“Some days you’re grand, and then out of nowhere it hits like a thunderbolt”
A young man is taking on a mammoth challenge next week to raise money for a men’s mental health charity. Michael Quinn sadly lost his father, Seamus Quinn, only six months ago.
Seamus was a teacher in Loreto Secondary School, Letterkenny and his death caused an outpouring of grief across Derry and Donegal. Michael spoke to Belfast Live about the journey he has faced in the last six months, navigating his own grief.
The Derry man said: “To be honest, I was in the pits of grief from October to January after my daddy’s death. I was struggling to leave the house and couldn’t face the gym because it was too much time alone in my own head.
“Thankfully, I started getting out for short runs with a few friends, which helped me get moving again. After the Belfast Marathon 2025 didn’t go to plan and I collapsed near the finish, I felt like I had unfinished business.
“With encouragement from my friends, Luke and Euan, I decided to sign up again and commit to it properly from the start. Running hasn’t fixed anything – and it never will – but it’s given me a release when I needed it most.”
Michael has decided to run the marathon to raise funds for Men’s Action Network, a local charity supporting men’s mental health.
He said: “I’m raising money for Men’s Action Network (MAN). It’s a valuable charity in Derry that supports men in the community through a wide range of services.
“My daddy used MAN’s services in the past and later went on to support them himself as a trained counsellor.
“MAN plays a crucial role in supporting men across all walks of life. They’re constantly battling to secure funding to keep their programmes and counselling services going.
“A lot of people rely on what they offer. The focus is on mental health and preventing suicide – helping ensure other families don’t have to go through the kind of pain that ours has.”
The loss of Michael’s father shattered the family and wider community to it’s core. Six months on, those feelings of grief and loss are still incredibly raw.
Michael told Belfast Live: “It has been brutal, to be honest. I don’t think people always understand everything that comes after a traumatic loss. Some days you’re grand, and then out of nowhere it hits like a thunderbolt. One of the hardest parts is that life keeps moving on for everyone else, while you feel a bit stuck in the middle of it.
“My father’s death came completely out of the blue, and it’s still very hard to understand. His sudden death has highlighted how quickly situations can escalate and how important it is that people are supported and treated with care and understanding. Charities like Men’s Action Network provide that support when people need it most.
“For anyone facing a similar situation, lean on each other as much as you can and keep talking. Take things easy and be patient with yourself.
“The pain doesn’t fully go away, but over time it can become more manageable. Try to find some sort of release outside the house – whether that’s running, walking, or anything that gives you a bit of space from your thoughts.
“Don’t be afraid to reach out for support, whether that’s through your GP or charities like MAN.”
When Michael previously participated the Belfast marathon, his dad and other family members were there to support him.
For Michael this year, knowing that he will be running carrying the memories of his father makes this race even more important.
He said: “Physically I feel okay. I’m probably not in the best shape I’ve ever been, but the goal this year is simply to get it done.
“I think it’ll be just as much an emotional challenge as a physical one. Last year my whole family, including my Daddy, came to support me and I gave them a bit of a scare when I collapsed near the finish. I remember them coming into the Royal Victoria Hospital and they were very worried, but I had come around by then.
“This year will be tough in a different way – my daddy not being there. It still feels surreal not having him here, especially around moments like this.”
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