently clear.

“To address the national housing crisis, we must ensure that regulation remains safe, sensible and proportionate. My concern is the introduction of numerous measures that do nothing to protect life and are throttling housebuilding.”

A former senior Pentagon official has compared Donald Trump to a “drunk at the end the bar” over his comments about the Iran war.

The US president has issued a series of seemingly contradictory announcements about how the conflict is going and America’s objectives since launching strikes with Israel more than a month ago.

In a White House speech on Wednesday night, Trump once again said the US will “leave” Iran in two to three weeks, and will bomb the country “back to the Stone Ages. where they belong” in the meantime.

He also said the Strait of Hormuz, which has been effectively closed to oil shipping by Iran since the war began, will re-open “naturally” once the war is over, without explaining why.

Speaking to Times Radio before the president’s address, Jim Townsend, who spent more than 20 years at the Pentagon in the 1990s and 2000s, said Trump was “confused” about the aims of the war.

He said: “I think they’re trying to put lipstick on a pig, as we say. I think the president’s style is what he calls ‘the weave’ and he just talks stream of consciousness.

“He’s like the drunk at the end of the bar who’s got an opinion about everything, and he just sits there and spouts off.

“I don’t think it’s calculated, I don’t think it is part of a strategy, I don’t think it’s a tactic. I think that’s just the way it is, and people around him are trying to put a happy face on it.”

Scott Mills has spoken out for the first time since it was confirmed he had been fired by the BBC and would not be returning to host the Radio 2 breakfast show.

On Monday morning, the national broadcaster confirmed that Mills was “no longer contracted and has left the BBC”, following what was initially described in the press as “allegations about his personal conduct”.

It later emerged he’d been investigated and questioned by the police almost a decade earlier over “allegations of serious sexual offences against a teenage boy”, who was under 16 at the time.

The BBC said on Wednesday: “What we can confirm is that in recent weeks, we obtained new information relating to Scott and we spoke directly with him. As a result, the BBC acted decisively in line with our culture and values and terminated his contracts.”

“Separately, we can confirm the BBC was made aware in 2017 of the existence of an ongoing police investigation, which was subsequently closed in 2019 with no arrest or charge being made,” they continued. “We are doing more work to understand the detail of what was known by the BBC at this time.”

On Wednesday evening, Mills’ team issued a statement to news outlets including HuffPost UK, which read: “The recent announcement that I am no longer contracted to the BBC has led to the publication of rumour and speculation. In response to this, the Metropolitan Police has made a statement, which I confirm relates to me.

“An allegation was made against me in 2016 of a historic sexual offence which was the subject of a police investigation in which I fully cooperated and responded to in 2018. As the police have stated, a file of evidence was submitted to the Crown Prosecution Service, which determined that the evidential threshold had not been met to bring charges.

“Since the investigation related to an allegation that dates back nearly 30 years and the police investigation was closed seven years ago, I hope that the public and the media will understand and respect my wish not to make any further public comment on this matter.”

He added: “I wish to thank from the bottom of my heart all those who have reached out to me with kindness, my former colleagues, and my beloved listeners, who I greatly miss.”

Earlier this week, the BBC also issued an apology for failing to “follow up on” an additional allegation about Mills that was raised by a freelance journalist last year.

A rep for the corporation said: “We received a press query in 2025 which included limited information. This should have been followed up and we should have asked further questions. We apologise for this and will look into why this did not happen.

“More broadly, we would always urge anyone who has concerns or information to raise it with us.”

Emotional manipulation isn’t always obvious. Instead of big explosions or clear-cut moments of harm, there’s typically a sense of covert control through subtle patterns and interactions that leave you feeling confused and anxious.

“It has to do with unspoken rules and expectations,” licensed marriage and family therapist Alexandria Tillard-Gates told HuffPost.

“Emotional manipulation can be present in intimate relationships, friendships and all types of family relationships. Often we experience emotional manipulation in our formative relationships and we don’t realise it until later in life.”

At the extreme end of the spectrum, there are malignant narcissists who use emotional manipulation to get what they want with no remorse or regard for other people’s feelings. But emotional manipulation is not always fully intentional.

“Sometimes it is not as calculated or nefarious as it may seem. It may be that this person just has immature forms of communicating,” said Dr. Sue Varma, a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at New York University Grossman School of Medicine and author of “Practical Optimism: The Art, Science, and Practice of Exceptional Well-Being.”

But regardless of intent, the impact can be deeply destabilising.

“Emotional manipulation is when our nervous system gets needlessly triggered,” said licensed marriage and family therapist Spencer Northey. “It causes us to feel unwarranted anxiety based on distorted input. It unmoors us, dissociates reality, makes our emotions storm, makes us feel younger than we are, more responsible than we should be, or both.”

The process can be subtle, but there are ways to identify it. Here are eight signs you may be experiencing emotional manipulation.

“When we are being manipulated in a conversation or conflict, we often feel something very strongly, but the other person denies our experience and refuses to accept that their behaviour could have caused our experience,” Tillard-Gates said. “Often the abuser lies in order to avoid responsibility. This causes us to question our feelings, experience and even our recollection of events.”

This pattern is better known as gaslighting ― a common form of emotional manipulation in which someone systematically lies or distorts reality in a way that makes you doubt your lived experiences and perceptions of things that occurred.

“When humans get together, it’s normal to have occasional misunderstandings about what happened or what’s going on,” Northey said. “Healthy dynamics work collaboratively to figure things out. There is usually an ‘aha!’ moment where the realities merge ― ‘oh, NOW I see where you’re coming from.’ Emotionally manipulative dynamics double down on the divide and rigidly avoid that coming together by insisting on one reality.”

The result of these rigidly incongruent realities is that the other person’s experience and feelings in response to it gets invalidated and denied. Over time, this can seriously erode trust in oneself.

“Emotional manipulation can show up as someone questioning your love or loyalty as a way to avoid or defuse conflict,” said Zainab Delawalla, a licensed psychologist and associate teaching professor in the department of Psychology at Emory University. “For example, if you are trying to set a healthy boundary of your friend not texting you late at night, they might respond with ‘you must not care about me.’”

The emotional manipulator shifts the focus of the conversation away from your valid expression of a concern or need and into the territory of forcing you to prove your care and commitment.

“In close, healthy relationships, there should be room for mistakes, which can be taken at face value and discussed so that both parties feel heard and understood,” Delawalla said. “If these conversations often lead to one party having to constantly defend and justify their loyalty, it is a sign that there might be some emotional manipulation.”

In addition to derailing conversations, this behavior can also lead you to do things to “prove” your affection ― even things that might conflict with your own needs, like buying special gifts when you don’t have the budget to spare.

“Emotional manipulation can take the form of shaming somebody, making them feel guilty, making them feel responsible for your feelings,” Varma said. “It’s often subtle and goes unrecognised for some time.”

These unhealthy dynamics rely on guilt, shame and a sense of obligation to coerce people into doing or saying what the emotional manipulator wants.

“In a normal conflict or miscommunication, both parties are eventually able to identify a similar recollection of events, understand how their behaviour could have impacted the other in a way they might not have intended, and empathise with each other’s feelings and experience even if they don’t totally agree,” Tillard-Gates noted.

In lieu of two people working through conflict together, emotional manipulation involves one person subtly ― or not so subtly ― placing blame to make the other feel like they’ve done something wrong and pressured into compliance.

“If they can make you feel so good, they also have the power to make you feel so bad,” Varma said.

She pointed to “love bombing” as a common tactic of emotional manipulation, as someone showers you with excessive compliments, attention or affection early on in your relationship. This creates a situation where your sense of self-worth becomes tied to their praise and affection.

“The problem is you become addicted to the highs,” Varma explained. “The point is you have become emotionally dependent on their approval. You feel enmeshed with them, and they control you and your emotions.”

So you find yourself chasing these positive interactions, even as the relationship becomes destabilising. When they later criticise or dismiss you, then you tell yourself it’s your fault.

“It’s normal to experience big emotions in response to big things happening in the here and now ― positive or negative,” Northey said. “It’s less normal or realistic to have a big emotional response just from communication.”

She emphasised that these feelings are real and valid, but you should ask yourself if they arise in response to an idea that is not consistent with reality. You might feel intense anxiety, fear or even euphoria, but when you step back, the situation itself doesn’t quite justify that level of emotion. Instead, the feelings stem from distorted messages and perceptions.

“For example, if you feel the joy and safety of a devoted long-term commitment just from someone’s flattery,” Northey said. “In this case, it’s the communication, not the reality that’s eliciting this big emotion. Or on the negative side, you feel the big emotion of loss or threat just from how someone is talking to you.”

If you’re constantly monitoring your words, tone and behaviour to avoid conflict, that’s another warning sign.

“You are afraid to talk to that person about your feelings,” Varma said. “You are afraid of confrontation, and you walk on eggshells.”

Delawalla also pointed to walking on eggshells in every interaction as a red flag for emotionally manipulative dynamics.

“This interferes with your ability to have open, honest communication, which is a foundational element of any close relationship,” she said.

“Healthy conflict and normal miscommunication stay grounded in the present and in mutual consideration for each person,” Northey said. “Even when facing a disagreement and big emotions, healthy conflict continues to respect everyone and everyone’s perspectives. It is free from crossing into other people’s realities by telling someone how they think or feel.”

Instead of asking how you feel, an emotional manipulator might make statements like “You’re jealous,” or “You’re overreacting because you hate me” ― which overrides your perspective and replaces it with their narrative.

“So many of us do this all the time!” Northey said. “We need to stop normalizing it, even when the intentions are benign, such as saying, ‘you’re mad at me’ as a bid for connection. More pernicious forms of this include accusations, name calling and punishing reactions.”

She added that this behavior strips you of your agency to explain yourself and be seen. It’s another dismissal of who you are and your own experience.

“An emotionally manipulative person feels their target out,” Varma said. “It can start with a small joke at your expense, or canceling plans on you at the last minute ― just to see how you respond. And they escalate from there.”

Unaddressed, those behaviours intensify. The emotional manipulator isn’t necessarily being super calculated, either.

“Some people are just not good at taking responsibility for their actions,” Varma said. “This could be the person who makes a snide comment and when you call them out, they say, ‘What are you talking about? I was just kidding.’”

This makes it difficult to push back, assert boundaries or even talk about conflict.

“You never feel that your issues with them are being resolved,” Varma said. “You end up feeling inferior, less than, and you end up second-guessing yourself.”

If these patterns feel familiar, first shift your focus away from trying to decode the other person’s behaviour and toward understanding your own experience.

“The safest way to navigate relationships is with the belief that the only person you can control is yourself,” Northey said. “Therefore, the best signs to look for to avoid being manipulated come from looking inward to understand yourself, not looking outward to try to assess another person’s behaviour.”

That means paying attention to your emotional reactions and identifying your needs.

“Your needs likely include a need to feel trusted and trusting, need to feel supported, need to be understood, and more,” Northey said.

If you feel consistently anxious, confused or unheard, there’s a good chance those needs aren’t being met. You’ll then want to determine how to change this. That might first involve communicating directly.

“Be clear in your communication and tell them how it feels when the conversation derails into you having to justify your love, loyalty or commitment to them,” Delawalla advised.

It’s also important to be realistic about what communication can accomplish, however. If you’ve already expressed your needs multiple times and been met with defensiveness, dismissal or more manipulation, you may not be able to change the dynamic.

“Unfortunately, it is very rare that you can convince someone who is truly emotionally manipulative that they should change,” Northey said. “Attempting to change someone you believe to be emotionally manipulative is a manipulative game in and of itself. So, just stop playing.”

Instead, focus on strengthening your own sense of reality and connection to protect yourself from further manipulation.

“If you already know what feels [like to be] seen and loved, you’re less likely to fall for a fake version of that through love bombing,” Northey explained. “If you already have a reliable system for checking reality, you’re less likely to fall for gaslighting.”

You can also reach out for outside perspectives in these situations. “In an emotionally manipulative relationship, our spirit or intuition often signals that something is off or doesn’t make sense,” Tillard-Gates said. “However, we sometimes overlook this if we have been in a similar relationship in the past. A good way to check ourselves is to get a second opinion from someone not involved in the relationship, such as a therapist, a friend, or even a stranger.”

Surround yourself with people who engage in healthy connections and promote emotional safety. You can break toxic cycles and create more positive ones.

• Mind, open Monday to Friday, 9am-6pm on 0300 123 3393.
• Samaritans offers a listening service which is open 24 hours a day, on 116 123 (UK and ROI – this number is FREE to call and will not appear on your phone bill).
• CALM (the Campaign Against Living Miserably) offer a helpline open 5pm-midnight, 365 days a year, on 0800 58 58 58, and a webchat service.
• The Mix is a free support service for people under 25. Call 0808 808 4994 or email help@themix.org.uk
• Rethink Mental Illness offers practical help through its advice line which can be reached on 0808 801 0525 (Monday to Friday 10am-4pm). More info can be found on rethink.org.

The mayor of London has spoken out against the decision for a major music festival in the city to book Ye, the rapper previously known as Kanye West, as its headliner for this year.

On Monday, it was announced that the All Of The Lights musician would be headlining all three nights at Wireless festival, which will take place at London’s Finsbury Park in July.

Immediately, this decision was met with backlash due to the controversy surrounding Ye in recent history, namely around a slew of antisemitic comments he made last year, including praise for Adolf Hitler and declaring himself to be a Nazi.

Groups including the Jewish Leadership Council, the Campaign Against Anti-Semitism and Board Of Deputies Of British Jews all condemned the booking, with the president of the latter going as far as questioning whether the government should be “blocking” Ye from “entering the country”.

On Wednesday, Sadiq Khan also said in a statement: “We are clear that the past comments and actions of this artist are offensive and wrong, and are simply not reflective of London’s values.

“This was a decision taken by the festival organisers and not one that City Hall is involved in.”

HuffPost UK has contacted Wireless for comment.

In 2025, Ye’s Australian travel visa was revoked in light of a single he released titled Heil Hilter, which was banned by YouTube, Spotify and Apple, among other music streaming services.

His online store on the platform Shopify had previously been pulled when he began selling a t-shirt emblazoned with a swastika and a slogan alluding to Hitler’s Nazi party.

Earlier this year, Ye took out a full-page advert in the Wall Street Journal to apologise for his past antisemitism, claiming his actions came about at a time in which he’d “lost touch with reality” as a result of his bipolar disorder.

He also maintained that he’s neither a “Nazi” nor an “antisemite” (and, in fact, “loves Jewish people”) and apologised specifically to those within the Black community who feel that he “let them down” with his actions.

Following this, he dismissed the suggestion that this apology was a “PR move” to allow him to return to releasing music and carrying out his numerous businesses.

“[This] isn’t about reviving my commerciality. This is because these remorseful feelings were so heavy on my heart and weighing on my spirit,” he said during an interview.

Last week, Ye released his 12th studio album Bully, which was reported by the Official Charts Company to be on course to debut at number 11 in the UK albums chat.

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A presenter on LBC delivered a brutal reality check to Donald Trump after his latest attack on the UK over the Iran war.

The US president repeated his claim that Nato countries – especially the UK – “weren’t there for” America in the past.

In a post on Truth Social, Trump hit out at “all of those countries that can’t get jet fuel because of the Strait of Hormuz, like the United Kingdom, which refused to get involved in the decapitation of Iran”.

“You’ll have to start learning how to fight for yourself, the USA won’t be there to help you anymore, just like you weren’t there for us,” he said.

But speaking on his LBC show, Iain Dale said he was “getting sick and tired of the abuse” from the president – and pointed the times over the past 35 years when Britain has supported American military action.

He said: “Donald Trump has spent quite a bit of time over the past week insulting various Nato countries. OK, mainly Britain.

“He’s warned the UK in a post on Truth Social ‘the US won’t be there for you any more, just like you weren’t there for us’.

“Well I remember many occasions in the last few decades when the UK has been there for the United States. For example, in the first Gulf war. For example, in Afghanistan. For example, in Iraq.

“Britain has been the most reliable ally of the United States of any country in Nato since Nato was formed in 1949.

“And I don’t know about you, but I am getting sick and tired of the abuse that the president of the United States is throwing at our country.”

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