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Reuniting With My Childhood Best Friend 20 Years Later

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The author (right) and Regina in the pool in Phoenix in 1978.

“You know the easiest way to burn the most calories, right, girls?”

My best friend’s mom, whom we called Mary Therese, leaned against the doorframe and didn’t wait for an answer.

My 9-year-old eyes shot up from the Monopoly game board.

“You can burn up to 1500,” she continued.

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“Really?” I inquired, the whole idea going mostly over my head, but nevertheless, I was intrigued.

“You should tell your mother,” Mary Therese nudged.

My mother did what other mothers did ― went to Weight Watchers. And she didn’t talk about sex.

Regina grabbed my hand, her eyes wide with horror.

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“Let’s … go swimming.”

The author (right) and Regina in the pool in Phoenix in 1978.

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The author (right) and Regina in the pool in Phoenix in 1978.

Mary Therese was born in 1940 and died in 2022. I just found her funeral card tucked in the back of my underwear drawer.

If Regina was embarrassed about her mom, she didn’t need to be. I thought Mary Therese walked on water, even though she sometimes didn’t get out of bed during the day, and one time she went to the hospital because she’d gotten too sad.

That afternoon at the Monopoly board was in 1978. There was an awesome rhythm to our lives then. It was the middle of a summer filled with Marco Polo, bike rides to Circle K, playing Spit, and trying out the newest gadget on the block ― the microwave. Regina and I took turns spending the night at each other’s houses, oblivious to the idea that accidents could happen and that days that were entirely predictable could, in an afternoon, explode into shards.

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One Saturday, Regina’s dad left to give a flying lesson in his small plane, and he didn’t come back. They crashed into North Mountain, just down the street from our neighborhood.

How could that be? I wondered. We were just playing. We were just feeding peanut butter to Regina’s dog, Rags.

Mary Therese Doyle in 1958.

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Mary Therese Doyle in 1958.

Mary Therese — suddenly a widow at 38 and a little shaky as it was — was left to raise four children under 14 on her own. She decided to move the family to Ohio, and I was devastated as I watched Regina’s bed and dresser and bathing suits and board games being loaded into a moving van.

My childhood was over in an instant. For a year, Regina and I wrote a million letters back and forth.

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Then we didn’t. Years passed.

Two decades later, I was living in Uzbekistan, teaching English and fixing my heart, which had been broken by a divorce. My two-year stint there was almost over and my future was cloudier than when I’d arrived. I had nothing to go home to. I’d burned bridges.

One night after dinner, I saw a bright green line flash across my computer screen.

Ker! It’s me, Regina! Where are you? I moved back to Phoenix. Mary Therese is here too. I’m married and I have a baby. I need a friend!

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Memories blew in like a monsoon. I saw two little girls rollerskating in matching red, white and blue swimsuits in the Mormon church parking lot. I saw them humming songs underwater, attempting “Name That Tune” until they ran out of breath and had to race to the pool’s surface. I saw them playing softball under bright lights ― me as the catcher and Reg on second, hoping to get somebody out on the steal. I don’t think we ever did.

The heart of 9-year-old me tugged in my chest.

Regina was looking for me.

The author (left) and Regina at Disneyland in 1978.

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The author (left) and Regina at Disneyland in 1978.

I started to count the days until we’d be reunited.

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Three months later, I was sweating on the doorstep of the address Regina had sent me.

Do I ring the bell? Will I recognize her? How old is Mary Therese?

A dog barked. Then another dog. I heard a small child. Fumbling. Female voices. Bee Gees on the TV.

Regina swung open the door.

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“Ker!” she exclaimed with a plump little toddler balanced neatly on her hip.

We giggled, looking around, when in sailed Mary Therese, white haired and lovely looking.

“Little Keri Dresser. Now let me get a look at you,” she said.

Wine glasses appeared, and within two minutes, 20 years vanished as we plotted out the next 20 ― which Regina and Mary Therese determined would include a great man for me.

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“Time to start burning calories,” Regina winked. We all laughed.

I blushed under their attentive eyes.

Regina insisted on helping me with reentry into American culture. She patiently drove us around and listened to my complaints about there being too many SUVs and too much to choose from on the store shelves. We celebrated her new pregnancy.

Mary Therese at her favorite restaurant in Cave Creek, Arizona, in 2017.

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Mary Therese at her favorite restaurant in Cave Creek, Arizona, in 2017.

When my savings ran out, I found a job teaching at a small charter school in the desert. I fell in love with the first and second graders. After just two years there, they made me the principal. I was totally overwhelmed.

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I discussed it over wine with Mary Therese and Regina one evening.

“It sounds like you need a good secretary,” Mary Therese said, smiling mischievously. “I’ll do it.”

“Really?” I gulped. Was she up to it? Little charter schools come with their own breed of large problems. Still, I loved Mary Therese, and the thought of her working alongside me was exciting.

When her mom left, Regina sat across from me, face ashen.

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“Are you sure about this, Ker?”

I bit my thumbnail. “To be honest, I could use the support.” I shrugged my shoulders. “I wonder if it’s meant to be.”

Ever practical, Regina rolled her eyes.

A month before school started, Mary Therese showed up sporting beautifully done hair and gorgeous pink lipstick. She arrived early, stayed late, whipped the upside-down filing system into shape and color-coded our crumbling trailer. Mary Therese also tackled forms, answered phone calls, learned state mandates, and comforted worried parents. And that was just the first day.

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I didn’t realize I’d been handed a pro.

She made me feel like I might just be able to do this job.

Mary Therese pretending to surf at Mission Beach in San Diego in 2010.

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Mary Therese pretending to surf at Mission Beach in San Diego in 2010.

I called Regina because I couldn’t hold it in. Before I could say a word, she blurted out, “Oh, God, did she not show up?”

“Shit. Was she dressed?”

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“Looked like a million.”

“She’s amazing!” I told Regina. “She’s having so much fun. Meeting all the families — and then the president of the board walked in — you know, Carolyn —”

“Carolyn deDragonlady?”

There was silence on the other end.

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“Your mother’s a miracle, Reg.”

What does someone say when the person who broke once — who crumbled to dust when you were 9 years old and has spent a lifetime trying to pick up the pieces for you — becomes the strongest one in the room at age 70?

“Phew,” is what Regina said, and then went on to proudly tell me about her mom’s employment at University of Ohio’s medical clinic, one of the leading research and practice institutions during the ’80s. Once Mary Therese had gotten her bearings after Hank’s death, she’d simultaneously served as the clinic’s office manager, director’s secretary, human relations go-to, and staff social worker.

I hung up the phone and lifted my eyes to the water stains and blinking lights in the cracked ceiling above me. All I saw was grace. Mary Therese had given me this huge gift and asked for nothing in return.

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The author (right) and Regina at Mary Therese's funeral.

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The author (right) and Regina at Mary Therese’s funeral.

The rest of the year unfolded in amazing ways. Enrollment grew. The kids were loved by the best school secretary/nurse in the world.

A couple of years later, Mary Therese and I both left school administration. She went traveling. I got married to a man she and Regina manifested.

I don’t pretend to know what the afterlife may hold. All I can say is this: If there is any sense in creation, Mary Therese is decluttering heaven while holding hands tightly with Regina’s dad — never having to let go again. And she’s holding the rest of us steady — with love. And perfect hair and pink lipstick.

Kerith Mickelson is a freelance writer and high school English teacher. When she’s not playing darts and cooking with her three kids and husband, she leads yoga and tai chi classes. On weekends, she coordinates skateboard events for foster kids. She writes about memory, motherhood, illness, and faith, sometimes rooted in Catholic ideas, sometimes Buddhist, sometimes drawing on images of everyday beauty in family and the fragility that comes with loving deeply. Her writing is featured in Notre Dame Magazine and Her View From Home. Her work also earned honorable mention in the 2024 Writer’s Digest Writing Contest in the spiritual writing category. Connect with her on her website.

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Autistic Son’s Quirk In Airport Bathroom Riles Up Stranger

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As my daughter and I stepped out of our respective stalls in the airport bathroom, I saw my son standing in the corner waiting for us, having come in after he had used the men’s room next door. He has a habit of eloping at airports, so I was relieved to see him.

“Love,” I told him. “Thank you for coming in and waiting for us.” The three of us moved to the sink to wash our hands. That’s when things got weird.

My son has high-functioning autism, what used to be called Asperger’s syndrome, now called autism spectrum disorder, level 1 support. When people look at him, they notice nothing different. When they hear him speak, they are often impressed at his verbal comprehension and articulation (indeed, his IQ is very high in this area). His challenges lay in perseverations (obsessions or ruminations), recognising social cues, and having spatial and environmental awareness.

He received his diagnosis at age 7, in March 2020, days before the COVID shutdowns. Suddenly every resource in our small town was unavailable. We started homeschooling and would continue it long after schools reopened. My son loved our home routine, probably because he got to see the family dog whenever he wanted. He’s always had a special connection to animals (music too).

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He’s a seasoned and easy traveler, having taken his first flight at 2 months old, which I’m thankful for. Still, traveling is not without stress. He tends to wander away at airports. Over the years I’ve had several moments of pure fear when I didn’t immediately know where he was. One time, after landing and coming into the airport, he bolted for the bathroom without telling me. Another time he proceeded to try and leave the airport because he didn’t want to wait in the TSA line.

Over the years I’ve accepted that most of the time he lives in another world — his inner dimension. While it’s rich and creative and weird and wonderful, there have been moments where I’ve begged him to live in our world more often, not for my convenience but for his safety. Since, on this day, we were in Los Angeles International Airport, one of the busiest airports in the world, I was on high alert. Because of his relatively young age (11), I didn’t think it was strange that he was in the crowded women’s bathroom with us.

My son also has a fascination with sink and toilet holes. He studies the shape of them, talks about them, wants to see as many of them as he can, both in people’s homes and in public places. It’s always been his way. And, according to him, this particular sink hole in this bathroom at LAX had a unique shape — it was less round and more square than most sink holes.

After retrieving his phone from his pocket, he took a photo of it. That’s when an older woman – one I’d noticed had been watching us – snapped. She was washing her hands in the sink next to where my son was, and I saw her look over at him. She started yelling, “This boy took a picture in the women’s room!” She repeated this loudly for everyone to hear as she dried her hands, as she grabbed her luggage, as she followed us out the door.

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I felt a combination of embarrassment and anger at the scene she was making, trying to call attention to my son’s odd but harmless behaviour. She was still repeating it as we all walked out the door: “He took a picture in the women’s room!” Her posture was menacing and meant to be intimidating.

We separated from her and moved to the side of the hallway to regroup. My son and daughter, not fully comprehending what was happening, stood close to me with their suitcases. Even though we were now a few yards away from her, I could still feel her eyes on us, particularly me. I could sense her judgment for allowing such behaviour from my child. I could tell she was waiting for me to berate my son for taking the photo.

What happened next was horrifying. I did exactly what she wanted me to.

Against my gut feeling, which told me my son was innocent, against my understanding of his diagnosis, against my hard-won advocacy of him at school and with medical providers, against my purported assertiveness with strangers and others who may not be conscious of why he behaves the way he does, I scolded him for his actions. I asked him, not in a friendly way, why he chose to take a photo of the sink, even though I knew exactly why. I told him it was inappropriate and that he knew better, even when I knew it wasn’t true, that he didn’t know. I made sure the woman was within earshot. As I went on, my son looked stunned, confused and hurt.

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The worst part is that I love his innocence, his youthful quirkiness, his sweet naiveté that sometimes comes with autism. And here I was chipping away at that, all because a stranger assumed the worst of him. I was doing the opposite of what I’ve always done.

The woman’s gaze was gone. She had folded herself into the crowd and disappeared. My son, overwhelmed and teary with emotion, bolted toward our departing gate, which fortunately wasn’t far. I took a breath, took my daughter’s hand and followed my son to the gate. It was there, in our seats waiting for the boarding call, that I apologised. I cried. Never in all of motherhood had I felt so low. I told him I was aghast at my behaviour, that I should have stood up for him, that I knew what he had done was innocent. I asked for forgiveness. I told him to take his time. I am perpetually grateful that I got it.

An hour later in the air, I was still brooding, replaying the scene over and over in my head. I found myself looking for the woman, imagining, relishing in what I’d say to her in a raised voice: that she had no right to yell at us, to shame us, to treat my son as though he was a paedophile. That she had been bullying an autistic boy. See that boy over there? Do you know he has autism? You should be ashamed of yourself.

That last thought gave me pause. Would I really disclose his diagnosis? To what end? Is it her business? Would it have made a difference? Would I be hoping to better explain his behaviour or to make her feel bad? And as my children grow older (my daughter also has autism), I find myself regarding their privacy more, wanting to protect them. Because I constantly wonder if the world will be too much for their sensitive souls. Or perhaps they will be too much for the world.

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The diagnosis of “autism” first appeared in 1980 in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the bible for all things psychological, under the category of Pervasive Developmental Disorders. Before then, it was considered to be part of schizophrenia. In 1987, the DSM was revised (as it is every five to seven years), and the criteria for the diagnosis was broadened to include more mild symptoms of autism. That, coupled with improved early screening tools and an increased awareness, have led to a perception of a significant rise in the disorder, though it’s actually that we’ve gotten better at recognising it.

In the latest DSM, it is listed as autism spectrum disorder, typically followed by the level of support needed (1 through 3). My children are both level 1, which include accommodations such as extra time to transition between activities, managing perseverations and inflexibility in routine, and navigating pervasive and narrow interests (such as sink holes).

In the end, I arrived at the conclusion that no, I would choose not to disclose his diagnosis to this angry stranger. She didn’t deserve to know. She didn’t deserve an explanation. In a different setting, where emotions weren’t so charged, I might have a different answer.

With my son’s blessing, I wrote this essay to give voice to the fine line that parents of children with autism walk, the line between advocating for our kids and guarding their privacy, the line between explaining and keeping quiet, the line between supporting a need and excusing behaviour. It’s within these nuances where we live day by day, sometimes hour by hour. Sometimes I don’t get the answer right, but all answers come from a place of care and love.

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For people who may not have or even know children like mine, I wrote this to encourage more empathy in the world. These days it is too easy to rush to conclusions about a child’s behaviour, judge another’s parenting and shame what is not acceptable to us. I encourage everyone to lean into curiosity and compassion as much as possible, know that we are doing the best job we can, and that our children are amazing people.

As my daughter and I stepped out of our respective stalls in the airport bathroom, I saw my son standing in the corner waiting for us, and I was so proud of him. Going forward, I refuse to feel anything else about him — and I’ll make sure he and everyone else know it.

Lorna Rose is a Pacific Northwest writer and speaker. Her writing has been recognised by Pacific Northwest Writers Association and the Oregon Poetry Association, and has appeared in About Place Journal, Jellyfish Review, Painted Bride Quarterly, Writers Resist, and elsewhere. Previously she has written about raising children with autism for Scary Mommy and Motherwell. Currently an MFA candidate at Augsburg University, Lorna is at work on a memoir about going from L.A. party girl to trail worker in rural Alaska. When not wrangling her two children, she fantasises about being interviewed on NPR’s “Fresh Air.” You can find more about her at www.lornarose.com.

This piece was previously published on HuffPost and is being shared again as part of HuffPost Personal’s “Best Of” series.

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Lyrid Meteor Shower 2026: Where, How, And When To See It

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This April is a good month for stargazers. There’s the “planet parade” of Saturn, Mars, Mercury, and Neptune, ending on the 23rd.

And the Lyrid meteor shower, which started on 16 April and will end on the 25th, is set to show us its most dazzling display this week too.

What is the Lyrid meteor shower?

First recorded in 678 BE, the phenomenon includes debris which once followed in the wake of comet C/1861 G1 Thatcher.

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They look from the Earth’s perspective like they’re shooting from the constellation Lyra, right beside the star Vega; hence the name.

It’s not exactly that they’re “shooting” towards from across space, though. We’re passing through the patch of space rubble in our journey around the sun, and we draw in some of the material as we do so.

That means the path of the Earth’s orbit determines the direction the meteors seem to come from.

When they enter our atmosphere, the objects move so fast that they compress the air and heat it, raising their surfaces to 1600°C.

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That leaves them with a bright surface as they burn, which looks like a streak to us.

It’s rare for objects in a meteor shower to make it to the Earth’s ground, as most are too small and burn out too quickly. If they do reach us, though, they become “meteorites”.

When can I see the 2026 Lyrid meteor shower in the UK?

It will end on April 25, but the most dazzling displays are expected on Wednesday, 22 April, when the shower peaks.

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To get the most out of the meteor shower, look at the dark for 20-30 minutes to help your eyes adjust to the light levels (don’t look at your phone during this period!).

The best shows may come after midnight.

Where can I watch the 2026 Lyrid meteor shower in the UK?

While April’s planet parade will be a lot harder to see in the northern hemisphere than it is in the south, the opposite is true of the Lyrid meteor shower.

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If you have access to unobstructed, clear, dark skies, your odds of seeing the event are higher. Beaches, the tops of hills, and fields are all good spots.

How should I watch the 2026 Lyrid meteor shower?

It should be visible to the naked eye.

The longer you look, Space.com noted, the likelier you are to spot something out of this world.

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Nick Robinson Denounces Minister Over Mandelson Scandal

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Nick Robinson monstered a cabinet minister over the Peter Mandelson scandal in an extraordinary live radio clash.

The veteran Today programme presenter told Scottish secretary Douglas Alexander it was “frankly preposterous” to claim Keir Starmer knew nothing about the shamed former peer’s business and personal links before making his the UK’s ambassador to Washington.

Mandelson was sacked after just six months in the role after the full extent of his friendship with convicted paedophile Jeffrey Epstein was revealed.

It emerged last week that he was also failed security vetting, allegedly over his lobbying company’s links to China, but was still cleared to take up the job.

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The prime minister is facing calls to resign over the scandal and will face MPs in the House of Commons on Monday afternoon to explain himself.

On the Today programme, Alexander insisted the PM had done nothing wrong and had in fact been let down by civil servants.

But Robinson told him: “What more did you need to know? We know that Peter Mandelson had business links with China, we know that he had business links with Russia, we know that he had personal links with Jeffrey Epstein.

“And not only do we know it, the prime minister knew it, because we know as a matter of record that Jonathan Powell, the national security adviser, said ‘this appointment process is weirdly rushed’.

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“So why did the prime minister appoint someone without waiting for the vetting?”

Alexander insisted “information was withheld from the prime minister and from other ministers” during the vetting process.

Robinson told him: “To come on the radio and claim that there was any surprise that Peter Mandelson had any links to Jeffrey Epstein, links to China, links to Russia … it is frankly preposterous.”

But the minister said: “The deep vetting process is undertaken specifically to look at information that was not in the public domain.

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“If this process really matters, then I think your listeners will reasonably think why wasn’t the outcome of that deep vetting shared with ministers making their decisions?”

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Bayern Munich continue their dominance of the Bundesliga, claiming their 35th title

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Bayern Munich have clinched the German football league title for the 35th time in their history, with four matches remaining in the season, following a 4-2 home victory over Stuttgart on Sunday 19 April at the Allianz Arena in Matchday 30, thus rounding off a perfect week both domestically and in Europe.

Bayern Munich: winners again

The Bavarian side, who are still in contention for the domestic treble of the league, cup and Champions League, had previously reached the semi-finals of the continental competition after knocking out Real Madrid, thus continuing their strong season on all fronts, whilst also edging closer to the domestic cup final, where they will face Bayer Leverkusen.

With this triumph, Bayern continues its dominance of German football, as this title marks their 13th in the last 14 Bundesliga seasons, with Bayer Leverkusen having broken this run only in the 2023–2024 season.

The team have taken their tally to 79 points at the top of the table, 15 points clear of second-placed Borussia Dortmund, who stumbled to a 2-1 defeat against Hoffenheim in the same round.

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Bayern now face a series of crucial fixtures, taking on Bayer Leverkusen in the Cup semi-final next Wednesday, then Mainz in the league on Saturday, before travelling to France to face Paris Saint-Germain in the first leg of the Champions League semi-final on 28 April, with the return leg scheduled for 6 May.

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9 Signs Your Relationship Isn’t Worth Fighting For

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Sometimes love really isn't enough. And not every relationship is worth saving.

No one said relationships were easy ― even the strongest couples will inevitably hit a few bumps in the road. But your partner shouldn’t be a constant source of stress, hurt feelings or resentment.

So how do you know if your relationship has hit the point of no return? Automatic dealbreakers like abusive behaviour aside, many issues can be worked through with time, commitment and help from a therapist.

But if you’ve tried and tried and things still don’t improve, or if your partner is simply unwilling to do the work, it could be time to move on.

Sometimes love really isn't enough. And not every relationship is worth saving.

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Sometimes love really isn’t enough. And not every relationship is worth saving.

We asked experts to share the signs that a relationship may no longer be worth fighting for. (Note that the advice below is meant to serve as general suggestions. The circumstances of each relationship are different; there’s no one-size-fits-all approach.)

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1. You’re being abused — physically or emotionally.

“If your spouse pushes, shoves, grabs or hits you for any reason, it’s not worth trying to change them. If this is happening on any level, get out NOW. Are they gaslighting you or being emotionally abusive? If your partner tells you that you are imagining any type of abusive behavior or that you are just ‘too sensitive,’ get out. You deserve to be treated with respect. It’s not worth fighting about.” ― Tammy Nelson, a sex therapist in New Haven, Connecticut, and author of The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity

2. You feel like you’re the only one fighting for the relationship.

“I actually don’t think it’s a good idea to be in a relationship if you feel like you are always fighting to remain in it. However, sometimes it does make sense to try very hard for a period of time to get through a rough patch and move on. If you’re always the one putting in effort and your partner shows minimal effort, that is a sign that it’s not worth fighting for. If you are embarrassed to tell people about the amount of effort you have to put into the relationship to keep it going, that is a sign that you may have exceeded an appropriate amount of effort.” ― Marie Land, a psychologist in Washington, D.C.

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3. Your partner refuses to seek help for personal issues or problems within the relationship.

“It takes much caring and courage to be vulnerable enough to reach out for help. We all need it sometimes. If you’re consistently feeling miserable in the relationship and your partner is unwilling to accept help, whether it’s couples counseling or addressing an addiction that is damaging the relationship, it may be time to consider leaving.” ― John Amodeo, marriage and family therapist in San Francisco and author of Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships

4. You can’t stand kissing your partner.

“Yes, this feeling can come and go. Sometimes you like to kiss, other times you don’t even want your partner’s face anywhere near yours. But if your mouth is telling you that you really cannot stand to kiss your partner anymore and that feeling doesn’t change over time, it might be over.” ― Nelson

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5. Your close friends have serious doubts about the relationship.

“Who is the person that sees your relationship most clearly? The research shows that your friends actually have more insight into the state of the relationship than you do, particularly female best friends. If they’re starting to express concerns, it can reveal underlying issues that you may not be aware of yourself.” ― Gary Lewandowski, professor of psychology at Monmouth University in New Jersey and co-creator of ScienceOfRelationships.com

6. Your partner isn’t reliable.

“I’ve been married 30 years, and here is why I have fought for my marriage during challenging times: My husband is trustworthy and reliable. A reason to leave is when the trust is irrevocably broken — by lies about money spent, adultery or repeated emotional and physical abuse. You deserve someone you can unfailingly count on. To me, reliability is the sexiest quality you can hope for — a quality that is essential in an intimate partnership, as we live in a shaky and inconsistent world.” ― Iris Krasnow, author of Surrendering to Marriage and The Secret Lives of Wives

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7. You or your partner has had multiple affairs.

“Are you using infidelity as a ‘can opener’? Be fair. End your relationship now. Don’t make your partner responsible for your ambivalence.” ― Nelson

8. You’ve stopped making progress in other areas of your life because of the relationship.

“If your relationship has taken up so much emotional energy and attention that it has prevented you from moving forward with other goals such as a career, family and friendships, that’s a sign that your relationship may not be worth fighting for. Some sacrifice is fine but the cost should be minimal and not impact your progress in other areas for an extended period of time.” ― Land

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9. Your partner routinely dismisses your concerns.

“It’s not an encouraging sign if your partner is unwilling or unable to hear your feelings, your hurt and pain and take it to heart. If your feelings and needs (for respect, kindness, communication) are coldly and consistently dismissed, if stonewalling and defensiveness are creating an impenetrable barrier, it may leave you feeling lonely, angry, or depressed, and maybe hopeless about the relationship.”Amodeo

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Olivia Colman’s Heartstopper Character Recast With Anna Maxwell Martin Taking Over

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Joe Locke and Kit Connor share a kiss as Charlie and Nick in Heartstopper

Olivia Colman’s character in Heartstopper will be played by a different actor in the show’s upcoming film.

The Oscar winner received widespread praise for her portrayal of Nick’s mum, Sarah Nelson, in the first two seasons of the Netflix teen drama.

However, in its third iteration, Olivia was unable to appear, with Hayley Atwell instead appearing as Nick’s aunt, who served a maternal role in his life for these episodes.

Over the weekend, it was confirmed that in the forthcoming movie Heartstopper Forever, the character of Sarah has been completely recast due to Olivia’s unavailability.

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In her absence, the role will now be played by Line Of Duty and Motherland star Anna Maxwell Martin.

Heartstopper creator Alice Oseman told Netflix’s Tudum: “When beginning to work on the Heartstopper Forever screenplay, I knew how important it was that Sarah, Nick’s mum, appeared in the story.

“Since season one, we have seen how close Nick is with his mum; she’s one of the few people he can turn to in moments of crisis. While in season three, we were able to tweak the story to avoid any appearance of Sarah, it felt nonsensical for her to be absent from this final chapter, given some of the emotional struggles Nick faces.”

They continued: “Sadly, Olivia Colman was not able to join us for the film, so we made the very difficult decision to recast the role, rather than exclude the character. We are deeply grateful for Olivia’s beautiful performance as Sarah in seasons one and two of Heartstopper, through such iconic moments as Nick coming out as bisexual, and we know that her performance will live on in the hearts of every Heartstopper fan.

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“We are overjoyed to welcome the incredible Anna Maxwell Martin into the role of Sarah for Heartstopper Forever. Anna perfectly embodies Sarah’s gentle, down-to-earth energy, and it was magical to witness her scenes with Kit Connor during the film shoot. I can’t wait for Heartstopper fans to experience her interpretation of Sarah Nelson.”

Joe Locke and Kit Connor share a kiss as Charlie and Nick in Heartstopper
Joe Locke and Kit Connor share a kiss as Charlie and Nick in Heartstopper

Heartstopper Forever will premiere on Netflix later this year, and serve as the final outing for Nick and Charlie, played by Kit Connor and Joe Locke.

As well as the usual returning cast members, including Yasmin Finney and Will Gao, it’s been confirmed that Bafta winner Derek Jacobi will also be playing a new character in the film.

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Adam Thomas Addresses David Haye I’m A Celebrity South Africa Row

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I’m A Celebrity campmate Adam Thomas has spoken out about feeling “pushed to my limits” by co-star David Haye during their stint on the reality show’s All Stars special.

Adam and David were among the famous faces who took part in the second season of I’m A Celebrity: South Africa, which was filmed last year and is currently airing on ITV1.

Over the course of the series, the retired pro boxer has generated a whole lot of controversy for his overzealous approach to the game, his treatment of his fellow contestants and his comments about his girlfriend, Sian Osborne.

In the most recent instalment on Friday night, viewers saw David lambasting Adam for sitting out a Bushtucker Trial on medical grounds, after a flare-up of his psoriatic arthritis.

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During the episode, David branded Adam “useless”, claiming that as a “grown-arse man” he should have taken part in the challenge.

The pair then clashed again when Adam sneaking chocolate into the camp for the team to share resulted in them losing out on food later on, which David had earned during that day’s trial.

Adam then offered to have less of the rations than his campmates, which David branded a “hollow gesture”.

On Sunday, the Emmerdale star posted a picture of himself in the I’m A Celebrity: South Africa camp, admitting that the “picture breaks my heart, as I know on the inside what I was dealing with”.

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“Truth be told, I thought it was all my fault,” he said. “I now know that’s not the reality…”

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Adam wrote: “My time in I’m a Celebrity South Africa was one of the toughest things I’ve ever been through, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Watching it back hasn’t been easy at all.

“There were moments I felt pushed to my absolute limit, and if I’m honest, times I didn’t even recognise myself. Living with arthritis is something I don’t really talk about, as much as I should do… but in there it really took its toll.

“My biggest fight was pretending to put on a brave face and trying to hide the pain! That can be exhausting within itself. There were days my body just didn’t want to keep going, but I did. I won’t sit here and say I handled everything perfectly, because I didn’t.

“I wish I spoke up for myself sooner. I wish I stood my ground instead of trying to keep the peace, but I’ve learned that being kind doesn’t mean being weak, and sometimes it takes going through tough moments to find your voice.”

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He continued: “Since coming out, I’ve taken time to process everything, and I’m in a much better place now. I let go of the anger, had the conversations I needed to have, and chose peace.

“What I’m most proud of, is at times like this I wanted to walk, I wanted to quit but I didn’t. Even when I wanted to walk away, even when it felt like too much, I never give up! and that means everything to me.”

Adam added: “He broke me in there, he pushed me to my limits, and I’ve told David this and he’s apologised and that’s that! I’ve moved on now, am not one to hold a grudge.

“But thank you for all your lovely messages and all the kind words. We all face people and situations that try to break us, but sometimes those moments are what rebuild you stronger than ever. Be kind.”

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Even hosts Ant and Dec have spoken out about David’s conduct on the current series of I’m A Celebrity: South Africa, suggesting that his conduct has “crossed the line from banter”.

Because the All Star run was pre-recorded, I’m A Celebrity viewers won’t have any say in who stays and goes until the live final, when fans will be able to crown their champion via public vote.

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The case for a UK-EU resilience partnership

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Jannike Wachowiak makes the case for a UK-EU resilience partnership as a way to both help the two sides be better prepared and able to respond to certain crises and to provide much needed impetus to the UK-EU reset. 

The first post-Brexit UK-EU summit, held in 2025, provided a roadmap of measures intended to soften the edges of the Brexit deal negotiated by Boris Johnson. The second is pencilled in for the summer, and its primary function is clear: to get ongoing talks on agrifood-trade, emission trading and a youth experience scheme over the line. Yet a summit that merely deals with outstanding business is one that is not doing its job. As well as closing negotiations already underway, it is important, not least to maintain a sense of momentum about the UK-EU ‘reset’, to lock the two sides into a continuing process.

Absent new ideas, it will be hard to avoid the impression that the reset is beginning to run out of steam. Various ideas have been suggested – ranging from the UK joining Creative Europe to a UK-EU Industrial Cooperation Council – that would build on the Common Understanding without crossing red lines.

Another idea that would fit the bill, and which has received precious little attention, is the possibility of forming a UK-EU ‘resilience partnership’ to ensure both sides are better prepared and able to respond to certain crises.

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Pandemics, wars and climate emergencies like floods, wildfires and severe storms are increasingly common, and cannot be contained in one country. These externalities create precisely the kind of rationale that underpins cooperation among neighbours. What is more, the effects of these crises are increasingly visible to citizens. In 2025, Portugal and Spain experienced the worst wildfires since records began, and across England 6.3 million properties are based in areas at risk of flooding. And most of us have first-hand experience of a global pandemic. This should make crisis preparedness and response an uncontroversial area for cooperation.

And there is a global dimension to this. The Trump administration is pulling the US out of the multilateral global health and climate security systems, with significant cuts to domestic and international crisis prevention programmes. On the day of his inauguration, President Trump ordered the US’ withdrawal from the World Health Organisation, and a year later he announced the US would withdraw from another 66 international organisations, treaties and agencies, many of which are climate-related. This creates a clear need for Europeans to fill the vacuum bilaterally and globally.

Part of the response could be a ‘Resilience Partnership’ to enhance collective resilience and preparedness. This could have several components. The two sides might want to set up a dedicated ‘Health and Climate Security Dialogue ‘to both share information and explore how to build on existing cooperation, including the UK’s association to the EU’s Critical Medicines Alliances and medical research and innovation under the Horizon Programme.

The UK-EU Security and Defence Partnership from May 2025 encourages closer cooperation in these areas, but without going into specifics. The EU and Canada are already a step ahead, with a dedicated ‘Health Dialogue’ set up in 2021, and the promise of a ‘Climate Security Dialogue’ to share climate data and analysis. Given the global dimension, there could be an incentive to create links between the EU’s various dialogues with like-minded partners.

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A dedicated EU-UK dialogue could be a launching pad for more formalised ties. For instance to consider whether to include the UK in the activities of the European Climate and Health Observatory. The observatory was set up in 2021, is managed by the Commission and European Environment Agency, and supports 38 members and cooperating countries in preparing for and adapting to the impacts of climate change on human health.

Another possibility would be UK association to the EU Civil Protection Programme. This helps to mobilise resources (like response teams and equipment) and knowledge to support countries affected by war and natural disasters. The largest operation to date has been in support of Ukraine, and the mechanism has also recently been used to coordinate consular support for citizens stranded in the Middle East.

The UK used to be an active and reliable member of the Civil Protection Programme and contributed to 14 emergency operations between 2014 and 2020. Post-Brexit, it could seek association. The programme is open to non-EU member states and includes ten participating countries ranging from Moldova to Norway to Ukraine.

Exploring a ‘Resilience Partnership’ along those lines would an easy win. It would give renewed impetus to the bilateral relationship and make it clear that the reset is ongoing. For the UK, it fits into the government’s preference for incremental progress and does not cross its red lines. For the EU, ‘resilience’ is one of four areas which it wants to see strengthened in its relations vis-à-vis the UK (as outlined in the Commission’s 2024-2029 political guidelines).

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For both sides, it would be a pragmatic step forward which could be easily sold to the public. Last but not least, it would further build trust and provide a sense of solidarity which could help pave the ground for other steps further down the line.

By Jannike Wachowiak, Research Associate, UK in a Changing Europe.

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Prime Minister Keir Starmer Faces Make Or Break Commons Test

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Keir Starmer will battle to save his job as he faces MPs amid calls for him to resign over the Peter Mandelson vetting scandal.

A Labour peer is among those demanding the prime minister quit after it was revealed the shamed former US ambassador failed security vetting before taking up the plumb diplomatic role.

Starmer said he was “furious” that he was not told that Olly Robbins, the top civil servant in the Foreign Office, had ultimately cleared Mandelson to carry out the job.

The PM only found out last Tuesday – and Robbins was sacked on Thursday night.

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Starmer has been accused of lying to parliament and the public for previously stating that all of the appropriate vetting processes had been followed before Mandelson was appointed.

He will make a Commons statement on Monday before facing questions from MPs about what he knew and when.

Supporters of Olly Robbins have insisted he was legally precluded from telling the PM that Mandelson had failed the security vetting, but that has been denied by Downing Street.

“No law stops civil servants sensibly flagging UK Security Vetting recommendations, while rightly protecting detailed sensitive vetting information, to allow Ministers to make judgements on appointments or on explaining matters to Parliament,” the government said.

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Scottish secretary Douglas Alexander told Sky News: “There are rightfully and reasonably important questions that need to be answered today. Keir Starmer’s going to set out all the facts. The right place for those questions to be answered are at the despatch box in the House of Commons.

“But we saw the leader of the opposition, as recently as Friday, claiming that the prime minister lied.

“That central contention that he wilfully and intentionally misled parliament and the public now relies, given what has emerged since then, relies on what would need to be a growing conspiracy, not just of every minister involved in this process, but of a growing list of civil servants.

“These judgments matter, and in that sense people need to reach a judgment in the round. The right place to do that’s in the House of Commons this afternoon, and the prime minister will set out his case.”

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Louis Tomlinson Unfollows Zayn Malik On Instagram Amid Altercation Reports

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Louis Tomlinson appears to have severed ties with his former One Direction bandmate Zayn Malik amid reports of a physical altercation between the two of them.

In October last year, it was reported that Louis and Zayn – whose tumultuous relationship is well-documented – were planning on putting their differences aside and filming a new three-part travelogue series for Netflix, which would see them travelling across America together while trying to mend their friendship.

However, over the weekend, The Sun reported that Netflix had “axed” the series after Zayn allegedly punched Louis during a heated row.

Zayn Malik and Louis Tomlinson began shooting their documentary last year
Zayn Malik and Louis Tomlinson began shooting their documentary last year

The tabloid claimed that the punch came after Zayn made a comment about Louis’ late mum, Johannah Deakin, who died of leukaemia in December 2016.

Louis previously disclosed that it had been among his mum’s dying wishes for him to reconcile with Zayn, with whom he’d been close during their time in One Direction, but fell out when the Pillowtalk singer quit the band at the height of their fame.

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HuffPost UK has contacted reps for Louis, Zayn and Netflix for comment.

While neither party has commented publicly on the reports yet, fans have spotted that Louis has now unfollowed Zayn on Instagram, as have his sisters.

Director Nicola B Marsh also reshared a photo of The Sun’s front page about the alleged altercation on her Instagram story, commenting: “There goes the last year of work.”

An official press release for the documentary claimed that it would have seen Louis and Zayn taking part in a road trip of “reconnection, exploration and a lot of laughter”, with Variety reporting that it would feature “intimate conversations about life, love, loss and fatherhood”.

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Louis and Zayn were bandmates for around five years, being put into a boyband with Harry Styles, Niall Horan and the late Liam Payne after auditioning for the talent show The X Factor as solo performers.

Zayn left 1D in 2015, after which the band remained together as a four-piece for one final album, before going their separate ways the following year.

Before filming got underway on their travel series, Louis and Zayn had last been seen together at the funeral of Liam Payne in 2024.

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