“It’s the most wholesome event where there’s only one rule: no phones.”
A Derry group helping adults connect with each other outside of their phones is about to celebrate two years since its creation.
Derry Meet Ups, created by Cassie Jane after her return to her home town, takes people away from their phones and social media and allows them to spend time with people whom they may have otherwise never met.
Their offline café has become one of their most popular events, with people seeking time to switch off and connect in real life.
Cassie spoke to MyDerry about how far the group has come.
She said: “I moved home to Derry nearly five years ago. I didn’t know anyone here, and when I was about two years in, I started to feel really disconnected.
“I had people around me, but not any deeper friendships where I felt I could say, ‘Should we go to this?’ I had a huge desire to go and try everything that I could in the North West.
“We have so much in this corner of the world, and I wanted more people to see that. So one day, on a very lonely weekend in April, I put out a reel on Instagram that said ‘does anyone want to go on hikes, beach walks, creative workshops, coffee catch ups and just try new things?!’
“The response was explosive. It had 60,000 views, 1,000 followers overnight, and so many messages asking, ‘When is the first event?’ From there, Derry Meet Ups was born. Now we’re two years in, a social enterprise and an absolute success in getting people connected.”
From one Instagram post, Cassie realised how many people were seeking adult friendships and time away from their phones.
She said: “Our flagship event has become our Offline Café at Salumeria Mariucci. It’s the most wholesome event where there’s only one rule: no phones.
“People bring whatever they need to switch off, whether that’s a craft project, card game, board game, colouring – whatever! We get a hot drink and a treat, and everyone has two hours to simply connect with the other people around them.
“It’s quite often a lot of people’s first event with us, so it has become really special. It’s now become our most popular event, and we’ve a solid group of people who come to every single one.”
Derry Meet Ups isn’t just about creating a fun atmosphere; it is tackling deep-rooted problems within the community surrounding loneliness.
Cassie said: “Community funding is due to be cut by 64% in Northern Ireland at the end of this month, and recent Individual Wellbeing figures show that 1 in 4 people in Foyle are tackling loneliness. With loneliness going up and funding going down, there truly can’t be enough options for community building.
“I’ve learnt that, for the amount of loneliness there is in the world, there is far too much stigma around it.
“I think a lot of people have a realisation like I did that they are disconnected, and they can sometimes take it as a personal failure, but there are so many pockets in time where someone might be less connected; when they move to a new city, move jobs, come home or are simply out of sync with the friends they do have and are a different life stage.
“Derry Meet Ups is there to plug that pause of connection.
“My next chapter with Meet Ups is to encourage the next wave of community builders, and give them the infrastructure to create the spaces they want.”
For their second birthday, Derry Meet Ups has something special planned.
Cassie said: “On March 30, we are having a Grown Up Birthday Party! We’ve hired out The Playhouse to give us 100 seats for people to come and see what we’re all about.
“The night will start as an Offline Café, and then we’re going to be screening something very exciting – our very own short documentary – ‘How to Build A Village’, directed, written, produced and edited by one of our members, Jonathan Cullen.
“I’ll have a couple of other surprises to share on the night regarding the future of Derry Meet Ups, so it’s going to be an incredible evening.
“We particularly encourage anyone who hasn’t joined us before to come along to this event, as it will give them the perfect introduction to what we’ve done, who we are and what we are planning to do!”
Derry Meet Ups post regularly to their Instagram page, and their upcoming events can be seen here
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