If your kid exclaimed “you the birthday!”, would you know what they’re talking about? If the answer’s a resounding ‘no’, you’re not alone. People on social media have been scratching their heads over the meaning, too.

“I’ve been seeing so many quotes of people using variants of the phrase ‘she’s the birthday,’ ‘he think he’s the birthday,’ etc,” said one Redditor in r/OutOfTheLoop.

“Some comments try to explain it but there are so many different responses … Does anyone know what it means?”

Another X user playfully said: “Yall gonna have to explain to Unc what the hell ‘You the birthday’ means.”

It’s thought the phrase comes from a song called Birthday Girl by Hunxho – a viral song about a birthday girl being showered with gifts and compliments.

The tune’s been mocked by some. As one Redditor put it: ″[It’s] so bad” that it’s “getting clowned really hard”.

The lyrics go: “It’s your birthday, it’s me for your birthday. Get peace on your birthday, she eat, she the birthday girl.”

However, some people thought he was saying “she the birthday” and a viral trend was born.

There are a couple of meanings with this one. The term can also be used as a compliment, a bit like saying “you’re the moment” or the “main event”.

Travis Hubbard, a PhD candidate in literacy, language and culture, told Today.com: “When someone says ‘you the birthday’, they are positioning the subject as a metaphorical embodiment of everything the word birthday connotes – celebration, joy, the reason everyone showed up.

“You are not at a birthday. You are not having a birthday. You are the birthday. The subject becomes the thing itself.”

Per Forbes, the phrase can also be used a way to accuse someone of having “main character energy” or being the centre of attention.

If you say “you the birthday”, you might be calling someone out for being too try-hard or acting OTT (over the top) to get birthday-like attention, according to the site.

Off the back of “you the birthday” catching fire, there are now other expressions doing the rounds like “you the belated birthday” (ie. you’re too late/slow), “you the after-party” (ie. you don’t get the joke), and “you the birthday budget” (ie. you’re tight with money).

The Tab notes that, just like six-seven before it, it’s snowballed into another “pointless” trend where people say it for no real reason: “Then, when you ask them to explain what it means, they refuse and it becomes a viral joke as everyone laughs at their confusion.”

Ahh internet, never change.

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At the beginning of 2023, I’d reached a point where I was so exhausted, I’d go days without showering.

My partner – who had effectively become my carer – would help me comb through my hair because it was so matted. He was doing all the cooking and cleaning; I just wasn’t able to do anything.

Each day, I’d wake up late – feeling unbearably tired – and would then most likely fall asleep on the sofa at home. I’d force myself to leave the house occasionally; but when I did, I’d always feel even worse.

Throughout it all, my doctors said my symptoms were due to depression, and I believed them. I thought they’d know if it was something more. I trusted them when they said no follow-up was needed.

I was completing my PhD and working as an Associate Lecturer at the time – but by the end of February 2023, I’d had an enormous crash.

My workload had briefly increased to three times the amount of teaching. I’d known about this when starting the module, but never would have agreed to it if I’d known what was really going on with my health.

My fatigue got so bad that it led to severe flu symptoms like sore throat, blocked nose, nausea and fevers, together with joint pain issues and sensitivity to noise, touch and light. I felt absolutely dreadful; I had to sit instead of stand during seminars, and any time I wasn’t teaching, I was sleeping. The fatigue got so bad that it was a struggle to even move.

I ended up having to take what I thought was a temporary leave of absence that March – but it wasn’t temporary.

I never finished my PhD. Instead, I’m effectively housebound and, on the rare occasions I do leave the house, I have to use a wheelchair.

It turned out my symptoms were due to Myalgic encephalomyelitis – also known as ME or ME/CFS. It’s a long-term condition where you feel intensely, impossibly tired all the time. Other symptoms include issues with sleep, brain fog and post-exertional malaise (PEM), where your symptoms get worse after mental or physical activity – all of which I had.

My symptoms first started in 2018, but I didn’t really think anything of them then. I had some fatigue and brain fog, as well as issues with temperature regulation; but I thought I was just a cold person with cold hands and feet.

In 2020, my symptoms ramped up. I’d get constant flu-like symptoms and I was forever paranoid that I had Covid. I’d test all the time, but was always negative. My partner noticed I was weirdly tired, too – I was sleeping way too much.

I went to the doctor repeatedly because of these fluey symptoms and the fatigue. No matter how much I rested, it never felt like I’d slept much at all. I thought I might have an issue with my thyroid; another time, I wondered about low iron levels.

I never guessed the true reason – and neither did my doctors.

I had three blood tests which all came back fine, except they all showed a higher-than-normal white blood cell count; something I now know can be common in people with ME. The doctors would always ask me if I’d felt unwell at the time the blood test was taken, and I’d stare at them, confused.

“Well – yes, I feel unwell all the time,” I’d say, bewildered. “That’s why I’m having the tests done.”

But nothing was ever followed up. Instead, because I had a history of depression, I was told repeatedly that that was the root cause of my symptoms.

Part of me knew it was something more; that’s why I kept going back. But eventually, I was told so many times that depression was the cause that I started to believe it. It didn’t feel like the depression I’d experienced when I was younger; but I was older now, I told myself. Maybe it would feel different.

I started my PhD in 2021, and I struggled to balance it with the fatigue. In October 2022, when my workload increased, I felt really worried. I was doing the equivalent of a full-time job, but I was only just managing to cope. Whenever I wasn’t teaching or doing my research, I was napping.

My partner knew it wasn’t normal and told me to go back to the doctor. ‘But they’re telling me it’s depression, and they’re the ones who are meant to know,’ I replied.

My workload ramped up significantly in March 2023, and that’s when I had to take my leave of absence. By this point, I couldn’t even get myself a glass of water. My partner was doing all the cooking and cleaning and even helping me wash my hair in the bath. But there was no follow-up from my doctors, other than to put me on anti-depressants which – obviously – didn’t work.

It wasn’t until I had a conversation with my godmother in October 2023 that I finally realised what was really going on.

She was driving me home one night and I opened up to her about everything. She’s a nurse, and I felt comfortable telling her why I’d left my PhD.

She started asking probing questions; especially about the temperature regulation, which I’d never really connected with my other symptoms. She suggested I look into ME, so I did – and I realised this, surely, was the answer.

I went back – again – to the doctor’s, and I told them what I’d learned. “Look,” I said, firmly. “I fit all the diagnostic criteria for ME; you can see it in my blood tests and my medical history.”

Straight away, the doctor agreed with me. I couldn’t get a diagnosis until everything else had been ruled out, so I was sent for more tests; but eventually, I was diagnosed and sent to my local ME clinic for support.

I feel very fortunate that my doctor believed me the moment I said I thought I had ME; but it shouldn’t take a patient knowing what’s wrong with them to get a diagnosis.

In June 2024, I got my wheelchair in the hope it would help me leave my house more – because if I tried to leave the house, I’d experience really intense PEM afterwards, which led to periods of being bedbound. The wheelchair helped; but on average, I still only leave the house around once a month; and something as simple as catching a cold will leave me bedbound for weeks.

I know some people with ME have it so much worse; but it’s been incredibly scary sometimes. There have been times when my fatigue has been so severe that I’ve been incapable of eating or speaking.

I try to keep reminding myself how fortunate I am, but it’s been so hard. My PhD came out of nowhere, and it was like a dream come true. Being a lecturer was everything to me – it was so, so rewarding. It felt like a miracle.

In my heart of hearts, I know that if the correct cause of my symptoms had been picked up when I first went to the doctor three years previously, I would have finished my PhD by now. I would have known how to pace myself.

But my symptoms weren’t picked up. And I’ll live with the consequences of that for the rest of my life.

The ME Association (MEA) is a UK charity that launched in 1980 and supports people with ME/CFS and Long Covid. It is committed to working with its members and the ME/CFS community and is focused on improving the quality of life of those affected.

It provides professional support and expert information; funds medical research to establish causes, biomedical markers, and treatments; and educates and informs the broad eco-system of media, politicians, educators, health and social care providers and the commercial sector.

Your butt might say more about your projected longevity than you think. At least, that’s according to adjunct professor of physical therapy at Touro University and physical therapist, Theresa Marko, who said our glutes are key for living independently as we age.

“Do you want to get off the subway? Do you want to get off the toilet?” she asked the New York Times.

If so, she suggested, it’s time to strengthen your posterior.

The professor’s not alone. One study showed that glute exercises strengthened the hips of postmenopausal women, who are at greater risk of hip fracture.

Another found that glute atrophy and size were linked to things like ageing, lifestyle, frailty, osteoporosis and type 2 diabetes risk.

Stronger glutes have also been linked to a lower risk of falling and better cognitive function among older people, while doctors warn that a weak bum – nicknamed “dead butt syndrome” – can “grow into some serious health issues that affect your ability to move”.

You probably know the term “glutes” refers to some area around the backside.

But it’s actually a group of muscles, which include, from biggest to smallest:

• Gluteus maximus,
• Gluteus medius,
• Gluteus minimus.

They help us to stand up, walk, stay balanced, sit down, stand up, lift our legs, support our weight, run, jump, and hold the bones of our hips together (phew).

Generally, the gluteus maximus, which is the biggest muscle in our body, helps to push us forward, and the gluteus medius and minimus move our thighs.

If you want to climb the stairs, get out of your seat, reduce your risk of falling, and keep general sarcopenia at bay, working them out is a great idea.

It might feel like walking and running, both of which are obviously leg-centric, are the obvious answers here. And it is true that they definitely beat sitting, too much of which is disastrous for your glutes.

But some runners get dead butt syndrome, because though the activity is great for the heart, it doesn’t always build much muscle.

In general, strength training is great for ageing bodies (in fact, scratch the “ageing” part: we begin to lose muscle mass starting about 30). It has been linked to up to four years of extra life, better bone health, a reduced risk of heart attack, and maybe even lower dementia risk.

That’s because strength training, especially when you increase the weights as you go along (progressive overload), can strengthen and build muscle. And you should use them on your bottom, too.

• Hip thrusts,
• Clamshells,
• Reverse lunges,
• Bulgarian split squats,
• Back squats,
• Deadlifts,
• Hip abduction machines,
• Step-ups,
• Donkey kicks,
• Glute bridges,
• Glute kickbacks.

Zack Polanski has apologised for sharing an online post criticising the police response to the Golders Green terror attack.

Shilome Rand, 34, and Moshe Shine, 76, were left seriously injured in what police have described as a terrorist incident in north west London, on Wednesday.

The Green Party leader shared a post the following day on X which accused police officers of “repeatedly and violently kicking a mentally ill man in the head when he was already incapacitated by Taser”.

The repost triggered major backlash, including from the usually impartial head of the Metropolitan police, commissioner Sir Mark Rowley who said Polanski’s words were “inaccurate and misinformed”.

In a statement on Friday, Polanski apologised for “sharing a tweet in haste” saying that social media was not the “appropriate channel” for commenting on police action.

His statement read: “Everyone in leadership has a responsibility for lowering the temperature at a time of such tension, and I apologise for sharing a tweet in haste.

“Police responses to emergency situations such as these do need later reflection in the right forums, but I accept that social media is not the appropriate channel for doing so.

“I have invited Mark Rowley to meet with me to discuss the police response and the wider issues raised in his letter.”

Speaking to the Today programme on BBC Radio 4, prime minister Keir Starmer also hit out at Polanski’s “disgraceful” remarks while expressing sympathy for the officers involved.

Recalling his conversation with the officers who were on the scene, Starmer said: “I won’t put words into their mouth, but I want everybody just to imagine what it might be like.

“You’re trying to arrest someone who has already attacked two people and has no regard for life. We know that tasers were fired. I know from my own experience with the police, that there are only two shots in a taser, and once you’ve shot them, there’s nothing left.

“There’s a guy on the ground, he’s got a rucksack on. And I don’t know what was going through the mind of those officers, but if I was there, I’d be thinking, he’s going to detonate something. He’s going to blow me up and everybody around here.

“In those circumstances, I think you can quite see why what could have gone through their mind is, we need to do whatever we can to disable this guy.”

Starmer said: “Now, when I then see Zack Polanski come out and retweet or support a criticism of that, I think it’s disgraceful… He’s not fit to lead any political party.”

The PM’s full interview can be heard on BBC Radio 4 and on BBC Sounds from Saturday, at 8.10am.

Polanski was criticised by the Green Party’s leader in Wales, Anthony Slaughter, on Thursday, too.

Speaking to LBC prior to Polanski’s apology, Slaughter said: “I was made aware of this on the way here, just shortly beforehand. I haven’t seen the tweet. I understand, as you say, Zack retweeted a tweet that it does seem, from what I’ve read, was inappropriate to retweet.

“I know that Zack and his other colleagues in the London Assembly do work closely with the Met Police, so there will be discussions afterwards to see what went wrong and how this can be better handled in future”.

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As soon as the sun comes out, kids want to run, splash, and frolic around outside – it’s only natural.

And while it’s far easier to keep them occupied when there’s exploring to be done, the one inevitable struggle is finding a sun cream that they’ll let you apply, let alone one that doesn’t break them out in a horrible rash.

Then there’s the sun protection factor to think about, and whether they’ll be able to splash around without getting horribly burnt. It’s a minefield!

To save you from having to deal with weeks of scratching and spending unfathomable amounts of money testing different formulas out, we’ve asked a paediatric dermatologist how to choose a kids’ sunscreen, and found 11 of the best to shop now.

There are plenty of budget options for kids’ sunscreen on the market. And while you might think the only important factor is whether or not they burn, there is actually a lot that goes into making a good kids’ sunscreen.

Whether you’re looking for a sensitive-skin specific lotion, or one that’ll endure countless trips in the pool, Dr Bisola Laguda, paediatric dermatologist and spokesperson for the Skin Health Alliance shares what to look for in a kids’ sunscreen.

“When picking a sunscreen, the Skin Health Alliance recommends picking one with an SPF of 50+,” he says. “A factor this high helps counteract UVB (the rays that cause burning) most effectively.”

“Look for sunscreens that have ‘broad spectrum’ protection,” Laguda says. “This means that the sunscreen will absorb the UVA rays linked to long-term skin damage. Keep an eye out for the UVA star rating on sunscreen packaging – the more stars, the more protection the product offers.“

However, avoid products with a high UVA star rating and a lower SPF, Laguda notes, as this weakens protection.

Higher SPF and broad spectrum sunscreens can also be good for kids with sensitive skin, he adds: “Their skin reacts more quickly to UV damage and is more susceptible to speedy burning as well as long-term damage.”

“There is no such thing as waterproof sunscreen, but you can find water-resistant options – ideal for children taking a dip in the sea or splashing in an outdoor pool,” Laguda explains.

“These work by creating a hydrophobic barrier that repels water and keeps the sun-protecting ingredients locked behind it. That being said, it’s also important to continually top up on sunscreen after extended periods of swimming or sweating.”

While each child will be different, finding a sunscreen that protects your kiddo from the sun and also takes care of their skin can be tricky. There are certain ingredients to look out for, or avoid, in kids’ sun cream, according to Laguda.

If your kid has sensitive skin, mineral sunscreen is your best bet, Laguda explains.

“The mineral contents – often zinc oxide or titanium dioxide – sit on top of the skin and reflect the UV rays,” he says. “This is often a more preferable option over chemical sunscreens, which penetrate the skin and absorb the rays, leading to potential irritation.“

These can also be good for kids with sensitive skin, Laguda adds. “The immune system can react to the chemical compounds in fragrance as if they were foreign invaders, and trigger a response that sets contact dermatitis symptoms in motion,” he says.

Patch testing a sunscreen can also prevent unwanted reactions, Laguda explains. “Apply the sunscreen to a clean, hidden area – such as the inner elbow or behind the knee – and check for any reactions over the next 24 hours. If any reactions do occur, it’s best to wash the product off immediately but gently.”

With these factors in mind, we’ve found 11 of the best sunscreens for kids to stock up on before summer arrives.

Unfortunately, it’s not enough to whack sunscreen on your little once in the morning and call it a day.

Kids are particularly sensitive to the sun, so we asked Laguda offers top tips on how to protect kids from the sun:

• Clothing: Dressing them in loose-fitting clothing is a great first step, as well as wide-brimmed hats to provide extra coverage for the back of the neck and ears.
• Shade: Finding a shady spot to shield from the UV rays is a great way to still enjoy the benefits of being outdoors while remaining sun safe.
• Reapply: Whether your sunscreen claims to be extended wear or not, you need to reapply throughout the day in two hour intervals for maximum protection.
  There are areas of the skin that are easy to miss, and sunscreen can rub off throughout the day, especially when swimming, sweating, or drying off with a towel.