Kristin Cavallari Revisits Divorce ‘Pain’ After Revealing Dating Preference

Kristin Cavallari reflects on her feelings post-divorce, digging into her emotional side.

The media personality got candid, sharing her story and highlighting her experience after she and her now ex-husband pulled the plug on their almost seven-year marriage. Revealing the takeaways from that phase of her life, she looks back on the heartache that accompanied her growth.

Kristin Cavallari was married to former professional footballer Jay Cutler. They met in 2010, tied the knot in 2013, and remained together till 2020. The couple shares three kids: sons Jaxon and Camden, and a daughter, Saylor.

Cavallari recently opened up about her experience during her divorce from Cutler a few years ago. She shared that there were a handful of lessons the experience taught her, although it was painful, noting that she learned to stop being a control freak.

The media personality shared that she has come to realize that going through hard times is necessary because they help one appreciate the good times.

Stressing that there is indeed beauty in pain, she recounted when she tried to shut off her feelings. “I didn’t wanna feel anything. I wanted to push everything away. I was like, ‘I’m fine, I’m fine, I’m fine. I’m the tough girl,” she said.

She detailed her experience on a recent episode of her “Let’s Be Honest” podcast, disclosing that at that time, she did not know how to ask for help or feel vulnerable. Cavallari said she allowed herself to go through the emotional roller coaster and live through the pain, not run from it.

“And thank God I did, because that was where the majority of my growth and life came from. The pain, and the hurt, and the suffering are there to teach us something,” the podcaster added.

The podcaster continued, stating that trying to run from pain was a disservice to oneself, as beauty lies at the end of the path. Last year, she spoke to US Weekly, revealing the growth she had experienced after the divorce, which was finalized in 2022.

She said that the years spent apart from her ex-husband have been instrumental in her growth as a person.

“I think growing up and realizing that what I had done previously wasn’t working for me and I needed to figure out what needed to change to set up the second half of my life to be really peaceful,” Cavallari revealed.

The former lovers spent about a decade together as they met in 2010 but got married in 2013, a year after their eldest son, Camden, was born. Ultimately, they decided to call it quits in 2020.

Cavallari previously got candid about her getting back into the dating pool, sharing what she now considers a red flag in a man.

She noted that a man without kids or the desire to have some is a no-go for her, and this made the list due to her experiences as a mother. “Someone who doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want any, I’m like, ‘You won’t understand my life,’” the mom of three explained. 

As shared by The Blast, Cavallari gave insight into her line of reasoning, stressing that motherhood broadens a woman’s emotional perspective, and a potential partner without children might find it hard to relate, thereby causing friction in the relationship. 

Cavallari’s list of preferences grows longer as she gets into dating head-on. In addition to men without kids, the podcaster has some career preferences too. She shared previously that she does not want men in the acting niche because she views them as generally insecure.

She described actors as a “bunch of nerds,” explaining that in her opinion, they usually lacked confidence, hence they were not her type. “Typically, actors are very insecure, and I think that’s why they become actors, because they’re seeking outside validation,” the media personality noted.

The podcast host disclosed that another reason she was not into actors was that she had no interest in having a long-distance relationship. Busy schedules and frequent traveling were a red zone in her books.

The Blast reported that even though the acting career was a major turnoff for her, she still found some actors, like Brandon Sklenar, physically appealing.

The mom of three made headlines and fueled beef with her ex-husband when she publicly declared that her divorce with the former NFL player did not yield any monetary settlement.

While discussing the creation of her company Uncommon James, which she launched in 2017, she said, “I have never gotten a penny from my ex-husband, I didn’t get any money from our divorce, so let’s just clear that up. Thank you.”

Cavallari also debunked the rumors that her success with her lifestyle brand was funded by Cutler’s NFL earnings, explaining that she received no external funding.

Cutler rained heat on the “Laguna Beach” alum for her statement, tagging it completely false, “It’s insanity. It’s completely false, completely untrue,” the former NFL star said.

He also stressed that the company was a marital asset and that Cavallari got a good sum following their divorce, as shared by The Blast.