Portia Shallcross reflects on the importance of seeking help for carers, how social security has helped her family and the barriers she has encountered.
New research has revealed that stigma around social security can be holding people back from receiving the support they are entitled to – with four in ten saying applying would make them feel less positive about themselves.
North Lanarkshire-based mum Portia Shallcross reflects on the importance of seeking help for carers, how social security has helped her family and the barriers she has encountered.
When Wishaw-based Portia gave up her job as an NHS nurse to care for her son Ethan, she wasn’t prepared for how much life would change – or the stigma she would face.
“Early on, I had concerns about Ethan’s development,” Portia said. “It was one of the hardest things ever to try to explain to the professionals that I needed help.”
After months of appointments and assessments, Ethan was diagnosed with autism at the age of three. Now 15, he is non-verbal and communicates with his own version of sign language. He attends school during the week with Portia caring for him full-time.
Portia said: “He’s an amazing child, he’s so clever. He knows his stuff.
“The caring role never actually stops. The only time it stops is when Ethan is sleeping – and even when he’s sleeping, that’s where you start to worry in the middle of the night and start to think what the future is going to look like for him.
“I think any parent who has a child who’s disabled anticipates problems before they happen and just gets on with things. We make it look so easy, but it’s exhausting.”
Social security support has been vital for the family. Ethan receives Child Disability Payment while Portia receives Carer Support Payment.
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Receiving social security support, however, wasn’t something Portia initially felt comfortable with due to the stigma attached.
As an immigrant too – Portia moved to the UK from Zimbabwe more than 28 years ago – she says she faces dual stigma from her own cultural background and the wider public.
“There is a shame that comes with claiming benefits,” Portia said.
“From my culture, where I grew up, you don’t ask for help – you just get on with things. Culturally, as an immigrant in this country, asking for benefits felt to me like I was asking for a handout. I would rather go to work than ask for money.
“For me, there was the loss of identity that comes with it, feeling like I’ve become the person who’s on ‘benefit street,’ like some people say. Work was my escape but now I wake up, clean the house and I’m just waiting for a phone call from Ethan’s school to say, ‘Come and pick him up.’ You lose a lot of friends as well because people don’t understand Ethan and the support he needs.”
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The extra money received through social security support makes a difference for the mother and son, providing peace of mind and helping to pay for the things that Ethan enjoys.
Portia also receives support in her local community from Lanarkshire Carers, a charity supporting unpaid carers across North and South Lanarkshire.
Stigma can stop people finding out about the social security support available to them, and from applying. Latest research also found that three quarters (75%) of people believed those who receive social security support are portrayed negatively by politicians and/or the media.
Meanwhile, almost four in ten (39%) agree people who receive social security are judged negatively by their family and friends.
Portia says that seeking help is vital – for carers and the people they care for – and encourages carers to find out more about the support available.
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She added: “I always support other carers and ask them to go early and speak to people for help.
“Some people are going to judge you, whether that’s for getting social security support or something else – but asking for help early on is better than asking for help when it’s too late.”
To find out more about social security support visit socialsecurity.gov.scot or call 0800 182 2222.
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