Galentine’s Day, inspired by Parks and Recreation, has become a popular celebration for women honouring female friendships with spa days, parties, and creative activities as an alternative to Valentine’s Day
Christie O’Sullivan from Trinity, Florida, has celebrated 21 Valentine’s Days with her husband, but her most memorable one was actually spent with a girlfriend before tying the knot.
The pair took a day off from work, treated themselves to massages, then headed out for cocktails and a slap-up dinner.
“For me, it was 10 out of 10. That whole day was intentional,” said O’Sullivan. She recalls it as empowering “on a day that’s usually filled with pressure to be in a relationship, or sadness because I wasn’t currently in one.”
Galentine’s Day exploded into the mainstream following a 2010 episode of the TV comedy Parks and Recreation that championed female friendships around Valentine’s Day.
Amy Poehler’s character, Leslie Knope, brought her mates together on 13 February. “What’s Galentine’s Day? Oh, it’s only the best day of the year,” said Knope.
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Chela Pappaccioli from Franklin Lakes, New Jersey, has been throwing a Galentine’s Day party at her house for the past three years. She’s got a bartender and a DJ booked, and this year has invited 45 of her closest friends.
So far, 34 have confirmed they’re coming, and she’s putting together goodie bags for her guests to take away. No blokes are allowed “unless the bartender happens to be male.”
The bash may be lavish, but Pappaccioli insists it’s money well spent. “It’s an escape to just be with your girls, be silly, do something fun and just focus on the friendships you’ve created and enjoying each other’s company,” she says.
Liz Momblanco from Berkley, Michigan, who calls herself a “serial hobbyist,” brings her mates along to workshops including cookie and cake decorating, calligraphy and stained glass.
“I enjoy learning something new and having a shared experience,” said Momblanco, who has been to day retreats for women offering activities like floral arranging, yoga or a cold plunge.
Marney Wolf, who operates the retreat company Luna Wolf, says creating space for art and creativity helps build community.
“It bonds you, whether it’s the smallest thing or really deep. You watch these grown women turn into almost like a childlike kindergarten response like, ‘Oh my gosh! Good job! You’re so talented!’ That little lift is the easiest thing to do,” she said.
Wolf makes sure to organise Galentine’s-themed retreats around Valentine’s Day because some women don’t have anyone to spend 14 February with.
“I know it can be a really lonely time for people and I think some take it for granted,” she says.
Pappaccioli said a couple of divorced friends attend her party, and “even if you’re married it can be depressing because your husband may not be doing what you want or your boyfriend may not support you in the way you want,” she says. “It’s nice to know that you don’t need that. You can still celebrate the holiday, but turn it around a little bit and celebrate the relationships you want to.”
Galentine’s Day gatherings can spark new friendships. And dedicating proper time with a mate offers a chance to put the mobile away, dodge distractions and create lasting memories.
O’Sullivan works as a social media strategist for businesses but values that her bestie Valentine’s Day was phone-free.
“We could be fully present – no photos, no texts, no nothing,” she says. “So while that means there’s no actual record of that day occurring, it also means the details became a core memory without it.”
Some mark Galentine’s Day by simply popping out for coffee or playing cards. You might head with a group of female mates to a theatre performance or museum, or enjoy a ramble or a fitness session.
Further suggestions include charity shop browsing, country line dancing, roller skating, karaoke, junk journaling, and treating yourselves to manicures and pedicures.






