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People Who ‘Convinced’ Their Partners To Open Their Relationships Share How That Went For Them

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The decision to open up your relationship to others shouldn't be taken lightly, but it doesn't necessarily need to be a scary thing.

For some couples, the most terrifying conversation isn’t “Where is this going?” but “What if we didn’t do this the way everyone else does?”

For people who suggest opening a relationship, the motivation is rarely casual curiosity. It often comes at moments of emotional reckoning. Typically it’s brought up when something feels unsustainable, unspoken or untrue in the relationship. And while non-monogamy is often framed as either getting to have “more sex” or a guaranteed disaster, the reality tends to be far more complex.

Unlike swinging, where sex with others is usually limited to parties and purely physical, or polyamory, where people pursue multiple committed relationships, open relationships fall somewhere in between — allowing sexual freedom while keeping a primary partnership intact.

Research shows open relationships aren’t as uncommon as you might think. About 1 in 5 adults has tried some form of non-monogamy, and surveys suggest younger adults are more open to it than older generations. While only a small percentage are currently in open relationships, growing acceptance and less stigma in media might explain why more people are willing to explore them.

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The decision to open up your relationship to others shouldn't be taken lightly, but it doesn't necessarily need to be a scary thing.

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The decision to open up your relationship to others shouldn’t be taken lightly, but it doesn’t necessarily need to be a scary thing.

Like most relationships, open relationships are not without its challenges — and rewards.

Below, relationship experts and coaches share what really happened when they suggested opening their relationships and what they learned along the way.

‘I thought non-monogamy might save my marriage.’

Clinical sex and relationship expert Courtney Boyer suggested opening her marriage after nearly two decades together.

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“On our 17th wedding anniversary, I was the one who suggested opening our marriage,” she said. “I believed it was the only way to save our marriage.”

From the outside, her life appeared stable. “On paper and online, my marriage looked wonderful,” she explains. But internally, she felt “incredibly empty and unfulfilled,” carrying the emotional labor of her family while “slowly disappearing from my own life.”

At the time, an open relationship felt less like a lifestyle shift and more like survival. “I saw it as a lifeline,” Boyer said. “I wanted to feel wanted, desired and alive in my body again without blowing up my family.”

The decision itself wasn’t immediate. “It was a long, painful conversation that unfolded over six months,” she explains. What ultimately moved things forward wasn’t logic but the visible change her husband noticed in her: “Every time I talked about non-monogamy, I came back to myself in a way I hadn’t in years, and my husband could not deny the light he saw in my eyes when I did.”

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Once the relationship opened, Boyer said, the hope that it would fix everything disappeared. “The fantasy that opening the relationship would fix what was broken fell apart quickly. Instead, everything percolated to the top: resentment, avoidance and emotional distance. Opening didn’t create new problems; it removed the buffers that had kept us from facing the old ones. We could no longer ignore the problems that had led us to where we were.”

She was surprised by the guilt that followed. “Being the one who wanted this, who was dating while my husband wasn’t, triggered so much shame. I also didn’t expect how hard it would be to ask for what I wanted or admit disappointment. Purity culture had taught me to be grateful for crumbs and call it love. My poor relationship with my body also emerged as I began dating and wondering if I was even desirable.”

Over time, their boundaries evolved. “Early on, we relied on distance that gave my husband a sense of safety, predictability and control. He wanted few details and to keep things separate (often referred to as parallel polyamory). Over time, I realised that silence wasn’t safety. Real boundaries required honesty, repair and the willingness to sit with discomfort instead of managing it away.”

“Every time I talked about non-monogamy, I came back to myself in a way I hadn’t in years, and my husband could not deny the light he saw in my eyes when I did.”

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– Courtney Boyer, clinical sex & relationship expert

There were benefits too: “Well, our sex life exploded. The erotic energy I carried from being able to live authentically overflowed into all facets of my life. This allowed me to connect with my desire, my voice, without feeling shame. I stopped seeing myself only through the lens of being chosen or approved of. Even when it was painful, I felt more alive and more honest than I ever had inside monogamy.”

Opening the relationship also clarified her needs and values. “It showed me how deeply I had been conditioned to self-abandon in order to be loved. I learned that I need emotional presence, curiosity and accountability, not just longevity. I also learned that hoping someone will change is not the same as asking for what you need.”

Looking back, Boyer has no regrets, and said she would choose to do it again. “Yes. A million times, yes. Not because it was easy or because it led to a tidy outcome — but because it brought me back to myself. Opening our marriage cracked open the life I had been enduring and forced me to confront who I actually was. Whatever happens next, I’m no longer living inside a cage I mistook for safety. My husband has also completely transformed because he was finally forced to face his own fears. I’m so proud of the life we’ve created and the chapter of life we’re writing.”

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Opening our relationship showed me what was already broken.’

For Ally Iseman, an ICF-certified relationship coach and founder of Passport2Pleasure, the relationship she opened wasn’t a marriage — but it was deeply formative.

“I was two years into an exclusive monogamous relationship,” she said. “I brought it up.”

Her partner traveled often, and the idea of him connecting with others excited her. “What I thought was jealousy I now know to be compersion,” she said, describing joy derived from a partner’s pleasure. “I was wanting to further explore the erotic potential of those feelings in a secure relationship.”

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But while the idea felt expansive to her, the conversations, she said, were lacking: “We had a few surface-level conversations that never went particularly well. We didn’t talk about enough specifics, and we both could have done a much better job trying to understand each other.”

When they finally acted on the agreement, the emotional fallout was immediate. “He had the opportunity to connect with someone else while on a work trip, with my full blessing and excitement. They ended up staying up all night talking. I had an opportunity later on while he was away on another trip. … My partner gave me what he called his ‘green light,’ and I had a wonderful time with my friend.”

When Iseman called to check in afterward, she was met with silence — and then anger. “When I called him after leaving my friend’s place, as we had discussed doing, I was overflowing, filled and bursting with love for my partner, but I was met with dead silence on the phone. And then all he said was, ‘I can’t believe you did it.’ He had some pretty serious anger-management issues already, so it was not a fun conversation, nor were the next few weeks.”

An open relationship can make some partners feel closer, but it can also help reveal cracks you weren't necessarily acknowledging.

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An open relationship can make some partners feel closer, but it can also help reveal cracks you weren’t necessarily acknowledging.

Outside reflection helped clarify boundaries. “We sought counsel from the friends who had introduced us, a monogamous married couple. Their reflection was a HUGE catalyst for me, both enabling me to leave what I now know was an abusive relationship, in order to explore my own needs, desires, and sexual and relational identity. They said that even though they could never open up their own marriage in that way, that I was acting within the agreement we had made together. And because of that, they said my partner didn’t have the right to make me wrong for wanting to explore something we agreed to.”

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The relationship ended a few weeks later. “That initial partnership ended a few weeks after opening up, and it was very much the right thing to do. It did not end because we opened up; we were not compatible, and there were unhealthy emotional patterns as well.”

Today, Iseman has continued exploring consensual non-monogamy. “I feel much more secure knowing what’s going on, even if it makes me feel uncomfortable or hurts. Knowing I’m in a dynamic with someone(s) who are committed to being with me through uncomfortable discussions gives me such a deep sense of security.”

She emphasises the importance of autonomy and choice and how “grounding” it can be to know her relationships are built on all parties choosing to be there, not “obligation.”

“If my partners are interested in being with someone else, they are welcome to be. They don’t need to leave me in order to do so,” she said. “The only reason they would ever have to leave is because either or both of us no longer want to be with each other. Our relationship has nothing to do with what we do or don’t do with others.”

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The UK’s faith communities – ‘don’t silence peaceful protest’

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Leaders from across the UK’s faith spectrum have come together to urge MPs to remove a clause from the Crime and Policing Bill that could shut down lawful, conscience-led protest.

Quakers in Britain coordinated the joint letter. Signatories include Bishop Mike Royal, Rabbi Gabriel Kanter-Webber, Indarjit Singh and 16 other faith and belief leaders. The letter warns that the Bill’s new ‘cumulative disruption’ clause is too vague and too broad.

The clause requires police to consider previous and planned protests in the same area when deciding whether to impose conditions on a demonstration. As the letter states:

It could mean that we are stopped from demonstrating because another protest previously took place in the same area, even if it was on a completely different issue.

The letter comes as the Bill returns to the House of Commons on 14 April. This follows its third reading in the Lords on 25 March.

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The Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, Sikh, and Buddhist leaders say that despite their differences, they share a common commitment to love and justice. Members of all their faith communities follow their conscience to protest peacefully on issues that matter to them, they said.

And they point out that peaceful protest has often involved cumulative action. Campaigns that changed the world, from the suffragettes to communities standing up against fracking, built up through repeated, sustained demonstration.

Their concern resonates widely. The Equality and Human Rights Commission has called the clause too broadly drafted. The UN Special Rapporteur on the Right to Freedom of Peaceful Assembly recently met UK civil society organisations and MPs. And she expressed serious concern about these repressive new laws and the clause on cumulative disruption in particular.

This Bill is the third piece of anti-protest legislation in recent years. The faith leaders’ letter says:

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Peaceful protest motivated by faith, belief and love should be celebrated, not criminalised. We urge the government and MPs to drop the clause on cumulative disruption.

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Iran Lego channel banned as US losing propaganda war

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Iran has proven to be incredibly resilient in their ability to defend themselves against the US and Israel’s war. Their resistance hasn’t been limited to the battlefield either. Surprising many, Iran has deployed wartime propaganda that’s even proving popular with their supposed enemies.

This is no mean feat.

And out of all the propaganda they’ve pumped out, none has been more effective than the Lego videos.

Given the success of this content, it’s unsurprising to see US tech companies closing ranks with the US war machine:

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Iran channel: legone but not forgotten

As al Mayadeen covered, YouTube banned the Explosive Media account on 13 April. YouTube’s given reason was “violent content”. As reported:

The suspension came hours after the group’s latest video, a rap animation linking Trump to the Epstein files, went viral, garnering millions of views.

We’re not sure why YouTube chose to blame “violent content” when they could have said Explosive Media are using:

  1. The Lego company’s intellectual property.
  2. AI (which in most circumstances is dogshit).

Equally, however, there are two clear reasons for allowing the videos:

  1. They’re very, very funny.
  2. They’re allowing global citizens to bond over their hatred of US imperialism.

Marc Owen Jones noted that while YouTube banned Explosive Media, they’ve left more reprehensible accounts standing:

If you want to know how absurd and biased the banning of the anti-US/Israel war Lego AI Youtube channel for violent content is, look at official accounts belonging to the IDF and the Whitehouse across all platforms. It’s literally videos of real people getting blown up.

Clearly, YouTube takes Lego rights more seriously than human rights.

These videos have proven so effective, by the way, that even right-wingers like Tim Dillon are acknowledging that Iran is winning the propaganda war:

In the clip above, Dillon says:

So we’ve lost. There’s nowhere to go. It’s checkmate. We can’t do the things we think we can.

We’re tweeting. We’re Truth Socialing… We’re trying to win the war on social media. And we’re not even doing that because – can you, do you have the Lego thing up? Can you get that Lego video?

We’re not even winning the shit talking war.

We’re not even winning that.

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The shit talk?

You’d think America would win that, at least.

If we’re going to win one thing, we’re getting bodied by Iranian AI in the war of shit talk.

Truly, how embarrassing.

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We’re the country that invented shit talk, and we’re getting lit up.

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The BBC spoke to the creator behind Explosive Media, who described Iran as a “customer”. The piece noted:

The overriding message of these videos is that Iran is resisting what it sees as an almighty global oppressor: the United States.

This isn’t really up for dispute at this point, given that Trump keeps openly threatening countries around the globe, and also threatening to wipe out entire civilisations. We know the BBC is supposed to be impartial, but saying the sky is blue isn’t bias.

The BBC continued:

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The clips are garish and not subtle at all – but that hasn’t put a dent in how vigorously people are sharing and commenting on them.

If the BBC wants sophisticated and subtle, maybe they should resume greenlighting shows like The Thick of It.

The next part was a fair description anyway:

In one of the videos, Donald Trump falls through a whirlwind of “Epstein file” documents as rap lyrics tell us “the secrets are leaking, the pressure is rising”.

In another, George Floyd can be seen under a policeman’s boot as we hear Iran is “standing here for everyone your system ever wronged”.

The next bit was just asinine:

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The videos are also littered with factual inaccuracies – so we ask Mr Explosive about them.

In one clip, the Iranian military is shown capturing a downed US fighter-jet pilot. US officials have confirmed the downed airman – who was stranded in a remote, mountainous region of Iran after his aircraft was shot down – was rescued by US special forces on 4 April.

Oh my gosh! You’re telling me the Lego propaganda video contained factual inaccuracies?

Goodness gracious, does this mean president Trump isn’t actually a 1 inch tall plastic doodad?

Good lord.

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The interesting question to ask is this: why are people in the West so disgusted with their governments that they share the propaganda of their supposed enemies?

The answer is because our Western governments are disgusting, bloodthirsty capitalists.

The BBC are choosing to treat this phenomenon as a ‘fake news’ problem, anyway, rather than as a symptom of an empire in collapse:

Social media platforms have been shutting down accounts with the Lego-style videos, but new ones seem to pop up just as quickly.

Yes, if only we could stop the AI Lego accounts popping up; then the public would just love all the endless genocide.

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So-called ‘cyber warfare expert’ Tine Munk told the BBC:

Traditional diplomacy doesn’t exist here. And it blurs our understanding of what is happening. But it also increases the risk of misinterpretation and escalation.

I don’t know, Tine, I feel like the real risk of escalation comes from Donald Trump and Benjamin Netanyahu constantly escalating the actual war.

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Munk is correct that these accounts keep popping up:

The Americans have worked tirelessly for 80 years to embed a global system of greed and individualism. What that looks like in 2026 is a reality in which the people of the world find novel ways to extract profit from the US’s imperial activity – in this instance through the creation of satirical slop videos.

Recognising that this is all bad doesn’t change the fact that these videos are capturing certain truths. The US is a decadent plastic republic run by a would-be king, and its values are as phony as the videos making fun of it.

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False Widow Hospitalisations: Why They Rose And What To Do

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Expert comment provided by Prof Adam Hart, professor of conservation ecology at the University of Gloucestershire.

In the UK, hospitalisations from false widow spiders reached 100 in 2025.

That’s significantly higher than the figure from a decade before (47 hospitalisations in 2015).

Some have called the false widow spider the UK’s most “dangerous,” though speaking to HuffPost UK, Prof Adam Hart, professor and entomologist, said “serious reactions are rare”.

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We asked him why these numbers are rising, how to spot false widow spiders, and what to do if we see them.

Why are more people getting hospitalised by false widow bites?

False widows are so called because they look like the more dangerous black widow spiders. They were probably introduced to the UK in the 1800s from the Canary Islands.

But their population has been growing here since the 80s, which the expert told us might be why we’re hearing a lot more about their bite.

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“Reports of rising hospitalisations from false widow bites perhaps need a bit of context,” he explained.

“The noble false widow has spread widely across the UK in recent decades, so people are encountering them more often. At the same time, media coverage has raised awareness, meaning more people notice them and are more likely to seek medical advice. That could make the issue seem bigger than it really is.”

Additionally, they stay relatively close to humans: “They tend to live around buildings, in sheds, window frames, and sheltered outdoor spaces.”

That makes contact likelier as their numbers grow.

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Though noble false widow spiders do bite, Prof Hart clarified that this is very rare and, in most cases, relatively harmless.

“Most bites, where they happen at all, are mild, causing local pain and swelling similar to a wasp sting. It’s also worth remembering that, often, suspected ‘spider bites’ turn out to be something else, such as skin infections or insect bites”.

How can I tell if a spider is a false widow?

“False widows are glossy, dark spiders with a rounded abdomen and long legs, often with pale cream markings on the back,” said Prof Hart.

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They are usually 7-14mm in length, and the females are generally bigger than the males.

The Natural History Museum describes the pattern on their bodies as “skull-shaped”.

What do I do if I see a false widow spider?

“If you see one, the best advice is simple: leave it alone. If needed, they can be moved with a glass and card,” Prof Hart told us.

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“If someone is bitten, basic first aid is usually enough: clean the area, apply a cold compress, and keep an eye on it. Seek medical advice if symptoms worsen or don’t improve.”

And remember, if you can, that while false widows are “now a familiar part of UK wildlife… they really pose a very low risk to most people.”

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Listening To ‘Emo’ Music Might Mean You’re Smarter

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A paper published in the Journal of Intelligence has found that people who listen to music with less emotionally positive lyrics appear to have slightly higher levels of projected intelligence.

Scientists tracked the smartphone activity of 185 participants over five months, creating a custom app to check the kinds of music they listened to.

The researchers also asked the people involved to take a test, which measured their fluid reasoning, vocabulary comprehension, and math knowledge. Combined, these gave the study authors a way to measure their cognitive ability.

By the end of the analysis, which involved advanced machine learning tasked with finding links between participants’ music taste and their cognitive test scores, they found “small but reliable associations”.

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Lyrics seemed to matter most

The participants listened to 58,247 songs overall.

Speaking to PsyPost, study author Larissa Susst said: “When we looked more closely at how our prediction models worked and which aspects of music listening were most informative, one finding surprised us.

“The lyrics of the songs people listened to were more useful for predicting cognitive ability than the musical features… In other words, the themes and language used in the lyrics seemed to matter more than aspects like tempo or musical key.”

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She added that this finding went against previous research, which suggested genre might be a better predictor of predicted intelligence.

While the difference wasn’t huge, lyrics with a “less positive emotional tone” were more strongly linked to higher intelligence in this study. The study authors point out that other papers have linked this to introspection and self-reflection.

And songs whose lyrics focused on the present, those which seemed honest, and those which related to home were also associated with higher cognitive ability.

Those who liked lyrics with more social words and less certain language were likelier to have lower cognitive scores, meanwhile.

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Bear in mind, though, that the paper said their “predictive performance was modest”, and that the variance in predicted intelligence was relatively small.

Live vs studio-recorded music may matter too

Another surprising finding was that those who listened to studio-recorded music tended to have higher cognitive scores than people who listened to live recordings.

Listening to more music, and lyrics not in German (this was a German study), was also associated with higher cognitive scores.

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“In our study, patterns in people’s music listening contained small but detectable signals related to their cognitive ability, suggesting that the digital traces we leave behind in daily life could potentially help approximate intelligence,” Sust said.

But the differences were so small that she cautioned, “On their own, these effects are therefore likely not strong enough to be practically useful,” and were more likely to become “meaningful if combined with many other types of behavioural data”.

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Justin Bieber’s Coachella Performance Continues To Stir Up Controversy

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Undoubtedly the biggest story from this year’s Coachella surrounds Justin Bieber and his polarising performance.

Late on Saturday night, The Biebs took to the stage in the California desert for his first of two headlining slots at the iconic music festival, the second of which is due to take place later this week.

While the first half of his set was mostly devoted to tracks from his 2025 album Swag (and its poppier follow-up, Swag II) with stripped-back staging, echoing his performance at the Grammys earlier in the year, the second part is what has really got people talking.

Much has been made about the fact that this section of Justin’s performance saw the chart-topper sitting down to his laptop and pulling up songs from the early years of his career on YouTube, alongside old clips of himself and an assortment of other random viral videos he’s enjoyed over the years.

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Since Saturday, there’s been a lot of debate on social media about whether or not fans got their money’s worth from Justin’s stripped-back show, particularly in light of reports that he’s the highest-paid headliner in Coachella history.

This was the opinion shared in The Guardian’s three-star review, which pointed out that “the double standard for effort for female and male pop headliners is… striking”.

“Depending on your level of fandom, the stripped-down vision, with minimal audience asides, read as either radically vulnerable or disappointingly self-interested from reportedly the highest-paid Coachella headliner of all time,” The Guardian’s reporter opined.

Much of the debate around Justin Bieber's Coachella set is hooked on the double standards for men and women in pop music
Much of the debate around Justin Bieber’s Coachella set is hooked on the double standards for men and women in pop music

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Rolling Stone also agreed that while “plenty of Beliebers” will have left the set feeling “satiated”, the star largely “missed the mark” with his efforts at Coachella.

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However, it should be pointed out that even as headlines about the controversy over Justin’s Coachella show continue to roll in, plenty of critics were quick to praise the show immediately after it ended, with many claiming that there’s “one key point being missed” by his detractors.

This was the line taken in Mamamia’s review, which read: “Critics were baffled as to why a global icon would spend his set scrolling through YouTube like a bored teenager in a bedroom. But that is the point.

“This wasn’t designed to be a high-gloss, choreographed spectacle. We got that from Sabrina Carpenter the night before. This was something else entirely: a walkthrough of his memories. If you expected Justin to simply return to the stage and perform a greatest hits medley, you don’t know him at all.”

A take from a self-professed Belieber published in Vogue also took this stance, pointing out that playing his hits over YouTube “gave the fans what they wanted, in a way that felt cheeky and unserious, which was simply perfect”.

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“This was how all of us original Beliebers first experienced him, surfing YouTube videos in barely 360p,” Vogue’s critic argued. “The concept just worked.”

Mashable’s review was also along these lines, claiming: “Bieber was not just revisiting old clips; he was revisiting the child the internet turned into Justin Bieber.”

It continued: “Many former child stars look back at old footage, and it feels a bit silly or even sad. Here, though, Bieber seemed genuinely at peace with it. He smiled at the videos. He harmonised with his younger self, treating him less like a brand asset and more like someone worth meeting again.”

Justin Bieber will return to Coachella this coming weekend
Justin Bieber will return to Coachella this coming weekend

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Although USA Today praised Justin for creating an intimate environment in a festival setting that felt akin to “chilling at Bieber’s house with him watching videos on YouTube like so many 30-somethings of his generation used to do with their friends”, a piece in Vulture went as far as comparing the show to “performance art”.

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In keeping it simple, and reflecting on his old hits through the portal where he was discovered, the persona of Justin Bieber was reassessed and deconstructed in real time after years of mythos and controversy,” Vulture’s critic claimed.

They then pointed out that by taking fans back through his time in the spotlight – from “heartthrob to millions” to “the world’s punching bag” – the set represented a “career-spanning victory lap and a big step forward in both artistic vision and the performance of self-mockery”.

Vulture’s piece also claimed: “To call his performance lacking in effort is a shallow read.”

“Seeing a baby-faced Bieber on screen at Coachella was a stark reminder of just how long he’s been famous, and while YouTube karaoke felt low-effort compared to a more involved production, it did make for a compelling visual to see the fully grown Bieber sing these songs as his childhood played in the rear view,” The Hollywood Reporter’s own review also claimed, although it went on to claim that the set “became more confounding than profound” as it went on.

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Justin will return to Coachella this coming weekend, alongside fellow headliners Sabrina Carpenter and Karol G.

Back in February, he caused a similar buzz at the Grammys, where he delivered another low-key performance that saw him taking to the stage in just boxers from his own fashion brand.

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How To Find High-Street Furniture From M&S, OKA, And Soho Home In Seconds

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We hope you love the products we recommend! All of them were independently selected by our editors. Just so you know, HuffPost UK may collect a share of sales or other compensation from the links on this page if you decide to shop from them. Oh, and FYI — prices are accurate and items in stock as of time of publication.

You know what it’s like when you’re shopping for furniture. You think you’ve found the best option out there, only to click onto another page and find five more contenders.

Then you click on to Instagram or Pinterest, and lo and behold: another thirty ads showing you another iteration of what you’ve been looking for. Thanks, cookies!

If you’re anything like me, plagued by decision paralysis, it takes months of open tabs, waiting for sales, and constant side-by-side comparison to actually make a purchase.

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That’s speaking as someone who does a lot of shopping (it’s kinda in the job description) and even then, if I can do anything to make the process of furniture shopping easier, that is as big a blessing as I can ask for.

Pinterest has been my saving grace up until now: I love making boards of what I want my space to look like and using its shopping feature to find products.

But even that is flawed: often, the pieces I fall for aren’t even available to ship to the UK, or they come from some dodgy website I’m not willing to risk losing my money to.

So when I came across ShopHomeStyles, I was completely smitten.

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Instead of having to guess what keywords would best describe the armchair I’m currently looking for in my room (I’m not exactly an interiors expert) the platform allows you to upload your inspo photos.

Sourcing from over 100 furniture and homeware brands like M&S, OKA, and Soho Home, the platform then matches the closest products to your inspo or keyword search in seconds.

So you don’t have to keep millions of tabs open, you can like the products you’re into and organise them into collections, making it easy to come back to them later.

Plus, if you’re not sure what style tickles your fancy, the website has its own inspiration page and breaks furniture and decor into easy to browse categories, so you can browse trends and shop by item, or look at what’s new in at your favourite stores, too.

Basically, if you want anything new for your house and want to save on scrolling through the sometimes hundreds of pages on every furniture site you come by, ShopHomeStyles seriously whittles your options down based on what you like.

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The result? Less wasted time scrolling, and a place to curate your own design style for your home.

If I had known about this platform sooner, it could have saved me oodles of time. That armchair I’ve been looking for has been the subject of probably a years’ worth of Pinterest searches.

You see, I’m after a very specific retro Scandi-inspired shape, preferably in pink, red, or baby blue.

At the time of writing this, I have 167 tabs open on Safari on my phone, with various iterations of said chair.

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But after simply uploading some Pinterest inspo photos to ShopHomeStyles, there’s one clear contender for my purchase: this Juno armchair from Graham and Green.

Don’t get me wrong, the price tag is definitely something to work towards. But at least now I can live in peace not having to go back and forth between this option and that.

I’m also shopping for a side table and magazine rack, so I’ve started building a separate collection to find the perfect ones.

While I’m sure I’ll spend as much time deliberating about what to go for in the end, at least my final decision will be based off results from 11 pages on ShopHomeStyle, rather than hundreds, or even thousands.

Honestly, all I can say is: phew.

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NHS privatisation is sky-rocketing under this government

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The government has been continuing the Tory, Lib Dem and New Labour agenda of increased NHS privatisation. And after nearly two years in power, private providers of NHS services have made £1.6bn in profit.

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The Centre for Health and the Public Interest analysed £12bn worth of contracts, which it emphasised are not all of the NHS’ private provision.

The corporations that received those contracts extracted profit that could have been used for 9,178 doctors or 19,428 nurses over the two year period. Another ten thousand doctors for the NHS would also go some way in addressing the striking resident doctors’ concerns.

The new research takes forward a previous study by We Own It, which found the private sector made an average of £10m a week in profit from 2012-2024.

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The Centre for Health and the Public Interest also noted that 131 companies made more than 20% profit from the NHS. Between 8% and 9% are the usual profits for a company.

The study further found that the NHS spent around £2.5bn on companies registered outside the UK or in tax havens.

More and more healthcare privatisation

In January 2025, the prime minister announced he would increase private provision of helath services by 20%. After only his first year in power, NHS privatisation leapt by 10%. If that continues, there will be a 50% increase in privatised NHS services by the end of this parliament.

Some areas have seen much higher increases. In South East London, NHS private provision increased by 71% from July 2024 to July 2025. Other high increases were in Dorset at 51%, along with Cambridgeshire/ Peterborough and Suffolk/ NE Essex at 41% each.

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Successive governments know that making people pay outright for NHS services is very unpopular. So they have been gradually turning healthcare into a vehicle for profit through enabling corporations to provide the services with an NHS badge on them. Instead of making people pay at the point of use, it’s through profit from the healthcare budget and public purse.

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Sofa Club Review: Is This ‘Sofa In A Box’ Brand Worth The Hype?

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The fully assembled sofa

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There are many harsh realities we face as adults: cheese is actually really expensive; the worst person you know is probably being told by their therapist that they’re really reasonable; and that we are doomed to spend the rest of our lives forever trying to find the answer to ‘what’s for dinner?’.

But one I didn’t anticipate is just how difficult it is to buy a sofa.

I’ve spent the last six months renovating a 150 year old flat in Edinburgh and thanks to that being one endless stress, I officially only want to walk the path of least resistance where I can.

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Unfortunately the road to getting a sofa is full of potholes. First of all you’ve got the time element. I don’t have it in me to assemble anything after spending all day stripping walls, replastering and wielding a sledgehammer around my 9-5. Spending hours in a showroom testing out sofas? Not so bloody likely.

Then there’s the logistical nightmare of actually getting the sofa into your home once you’ve made a choice. Some companies have lead times of over six months (something I don’t have the emotional bandwidth for) and when you’ve got a twisty turny stairwell leading to your flat, there’s the worry that it won’t ever actually make it INTO THE HOUSE.

But it turns out there is an incredibly straightforward answer to my couch conundrum – enter one of the UK’s fastest-growing online sofa retailers, Sofa Club.

Offering next day delivery (!!!) on the majority of their sofas, Sofa Club sends you your new seating in boxes. Yup, quite literally, they send you a sofa in a box.

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The site offers over 400 different sofas to choose from but they’re all split into different shape and size categories – so you can get straight to the point without endless scrolling. Moreover, they all come in strictly neutral tones (think stones, greys, browns and sands), meaning there isn’t a living room out there your sofa won’t suit.

It almost sounds too good to be true, right? Well, the good folks at Sofa Club asked me to try out their service for myself to find out. It’s certainly a brave decision to let a frazzled, renovating-overloaded editor pass judgement on your furniture company, so team HuffPost were immediately impressed.

I opted for The Cloud Left Corner Sofa Bed with Chaise Storage – and it was an easy decision that took less than fifteen minutes. Sofa Club has a super interactive site (I was able to click and see what the sofa bed element looked like folded out, as well as the ottoman) with loads of images of each product and the option ‘to view the sofa in your space’ using your phone’s camera.

However, if you’re worried about what the fabric really looks like in person, you can get up to four free swatches delivered to your door the next day. Off white was a sensible choice as someone who at the time was yet to paint their walls, you can’t really go wrong with a neutral.

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Depending on where you are in the UK you can also opt to go to one of Sofa Club’s six showrooms – but I felt completely confident in my choice. Decision fatigue? Gone. Now just to see one, if it really matched the onsite images and two, if the deliverers could actually get it in my home.

Price wise The Cloud is normally £1699 (all three metres of it, she’s a big’un!) – which when you consider the fact that Loaf’s most similar model comes in at £3995, is a fair price point.

True to their word, just 24 hours later my buzzer went, announcing the arrival of my brand new sofa and with a little bit of effort (and impressive pivoting) the two boxes were through the door and plonked in my living room.

Had the room not been covered in a wet undercoat of white paint at the time, the delivery people would have taken the packaging away and assembled it for me.

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Now, despite the renovation I’m doing right now, if there’s one thing I’m categorically useless at, it’s assembling furniture. I am in fact so useless at it , IKEA fears me.

Fortunately The Cloud came in just two pieces (one for each box) and all I had to do was unwrap it, clip the two parts together and screw the feet on. If I can do it, anyone can.

The fully assembled sofa

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The fully assembled sofa

The sofa was firm, but writing this three months on from its arrival (and with it having had many, many bottoms upon it), it’s softened into a delicious middle ground – not so soft I’m sinking, not so firm that I can’t lounge.

The sofa bed element has made me popular with all my guests (no sore backs in the morning here) and I love the fact I can whack all the bedding in the storage ottoman section.

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The verdict? There couldn’t be an easier option when it comes to sofa buying than Sofa Club’s service – if only the rest of the renovation as straightforward.

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‘The West is incapable of defending itself’, with Michael Oren

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