As a middle-aged woman with a pulse, it’s not often I look at Brad Pitt and experience a crushing sense of disappointment.
But this week, I encountered this curious sensation as I read the interview he did with Esquire magazine, in which he revealed that after seven years of sobriety, he has started drinking again.
‘I got back off the wagon,’ he told the magazine. ‘In a more restrained manner. I got overconfident a couple of times went, Yep, nope, not good for me. Not in big quantities.’
The journalist then asked the single most dangerous question you can pose to someone who’s had to quit drinking because of a problematic relationship with alcohol: can you now have a glass of wine?
Oh, sure, it might seem totally innocent if you’re the kind of human who can pour a small amount of rosé out of a bottle then put it back in the fridge door for the rest of the week. But Pitt is clearly not that, admitting that he attended Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, his divorce from Angelina Jolie prompting him to quit the booze in late 2016.
Pitt is, by his own admission, a problem drinker, and asking a problem drinker if they can have the odd glass of wine is a bit like asking someone with a nut allergy if they can occasionally treat themselves to a Snickers bar.
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But to be fair to the interviewer, Pitt also seems to have misunderstood the nature of sobriety and alcoholism.
‘Well … I can have a few [glasses of wine],’ he told the interviewer. ‘But I can’t have a lot. I have to be professional about it.’
And in just a few deluded sentences, I went from fancying Brad Pitt to pitying him. Because in my experience, once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. Being able to abstain from booze for long periods of time doesn’t prove you can drink responsibly, or ‘professionally’, as Pitt refers to it – it just proves that you can’t drink. And in saying otherwise, Pitt is doing some of the most terrible acting of his career.
Perhaps I’m being uncharitable. Maybe Pitt really has pulled off the almost impossible, and taught himself to moderate his alcohol intake after finding himself in a situation where things got so bad, he was forced to remove his ‘drinking privileges’ (his own words).
But in my nine years of sobriety, I’ve not yet met anyone who’s succeeded in doing this.
However, I have seen plenty of people who have relapsed, and tried to convince themselves (and everyone around them) that they’ve got things under control, but they usually crawl back to sobriety with their tail between their legs some time later – if they’re very lucky. Many never make it back, living out their lives in alcoholic misery and squalor.
And this is why I’m so disappointed by 62-year-old Pitt’s public pronouncement. Because he must know, deep down in his soul, how unhelpful such declarations are to a community where denial and delusion aren’t just pitiful – in many cases, they can be deadly.
I know too many alcoholics who have lost everything in their attempts to drink like a normal person. I imagine that, given Pitt has been to a few AA meetings, he has encountered these people too. What message is he now sending out to a world which already misunderstands addiction and alcoholism?
Angelina Jolie filed a lawsuit in which she claimed Pitt threw alcohol over her and their children while on a private jet. Reports say she ‘is not surprised’ her ex-husband is drinking again
When I was in active addiction, I used to see those ‘drink responsibly’ signs on the back of wine bottles and wonder what was wrong with me. I was an alcoholic, of course, but the shame attached to that word was so big I went out of my way to prove it didn’t apply to me. It was only after a series of increasingly dangerous scrapes that I realised it was going to be much easier to simply accept I was one and that I was lucky to be alive by this point.
One of the things you learn, when you finally come to terms with your alcoholism, is that drinking nothing is genuinely easier than trying to only have one or two. Alcohol lights me up like a Christmas tree – once I start, I don’t stop.
There is a truth we all learn, in recovery: that for us, one drink is too many, a thousand is never enough. And this is why I don’t believe a word that Pitt said in his Esquire interview.
After their break-up, Angelina Jolie filed a lawsuit in which she claimed Pitt threw alcohol over her and their children while on a private jet. Though the actor vehemently denies these claims, not a single one of their six children is said to speak to Pitt now, with several of them recently filing to legally remove his surname from theirs.
Reports say Jolie ‘is not surprised’ her ex-husband is drinking again, and suddenly you realise this is not some superficial drama, but a situation involving children that is kind of tragic. Because take away the Hollywood gloss and the magazine covers, and the truth is that Brad Pitt isn’t actually anyone special. He’s just a sad old man in the grip of a relapse.
When perimenopause meets pregnancy…
The world is so unused to seeing women’s bodies that when Anne Hathaway shows off her pregnancy bump, social media starts saying it’s fake.
Anne Hathaway, 43, looked stunning as she showed off her baby bump in Los Angeles this week
I personally love that the 43-year-old actress is displaying her ‘geriatric’ pregnancy for all to see. She clearly couldn’t give a damn what anyone thinks – which is exactly what you’d expect when perimenopause meets pregnancy!
Time you quit social media, Jan
Jan Leeming has got into a spot of bother again after criticising the presenting skills of ITV News’ Charlene White. ‘She has such a condescending style,’ wrote Leeming on X, apparently without irony.
Her remarks come just months after she used the social media site to complain about children being allowed in restaurants. In fact, she seems to spend most of her time online whingeing.
Jane Leeming has now quit X, after receiving abuse for comments she made about ITV News presenter Charlene White
She’s now quit X for a few days due to ‘vile abuse’ she’s received after her Charlene comments. Maybe stay off it for good, Jan. As the old adage goes: if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Why I’m glad I never vaped
Angela Rayner has admitted she can’t quit vaping, as she launches a crackdown on e-cigarette shops. I’m glad I got off cigarettes cold turkey, instead of vaping. Every time I see someone sucking on a piece of bright pink plastic, I realise I narrowly escaped swapping one nasty habit for an even more addictive – not to mention embarrassing – one.
I loved watching the eclipse on holiday with friends in Cornwall, where there was almost 95 per cent coverage. We adults were enchanted, the children less so – they complained it took too long and didn’t look as good as it did in the clips they’d watched on YouTube. Honestly: the youth of today!
No wonder Cornwall hates all these tourists
I wasn’t surprised to read about the couple who caused almost £5,000 worth of damage breaking the safety barriers of a Cornish campsite.
The pair were trying to leave in their VW van at 2am to pick up their teenage children from a nearby festival, despite campsite rules explicitly stating the accommodation would be locked just before midnight to keep campers safe.
Sadly, their entitled behaviour is par for the course down here. In the past few days, I’ve seen families playing loud music and having giant barbecues on the beach, as well as people refusing to clean up after their dogs. No wonder the locals are sick of tourists.
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