A new homeowner has been left feeling stressed after his neighbour asked him to install hedges along their shared fence for extra privacy – but he refuses to contribute a penny towards the costs
A first-time buyer has been left scratching his head after moving into a new home because of his neighbour’s “entitled” demand for hedges to be planted along their shared fence for extra privacy. But the neighbour refuses to pick up the tab for their request.
After moving house and getting everything unpacked, it’s usually a significantly calmer period of time after dealing with all the stress, paperwork and endless admin that comes with buying a property. For one new homeowner, the stress and anxiety looks to be continuing though. Just a month after moving in, he got a knock on his door from his new neighbour who asked him to arrange the installation of tall hedges along their shared fence to give them both a bit more privacy – but they’re not willing to chip in to help cover the costs.
As the neighbour previously paid for hedging along the fence he shares with the homeowner on his other side, he believes it’s only fair they should bear the cost of planting and maintaining matching hedges along their shared boundary.
The neighbour is also expecting the new homeowner to cover all watering expenses once the hedges have been put in.
While the idea of added privacy does appeal to the new homeowner, the request has nonetheless taken him by surprise, leaving him both puzzled and worried about his relationship with his next-door neighbour.
Turning to Reddit for guidance, the homeowner explained: “He already pays for the one on the other side for the fence he shares with his other neighbour, but that has nothing to do with me.
“Is it fair that he’s asking me to do that? I mean he’s not forcing me, but I feel like it’s kind of a d**k move to ask me to do it and not pitch in at all. I asked if we could somehow split the cost and he said no, but is still suggesting I do it.
“Not gonna lie, the privacy would be nice, but I don’t think it’s fair I have to pay for all of it.”
WARNING: Some strong language below…
Another issue is the telephone at the end of the homeowner’s garden, which also seems to have been cause for concern for his neighbour. Before the new homeowner moved in, the “entitled” neighbour planted a cypress tree “literally two feet away” from the pole in the homeowner’s garden to “mask” the sight of it.
While the neighbour’s sprinkler system waters the tree from his own property, the new homeowner worries this “could be a fire hazard”. He questioned whether he should remove the tree given it’s on his land, despite the neighbour having planted it and continuing to water it.
In the comments section, other Reddit users were eager to weigh in. One person said: “If he wants it, he can help pay for it. ‘You benefit too’ isn’t a great argument for making it your bill.”
Another said: “People are too nice to their entitled neighbours. If he told me no there’s no way I’m paying for it, got some damn nerve.” A third simply commented: “It’s fair to ask. It’s fair to say no.”
While a fourth said: “The level of entitlement some people have is mind boggling. I’d tank that cypress too. Not a good tree around water pipes.”
Someone else shared: “Your neighbour sounds pretty entitled to expect you to cover all the costs for shared privacy.”
And another Reddit user added: “If he wants hedges for privacy, he should plant them on his side and at his expense. If you desire privacy, install a privacy fence on your side.”
If you’re facing a similar issue with your neighbour and aren’t sure what to do, Citizens Advice states: “If the wall or fence is safe and there’s nothing about repairing it in your legal documents, it’s up to you whether you do what your neighbour’s asking.”
Property specialists Hamptons advise homeowners to check their title deeds for ‘T’ marks to determine responsibility over boundaries.
A ‘T’ on one side indicates the property owner is responsible, while an ‘H’ mark shows joint responsibility between neighbours.

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