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Callum Murphy and Alex Brookes: The Chagos deal is collapsing in plain sight because it was rushed, opaque and unsound
Callum Murphy is Director of Campaigns and Alex Brookes Director of External Affairs & Engagement at Conservative Friends of Overseas Territories (CFOT)
So, for the second time, President Trump has publicly warned Keir Starmer against pressing ahead with Labour’s reckless Chagos deal.
This was not an off-the-cuff remark or a misunderstanding. It was a deliberate intervention, later confirmed by the President’s own press secretary, making clear that he does not believe this is a good deal for Britain, the United States, or allied security.
That matters.
Because while Labour ministers cling desperately to selective briefings suggesting the United States Department of State is “content”, the President of the United States is saying something very different. And when it comes to Diego Garcia, it is presidential authority – not diplomatic mood music – that ultimately determines whether American confidence exists.
This widening gap between the White House and Downing Street exposes the central weakness of Labour’s entire approach. Starmer is attempting to force through a permanent surrender of British sovereign territory, on a brittle lease-back arrangement, without secure American buy-in. That is not statecraft. It is strategic negligence.
Some in Westminster will try to dismiss Trump’s remarks as theatre – part of a broader pattern of disruption, or a “Greenland-style” negotiating ploy. That analysis does not stand up.
Unlike past rhetorical gambits, this intervention was specific, repeated, and focused on a concrete vulnerability: the risk that the lease underpinning Diego Garcia could fail. That concern goes to the heart of the deal. If sovereignty is surrendered and the lease later collapses – through political pressure, legal challenge, or a change of government in Mauritius – Britain and its allies would have no guaranteed right to operate from one of the most strategically important military bases in the world.
That is precisely why successive UK governments, of all political colours, have maintained sovereignty over the British Indian Ocean Territory. Labour’s decision to abandon that principle is not compelled by law. It is a political choice – and a reckless one.
The Prime Minister now finds himself exposed. Labour’s strategy relied on rushing the deal, obscuring its true cost, and presenting American acquiescence as a fait accompli. Trump’s intervention has blown that apart.
The Government may say it will “pause for thought”, but the reality is closer to panic. Without American confidence, this deal cannot proceed. And with time running out in the parliamentary calendar, Labour is rapidly losing its ability to bounce this through the Commons before scrutiny catches up.
This is not just embarrassing. It is destabilising. Allies do not appreciate being presented with irreversible faits accomplis on matters of shared security. By surrendering sovereignty first and attempting to tidy up the US position later, Labour has inverted the basic logic of alliance management.
Even leaving aside the diplomatic chaos, the substance of the deal remains indefensible. Conservatives have already exposed, through Freedom of Information requests, that the real cost of this agreement is close to £35 billion – nearly ten times higher than the figure initially floated by Labour. That is £35 billion to give up British territory, dissolve the British Indian Ocean Territory, and fund what amounts to a long-term subsidy to the Mauritian state.
At a time when British families are being squeezed at home, Labour is preparing to send billions of pounds abroad – money that will account for over four per cent of the Mauritian government’s entire budget. British taxpayers will, in effect, be subsidising tax cuts overseas while facing tax rises at home.
No serious government would describe that as value for money.
Diego Garcia is not an abstract diplomatic token. It is a linchpin of Western defence architecture in the Indo-Pacific. Mauritius, meanwhile, has openly deepened cooperation with China, announced closer links with Russia, and welcomed Iranian diplomatic support for its sovereignty claims.
Labour’s deal creates a structural vulnerability at the heart of this arrangement. A lease is only as strong as the political will behind it. Surrender sovereignty, and Britain gives up its ultimate safeguard.
That is why the 1966 UK-US treaty matters. It states unambiguously that the territory “shall remain under United Kingdom sovereignty”. That treaty has not been amended. Ministers admit discussions are merely “ongoing”. Proceeding regardless risks placing the UK in breach of its international obligations – and Parliament has yet to properly scrutinise any proposed amendment under the Constitutional Reform and Governance Act.
Overlaying this diplomatic drift is the unanswered questions of the process – specifically the role of Jonathan Powell in the negotiations. Freedom of Information material acquired by CFOT shows FCDO officials circulating Chagos-related briefings to Powell in August 2024, before his formal appointment as negotiator on 6 September 2024 (the date which the Government informed Parliament he officially commenced the role), including press reports and read outs from meetings between the Prime Ministers of the UK and Mauritius. Powell was also briefed by FCDO officials during August 2024. This timeline alone raises obvious concerns about authority, vetting, clearance, and accountability.
Now with the Bill being delayed after President Trump’s renewed attack, those questions become even more acute. If the negotiations were conducted in a grey zone of informal engagement before formal appointment, and the resulting deal is now being paused under external pressure, the issue is not just transparency – it is whether the correct procedures were followed and whether potential breaches of national security were committed.
The Freedom of Information requests raise fundamental questions: what vetting was undertaken prior to Powell’s appointment and by whom in the FCDO or Cabinet Office; what conflict of interest assessment was made regarding his work through Inter-Mediate, particularly given his activities in China, a state actor in favour of the surrender in the same month as his formal appointment in September; why he appeared to have access to classified government materials before being formally appointed; why the FCDO continued to use unsecure communications to pass him classified information despite acknowledging the need to arrange secure channels; in what capacity he met the Mauritian Prime Minister on the 30 August 2024 prior to formal appointment (having received briefing from FCDO officials in Port Louis in advance of the meeting); what level of security clearance he held during August 2024 and the materials he was authorised to see; why Parliament was told he was appointed on the 6 September if he was operating in the role earlier; and what conditions were placed on managing his dual roles, given he only left Inter-Mediate upon becoming National Security Advisor in November 2024.
The Government has told Parliament that Powell was appointed on 6 September 2024. Yet the document trail now points to involvement weeks earlier – receiving classified correspondence and actively negotiating at most senior level in Mauritius (the PM of Mauritius no less) while still being employed by Inter-Mediate. This appears to be a case of freelancing on a sensitive foreign policy file by an individual who, at the time, still had interests and international contracts with third parties and foreign actors.
This material would significantly deepen concerns about process, transparency, and national security safeguards around the negotiation itself. An arrangement that must be paused after international backlash, delayed in Parliament, and defended amid unanswered questions about the negotiator’s status is not a settled strategic settlement – it is a live political liability.
It is also now becoming clear that the government may have misled Parliament. The involvement of Powell and officials in FCDO needs to be investigated at the highest levels and as matter of urgency. But it would appear to be another case of the Prime Minister appointing a former Blairite apparatchik with little or no due diligence or vetting. The Prime Minister’s judgement is therefore once again brought into question.
The Chagos Surrender Bill compounds these failures. It grants sweeping Henry VIII powers, avoids meaningful scrutiny of £35 billion of public spending, and contains no robust mechanism to guarantee the long-term security of Diego Garcia.
It also fails the Chagossian people.
Labour signed this deal without proper consultation and blocked a proposed referendum that would have given Chagossians a direct voice in their future. Even the United Nations has raised concerns about how this process has been forced through.
Trump’s intervention has crystallised what Conservatives have argued from the start: this deal is unstable, ill-judged, and unsustainable. It undermines British sovereignty, weakens national security, and damages our most important alliance.
The longer the Government pauses, the clearer the conclusion becomes, this is a negotiation conducted in opacity, defended in haste, and now reconsidered under pressure from allies, Parliament, and its own unresolved paper trail.
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Gordon Ramsay Says David Beckham And Brooklyn Can Reconcile After Feud
Gordon Ramsay has said he believes the Beckhams are “too close” not to get their relationship back on track amid the very public fall-out the family has been embroiled in over the last few weeks.
The Kitchen Nightmares star has been a close friend of Sir David Beckham and his family for more than 25 years, and recently shared his take on the feud headlines surrounding them.
During a new interview with HuffPost UK to promote his Netflix documentary Being Gordon Ramsay, he insisted he doesn’t think the rift between the former England striker and his eldest son Brooklyn Peltz Beckham will be a permanent one.
“They’re loving parents,” he said of Sir David and his wife Victoria Beckham. “Those kids are gorgeous.”

He continued: “That bond with your son is one of the most important bonds you’ll have in your life. So, I’m confident they’ll get back [to where they were].
“[Families] do fall out – I fell out with my parents and I fell out with my kids. [The Beckhams] are too close not to get this back on track. And I’m confident that they will get it back on track.”
Opening up more about the relationship between his own family and the Beckhams, Gordon then explained: “All the kids grew up together. The Ramsays and the Beckhams would spend incredible summers together, and then the kids, Jack and Brooklyn, would go surfing, Romeo would go surfing, and they just had the most amazing time.
“Then come Christmas, we’d go off to some beautiful places like the Maldives together, so yeah, the closeness was unique – and the bond.”
Reflecting on his friendship with Sir David, Gordon noted: “It takes years to really know a proper friend. We’ve been mates now for 25 years, we saw each other yesterday for coffee, and I love him.”
“It’s just so nice when you’ve got such lovely friends that enjoy great food, great wine and we do crazy shit together,” he added. “Sporadic days here, there and everywhere, where we’ll just go off with Tana and Victoria, and just have the most amazing time in private. That’s the hallmark of a great friend.”
After months of rumours suggesting he was no longer speaking to his famous parents, Brooklyn set the record straight last month, confirming that he is estranged from his family for several reasons and has no intention of reconciling.
Last week, Gordon told The Sun: “It’s a very difficult situation. Victoria is upset, and I know 24/7, seven days a week, just how much David loves Brooklyn.
“Brooklyn and I have messaged a little bit, our relationship is solid. I love him – his heart is incredible. But it’s hard, isn’t it, when you’re infatuated? Love is blind. It’s easy to get up on that rollercoaster, and get carried away. But it will come back.”
Since then, it’s been pointed out that Brooklyn appears to have unfollowed – but not blocked – Gordon on Instagram, with reports claiming he’s also done the same to two of the chef’s children.
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Eric Dane, Grey’s Anatomy Star, Dies A Year After Sharing ALS Diagnosis
Grey’s Anatomy actor Eric Dane has died at the age of 53.
Eric was best known for his performance as Dr Mark Sloan – also known by the nickname “McSteamy” – in the long-running medical drama, as well as his roles in Charmed and Euphoria.
Last year, he disclosed that he had recently been diagnosed with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), with his family announcing his death in the early hours of Friday morning, in a statement to People magazine.
They said: “With heavy hearts, we share that Eric Dane passed on Thursday afternoon following a courageous battle with ALS.
“He spent his final days surrounded by dear friends, his devoted wife, and his two beautiful daughters, Billie and Georgia, who were the centre of his world.”
Eric’s family’s statement continued: “Throughout his journey with ALS, Eric became a passionate advocate for awareness and research, determined to make a difference for others facing the same fight
“He will be deeply missed, and lovingly remembered always.”

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They added: “Eric adored his fans and is forever grateful for the outpouring of love and support he’s received. The family has asked for privacy as they navigate this impossible time.”
Eric began his acting career in the early 90s with roles in Saved By The Bell, Roseanne and Married… With Children, before landing a recurring role in Gideon’s Crossing.
He was cast as Jason Dean in Charmed in 2003, premiering as Mark Sloan in Grey’s Anatomy three years later.
After an initial guest spot, he was bumped to the drama’s principal cast in 2007, before bowing out in 2012, though he did return for a special appearance in 2021.
He also appeared as Tom Chandler in The Last Ship and Cal Jacobs, Jacob Elordi’s on-screen dad, in Euphoria.
Eric’s film work included X-Men: The Last Stand, the ensemble rom-com Valentine’s Day, the tear-jerking family drama Marley & Me, the musical Burlesque and Family Secrets, his final on-screen performance, which will be released posthumously.
The actor is survived by his wife, fellow performer Rebecca Gayheart, and their two daughters.
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What Causes Hair To Turn Grey?
Almost everyone will watch their hair turn grey as they approach their golden years. For most people, there isn’t much they can do except grey gracefully or pick out a shade of hair dye they like.
Although it’s not as common, others start to go grey much younger, even before they turn 20. When hair turns grey prematurely, the reason isn’t always obvious. Rumours abound that everything from stress to a good scare can turn your hair grey, sometimes instantly.
We asked four top doctors specialising in hair what causes our locks to turn grey and if there is ever a reason to be concerned. Here’s what they said.
What causes hair to turn grey?
Hair turns grey when it loses a pigment called melanin, Dr. Akhil Wadhera, a dermatologist with Kaiser Permanente in Northern California, explained to HuffPost. Typically, this occurs as part of the normal ageing process starting in your mid-30s to early 40s. However, some people turn grey at a relatively young age.
The most common reason for premature greying is genetics, he said. If your parents went grey at a young age, your hair is likely to turn grey earlier, too.
Nevertheless, some young adults whose parents retained vibrant hair colour into old age experience premature greying for various reasons. Some of those, like genetics, are beyond their control. Others are a result of lifestyle choices or environmental factors.
Stress really can cause your hair to turn grey
It’s common for people to say they’re under so much stress that they’re going grey. Although most people make these statements in jest, there is some truth behind them.
“Stress can cause premature greying of hair,” Wadhera said. “In fact, there was a study with over 1,000 young Turkish adults that showed that perceived stress scale scores correlated with premature hair greying severity.”
However, Dr. Ehsan Ali, an internal physician at Beverly Hills Concierge Medicine and Cedars-Sinai Medical Center with specialised training in geriatric medicine, emphasises that acute or chronic stress is required to cause premature greying. “A bad week at work isn’t enough to turn hair grey,” he explained.
That’s because acute stress can trigger a fight-or-flight response, says Dr. Zafer Çetinkaya, head hair transplant surgeon at EsteNove in Istanbul.
When this happens, our bodies release stress hormones, including norepinephrine, he said. Norepinephrine can stop the production of the pigment-producing cells that give our hair its colour. “Once this ‘reservoir’ of stem cells is empty, the follicle can no longer produce colour,” causing hair to gradually turn grey, he explained.
Environmental factors can cause our hair to turn grey (to an extent)
External factors can also cause our hair to turn grey early. “Hair follicles are particularly sensitive to oxidative stressors in the environment such as pollution, ultraviolet light, smoking, hydrogen peroxide and ionising radiation, all of which can result in premature greying,” Wadhera said.
The oxidative stress caused by exposure to these elements “disproportionately affects the cells responsible for hair pigment,” explained Dr. Corey Maas, a hair transplant specialist at the Maas Clinic in California. “Over time, this damage reduces the follicle’s ability to maintain consistent colour.”
However, these external factors typically play only a small role in the greying process. Moreover, how much the environment affects your hair colour depends on several factors that vary widely from person to person, Maas explained.
“Greying is the result of a complex interaction between genetics, cumulative exposure, and how well an individual’s body is able to repair and replace damaged processes of youthful pigmentation,” he said. “The environment can nudge the process along,” but when and how quickly depends on the individual, Maas said.
Can shock or fright cause our hair to turn grey?
In horror movies, a character sometimes suddenly develops a streak of white hair after a particularly frightening experience. However, off-screen, hair won’t turn grey instantly, no matter how scared we are.
“The idea of hair turning white overnight from fright is often referred to as Marie Antoinette syndrome,” because the queen’s hair supposedly suddenly turned white before her execution, Çetinkaya said. “In reality, hair that is already outside of the scalp cannot change colour” naturally, he said.
Nevertheless, sudden shock or intense fear can cause hair to go grey over time. Extremely stressful situations can trigger a condition called alopecia areata, Çetinkaya said.
When this happens, “the immune system selectively attacks pigmented hairs, which causes dark hairs to fall out rapidly,” he explained. When a person with some existing grey hair develops alopecia areata, their grey hairs are left behind as their darker hair sheds.
That “creates the appearance of sudden greying,” when what’s really happening is that the loss of darker hair is making the existing grey hair more noticeable, Çetinkaya explained.
Medical conditions can cause premature greying
Several medical conditions can also contribute to premature greying. “As a specialist, I look for vitamin B12 deficiency, pernicious anaemia, and thyroid dysfunction,” Çetinkaya said.
“These conditions can disrupt the metabolic environment of the hair follicle,” which can result in hair turning grey prematurely. Rare autoimmune conditions such as vitiligo can also target pigment, causing hair to grow in white, he added.
According to Wadhera, low levels of vitamin D3 and deficiencies in minerals such as iron and zinc can also cause premature greying.
Could going grey spur any health concerns?
If you start greying due to age, there is nothing to worry about except deciding whether to accept your grey hair or visit a salon to choose a new colour.
However, if you start going grey early, before your mid-30s, you may want to investigate. One or two grey hairs usually aren’t cause for concern, Ali said. However, if you notice a proliferation of greys “very early or very rapidly, this can be a clue to look deeper at nutrition, thyroid function, autoimmune issues or lifestyle stressors,” he explained. Your primary care physician can help if you are concerned.
Nevertheless, Ali stresses that going grey isn’t usually a medical or personal failure. Even though there is “a lot of unnecessary fear and marketing around this topic,” going grey is “usually a normal, genetically programmed process,” he said.
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Matthew Dormer: End Labour’s drift and short-termism in Redditch
Cllr Matthew Dormer is the Leader of the Conservative Group on Redditch Borough Council.
With the local elections approaching, the key question in Redditch is simple: who can be trusted to deliver competent government and real value for residents? After a challenging period nationally, Conservatives know we cannot win arguments on slogans alone. We have to win them on performance — on the basics people notice every day, and on whether a council has a serious plan for the future.
In Redditch, voters are seeing the consequences of drift and short-termism at borough level, while at county level the new Reform administration is discovering that governing is far harder than campaigning. Promises made in opposition are colliding with the realities of budgets, service pressures, and delivery on the ground. That is the backdrop to the elections ahead — and why they matter.
At borough level, the Labour administration has struggled to demonstrate either vision or leadership. A flagship investment in a new market has failed to deliver the revival that was promised, leaving traders and residents disappointed rather than energised. More broadly, the town centre continues to decline, with no coherent strategy to reverse falling footfall or restore confidence.
Most striking, however, has been the absence of leadership. Decisions that should be taken decisively by the council’s leadership are repeatedly deferred to full council, diluting accountability and slowing progress. The recent decision not to hold elections this year is a clear example. Rather than owning that choice as a leadership decision, Labour has chosen to hide behind process. Councils do not succeed by managing procedure alone; they need leaders prepared to lead.
At county level, the picture under Reform has been one of contradiction rather than renewal. Despite strong rhetoric in opposition, there has been little meaningful engagement with the serious and complex issue of local government reorganisation. District councils and residents alike remain unclear about direction, consultation, or timescales.
Meanwhile, delivery on the basics is slipping. Highway repairs have slowed, investment schemes across the county have been cancelled or deferred, and confidence is ebbing. Most tellingly, the administration has already postponed its budget-setting meeting, raising questions about grip and preparedness. This sits uneasily alongside election promises to lower taxes, with residents now being warned to expect council tax increases of up to ten per cent. It is a familiar pattern: bold commitments made on the campaign trail, followed by difficult reversals once the realities of governing set in.
Against this backdrop, Conservatives in Redditch have been deliberately focused on rebuilding trust through competence and clarity. We know residents are tired of politics that promises much and delivers little. Our response has been to concentrate on the fundamentals: sound decision-making, financial discipline, and a clear sense of direction for the town.
We are organised, engaged, and serious about governing. That means scrutinising decisions properly, offering practical alternatives, and being honest about what can and cannot be achieved. It also means learning the lessons of our time in office, when we secured record levels of government investment and demonstrated that Redditch could compete for attention and funding when it had a credible plan and strong leadership.
Importantly, we are listening again — to businesses frustrated by the decline of the town centre, to residents concerned about basic services, and to families worried about opportunity for the next generation. Our focus is on rebuilding support around everyday priorities, not headline-chasing.
It is also important to be clear about the context of the elections ahead. Redditch elects its council by thirds, so control of the council will not change overnight. This election is therefore not about an instant takeover, but about momentum, direction, and trust.
Our objective is straightforward: to make gains, to rebuild confidence, and to demonstrate that Conservatives are the only credible option for change — the only alternative to continued Labour drift at borough level and the growing chaos being seen under Reform at county level.
None of this will be easy. Voters are frustrated, and national headwinds remain real. But local elections are still about who people trust to make decisions, run services competently, and stand up for their community. Residents remember that when Conservatives were in charge, things got done. Investment was secured, leadership was visible, and the council had direction.
Redditch matters beyond its boundaries. It is a typical working town, with small businesses, families, and public servants who expect value for money, fairness, and leadership that takes responsibility. If Conservatives cannot re-establish themselves as the credible governing option in places like this, we will struggle nationally. If we can, it shows the route back to trust runs through competence, not slogans.
My ambition has always been to serve Redditch — first as a firefighter, then as a business owner, then as council leader. Who knows where that journey of service may take me in the future? For now, the task is clear: make gains, restore confidence, and show that Conservatives are once again ready to lead.
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Sarah Ingham: ‘Gaslight’ is no a blueprint for Government
Dr Sarah Ingham is the author of The Military Covenant: its impact on civil-military relations in Britain.
Based on a play by Patrick Hamiliton, the film Gaslight was released in 1944.
Gaslighting has become part of everyday speech, today defined as “the practice of psychologically manipulating someone into questioning their own sanity, memory, or powers of reasoning.”
Nominated for the best picture Academy Award, Gaslight is a gothic tale of a husband psychologically torturing his wife. Gaslighting Britain seems to be part of the government’s programme. Despite the chaos engulfing the Starmer regime, Labour insists that it is we, the people, who are getting everything upside-down, back to front and inside-out.
Parachuting Lord Mandelson into diplomacy’s plum job and Matthew Doyle’s peerage justified Kemi Badenoch’s accusation that Labour is stuffed with “paedophile apologists.” But these two instances of the PM’s poor judgement are apparently down to the “vetting process”, not No.10 being ‘too grand to Google’.
Similarly, Monday’s lurch into an about-turn over local council elections is due to “fresh legal advice”. Rather than owning the Stalinesque attempt to deny democracy to millions, ministers imply it’s all lawyers’ fault for dud guidance, while the PM blames local councils.
Ingrid Bergman won the Best Actress Oscar for Gaslight. It seems apt. Thanks to the government; women are questioning their powers of reason. In the toxic fall-out from Epstein/Mandelson, every minister echoed Foreign Secretary Yvette Cooper, who declared “the real focus should be on Epstein’s victims.”
Voters surely begin to doubt their sanity when they contrast Labour’s clucks of concern over some victims of sexual predation with its long, deafening silence over others far closer to home – the grooming gangs’ casualties. Indeed, current Deputy Leader Lucy Powell accused Tim Montgomerie (formerly of this parish) of “blowing that little trumpet” and getting out “the dog whistle” when he raised the subject. PM Starmer branded those who called for a public inquiry as “jumping on a bandwagon of the far right.”
This attitude at the top of the government, along with it creating a “toxic environment for survivors”, contradicts its claims of being pro-victim. Forced into a half-hearted inquiry, Labour’s reluctance is highlighted by the can-do of Rupert Lowe, backed by £768,833 of Crowdfunded support.
If Chancellor Reeves had a pound for every time Labour’s Violence Against Women and Girls strategy was invoked since Petey’s friend, the ghost of Little St James, returned to haunt both sides of the Atlantic, a sizeable dent could be made in the National Debt.
BTW, whatever happened to “growth”? Labour constantly sends up chaff about interest rate cuts. Decisions about the rate were outsourced to the Bank of England decades ago. Or is our memory failing us?
Reeves crowed about Wednesday’s inflation figure of 3 per cent, ignoring this week’s less welcome news that unemployment has hit a five year high of 5.2 per cent, Voters are expected to believe that mass youth joblessness has nothing to do with her policy choices.
For nepo-babe Stephen Kinnock to bang on about the “appalling economic inheritance” confronting Labour is a disservice to reality. Inflation was at 2 per cent in July 2024. All those Labour MPs who demanded longer lockdowns clearly thought the £450 billion invoice would never arrive. Do they also believe in Father Christmas?
It should be unnecessary to point out an election manifesto is a programme for government. Had either Liz Truss or Rishi Sunak broadly stuck to the plan mandated by voters in 2019, while adjusting for the changed circumstances wrought by the pandemic, the Conservative Party’s fortunes might look very different today. Instead, the blueprint was torn up by Truss and tinkered with by Sunak, who went off on voter-repellent tangents, including more maths.
Despite trying to brainwash the country over “14 years of chaos”, the government is keen to emulate its predecessor’s example.
Is it gaslighting itself?
Rather than focusing on its July 2024 mandate, it goes off-piste in pursuit of pet projects no-one voted for, including local council reorganisation, assisted dying and the Chagos giveaway. But in connection with British Overseas Territories, its manifesto specifically stated: “Labour will aways defend their sovereignty and right to self-determination.”
Dumping an abusive relationship is apparently the best protection from being gaslit.
Voters, over to you.
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Therapists Warn Of Red Flag Signs You’ll Clash With Your In-Laws
When it comes to managing life with future in-laws, it’s not always easy to determine what those dynamics will look like.
Various circumstances, from the introduction of grandchildren to the equation or geographic location (and proximity), can also play a role in the dynamics you have.
Relationships can change over time, and behaviours can totally evolve as people grow more comfortable with one another.
That said, there are a few factors to consider when trying to determine whether or not your relationships with your in-laws might pose a challenge for you and your partner down the line.
We turned to family therapists to find out what some of the red flags might be, how to navigate them with your partner and how to cope with any lingering negative feelings.

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Here are three major signs that might predict you’ll have tense relationships with your in-laws.
Boundary violations that add up over time
Challenges with boundaries are a common complaint that people have regarding in-laws, and it’s one that family therapists see often as well.
“I often see boundary issues as an early warning sign,” Amanda E. White, LPC, licensed therapist and CEO of Therapy for Women Center, told HuffPost. “If someone’s partner would never let a friend drop by unannounced, but thinks it’s fine when their mother does, that inconsistency [could be] a problem.”
When boundary issues come into play early on in the form of unexpected visits or overreaching, it could be an indicator that these challenges might worsen over time, particularly if grandchildren become involved.
According to therapists, it helps if couples are aligned on what their boundaries are and how they’d like them to be respected. “If one partner takes over leading all the boundary conversations with the in-laws, it creates triangulation and scapegoating,” White said, adding that it can be helpful for the person whose direct family is involved to take the first line of communication.
Additionally, it’s worth remembering that setting a boundary doesn’t have to be combative.
“A boundary is not punitive; it simply shows where the line is,” Caitlin Slavens, registered psychologist and clinical director at Couples to Cradles Counselling, told HuffPost.
When your partner can’t separate their needs from their parents’
Similar to boundary issues, there can sometimes be challenges when a partner can’t separate their own life or identity from those of their parents. “This often looks like a partner who struggles to prioritise their relationship over keeping their parents happy,” White said.
In this case, it can also help to talk with your partner, but the key is to approach the conversation with compassion and empathy. “It is important to recognise that your partner has had a lifetime of experiences with their family before you entered the picture,” Slavens said, advising people to focus on how certain behaviors make them feel as opposed to being accusatory.
“Instead of saying, ’Your mom is overbearing,’ try, ‘I feel uneasy after your mom questions our parenting decisions every time we go there. It can be hard to relax when I am there,” Slavens continued. “What can we do to be on the same page the next time your mom comments on our parenting choices?’”
Ultimately, this is another area where being aligned as a couple is important, and in order to reach alignment, communication is imperative.
“What therapists see over and over again are the consequences of putting off addressing these issues rather than moving towards the challenge,” Matt Lundquist, psychotherapist, founder and clinical director of Tribeca Therapy, told HuffPost.
“The counsel here is for the concerned partner to state their sincere desire to have the best relationship possible with future in-laws. While it may be harder in the short term, it’s better to talk openly about concerns.”

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When your partner’s family just avoids conflict completely
We tend to think of problems with in-laws as arguments, tension-driven conversations, or full-on fights, but one of the biggest signs that there could be challenges down the line is if everyone avoids conflict altogether.
“In most cases there’s incentive to avoid conflict because the relationship [with the in-laws] isn’t optional and because open conflict can strain a relationship with one’s spouse,” Lundquist said. “Therefore, much of this conflict stays hidden.”
Even if conflict is avoided, you might still feel the tension simmering. This can lead to feeling like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner’s family, or that a fight could be brewing at any moment. Oftentimes, this dynamic arises when your partner grew up in a conflict-avoidant household.
“I [would] pay attention to how conflict gets handled in their family system,” White agreed. “If disagreements are avoided or swept under the rug, those patterns will show up in the relationship with in-laws.”
Therapists agree that even though having conversations about boundaries and relationships can be uncomfortable, avoiding those conversations can make things far worse over time.
“The conversation may be uncomfortable, but that is why it is important to have it,” Slavens said. “Being uncomfortable usually means it is worth discussing further.”
How to cope with negative feelings about in-laws
Sometimes, even after communication, you may still have lingering negative feelings surrounding your in-laws. It can help to remember that this is very normal and common, and you certainly aren’t the first person to feel this way.
“Having these feelings does not make you unkind,” said Slavens, adding that it can be valuable to reflect on your emotions, either through journalling or talking with a friend, family member or therapist.
“Remember, joining another family can be complicated, especially when roles, boundaries, expectations, and values differ. It can help to reframe negative self-talk, such as reminding yourself, ‘I can be both a loving person and not allow others to disrespect me.’”
White suggested finding ways to self-regulate before and after your interactions with future in-laws. “For example, [consider] taking a walk before gatherings, debriefing with their partner afterward, or setting time limits on visits,” White said, encouraging people to recognise what they can and can’t control.
“They cannot control their in-laws’ behaviour or opinions. They can control how much time they spend with them, what information they share, and how they respond.”
When to seek help from a counsellor
It’s important to recognise that there are times when outside help may be essential. According to therapists, counselling can be helpful when a couple cannot seem to get on the same page.
“Part of what makes these relationships so difficult is that they exist for the adult child at the intersection of two families, what we call the ‘family-of-origin’ and the new family they’re building with their spouse,” Lundquist said, pointing out that this person is now in the middle and may feel pulled in two directions. In those instances, talking to a counsellor or therapist may be beneficial.
Further, it’s worth remembering that you don’t have to wait until the conflict has reached an impossible level in order to seek out counselling.
“Consulting a counsellor or family therapist can be a preventative step in navigating family dynamics in a healthy way,” Slavens said. “If stress around in-laws is causing anxiety, self-doubt, or affecting your relationships, those are signs to seek professional support.”
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Why You Still Feel So Tired Even After A Full Night’s Sleep
You went to bed at a normal time, you didn’t look at your phone before bed, you followed all the golden rules to get a good night’s sleep and you got the full eight hours undisturbed… yet after all that, you wake up drained.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In fact, according to data from YouGov, three in five women (61%) say they feel tired when they wake up, even when they get a lot of sleep, while around half (49%) of men say the same.
But why does this happen? And what can we do about it?
Why do we wake up tired, even after a full night’s sleep?
Waking up exhausted after what feels like a ‘full’ night’s sleep is more common than people realise, and according to TRT UK, hormone specialists based in the UK, the problem usually isn’t the number of hours you’ve been in bed.
Rather, it’s the quality and structure of your sleep.
“Sleep happens in cycles, moving between light sleep, deep sleep and REM sleep,” explain TRT UK’s hormone health experts. “Deep sleep is when physical restoration happens, while REM sleep is important for mood regulation, memory and mental focus.
“If these stages are interrupted by alcohol, stress, late-night scrolling, blood sugar triggers or even small breathing disturbances, you can technically sleep for seven or eight hours but still wake up feeling groggy.”
Another ‘major factor’ is cortisol, the body’s natural ‘wake-up hormone’. Cortisol should rise slowly in the early morning to help you feel alert, but if your stress levels are increased, your cortisol patterns can be dysregulated, leaving you feeling unrefreshed rather than awake.
The experts add: “Hormones that support sleep and wakefulness, like cortisol and melatonin, work in a delicate rhythm.
“When that rhythm is disrupted by poor light exposure in the day, different bedtimes, or persistent stress, it can lead to that frustrating ‘I slept but I’m still tired’ feeling.”
This can lead to the ‘false rest’ effect
What many people experience is fragmented sleep without awareness. You may not consciously wake up, but micro-arousals (brief interruptions in brain activity) can, over time, pull you out of deeper restorative stages.
Modern life fuels this in many ways:
- Evening scrolling keeps the brain stimulated,
- Background anxiety keeps cortisol elevated,
- Irregular schedules confuse the body clock,
- Artificial light reduces melatonin efficiency,
- Alcohol sedates you, but reduces deep sleep quality.
The result? You log the hours, but miss the repair.
As deep sleep is where tissue repair, immune strengthening and physical recovery happens, while REM supports emotional processing and cognitive focus, disrupted cycles can leave you feeling physically heavy and mentally dull the next day.
Can you fix the ‘false rest’ effect?
Methods to combat this are often more about your daily rhythm, rather than just ‘sleeping more’.
TRT UK’s experts advise focusing on consistency, in other words going to bed and waking up at nearly the same time each day; getting natural light within 30 minutes of waking up; and limiting alcohol and heavy meals near bedtime.
The experts also warn that keeping control of evening stress is a key step to better sleep. This is because high cortisol late at night can ruin the chance of falling into restorative sleep.
They advise: “Slowly and gently create a wind-down routine reduce screen time, low lighting, a warm shower and simple breathing exercises will help signal to the nervous system that it’s safe to switch off.”
Finally, if fatigue continues even with good sleep patterns, it’s worth looking into underlying factors such as thyroid health, iron levels or a wider hormone imbalance – speaking to your GP about this is key.
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The Troubles are over, gangsterism isn’t
“If we go to the police, we would be killed.” Those are the words of a woman featured in a BBC report about paramilitary extortion rackets in the North of Ireland. The investigation spoke to:
…business owners anonymously about being threatened to pay money to proscribed organisations. It includes those running restaurants or shops and those in the construction industry.
The paramilitaries involved would previously have been participants in the sectarian warfare that characterised The Troubles in Ireland.
Since the 1998 Good Friday Agreement, that kind of violence has hugely declined. Paramilitarism remains a feature of the Six Counties, however, particularly in organised crime. The payments which gangsters demand from businesses are typically described as ‘protection money’. The name implies you will receive protection from some unspecified threat, but in reality you are paying to avoid beating or death from those demanding it.
Sometimes the thugs characterise it in other ways. One respondent to the BBC said:
I have never been asked to pay for protection, but they asked me to contribute to the community activities which I did do.
Reverse-Robin Hood paramilitaries rob from those least able to pay
The report refers to “shops, salons and restaurants” as among the businesses targeted. Construction sites are another common source of revenue for paramilitaries. What this essentially amounts to is a regressive tax on people of average income.
The thugs aren’t going to Tesco management, Intel or JP Morgan to demand a cut of their profits. They’re robbing small local businesses often struggling to survive in a climate where large corporations relentlessly lobby government, and where the high street already struggles to survive.
Of course, such gangsters rob everyone on a daily basis, a fact highlighted by the Independent Reporting Commission (IRC) which monitors paramilitary activity. They pointed out that:
If paramilitarism is not brought to an end, it will continue to create
unmanageable strain on public finances through its direct and indirect harms.
This cost to us all comes from the increased policing expenses required to deal with the issue, especially when paramilitaries drive instances of mass rioting and racial pogroms, such as those they stoked in Ballymena in June 2025. The IRC reported with “no doubt” that there was paramilitary involvement in the riots, which took place among loyalist communities in the town. The Belfast Telegraph reported how:
Almost 50 children have been referred to social services by the PSNI after race riots in Northern Ireland over the last two years.
‘Protection’ scam extends to exploiting kids
These are kids who are coerced into participating in criminal racist behaviour. Those with links to far-right loyalist paramilitaries often like to parade as the protectors of women and children. However, as in the case of ‘protection money’, it’s the men in balaclavas who people need protecting from.
The Northern Ireland Human Rights Commission has warned that the Justice Bill before the Northern Ireland Assembly may not provide sufficient protection against criminalising children dragged into crime by paramilitaries. The bill seeks to bring the Six Counties somewhere close to parity with Britain, as the former has previously lacked legislation to deal with organised crime.
Some indicators show a decline in paramilitary activity. The Police Service of Northern Ireland’s (PSNI) Security Situation Statistics give an indication of this. In their latest report, which covers the period from 1 October 2024 to 30 September 2025, there were:
…no security related deaths, compared to one during the previous 12 months.
Shooting incidents also declined from 16 to 11. The chief constable of the PSNI Jon Boutcher has expressed optimism about a downgrading of the security threat rating in coming years. He says it may go from its current ‘substantial’ level to ‘moderate’, meaning “an attack is possible, but not likely.”
Of course, this assessment is based on threats to the state, rather than the general threat posed to the population at large by paramilitary violence, nevermind the other costs.
PSNI must take a share of the blame
The PSNI itself has some role to play in the continued role in daily life of paramilitaries. It has turned a blind eye to displays by violent groups such as the Ulster Volunteer Force (UVF), while arresting peaceful Palestine Action protesters. Like police forces in Britain, it continues to maintain relatively low ratings from the public. According to the Northern Ireland Statistics and Research Agency (NISRA):
60.6% thought police were not visible or not very visible in their local area.
67.5% were satisfied with the job the PSNI do in Northern Ireland.
61.4% were confident in PSNI’s ability to protect and serve.
63.8% thought the PSNI were engaged or very engaged with local communities
While this remains the case, some people will still see paramilitaries as a local replacement for cops, perceived as cracking down on drug dealers and petty crime. This is the legacy of The Troubles — a police force still beholden to appalling British law, and the long tail of paramilitary thuggery given life by an inadequate political settlement.
Featured image via Nazli Tarzi
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Rachel Reeves called ‘genocide supporter’ by heckler
Genocide supporter Rachel Reeves has been called out as – well, a genocide supporter – as she toured a Sainsbury’s supermarket:
All too true. In December 2025, after more than two years of Israel’s genocide in Gaza, she told the racist ‘Labour Friends of Israel’ that she is a “proud” and “unapologetic” Zionist. She added that the idea there’s anything “inherently wrong” in the ethno-supremacist ideology must be “wholeheartedly” rejected.
Getting called out while posing in a supermarket is nowhere near enough – Reeves and her boss belong in jail for collaborating in genocide. But it’s still nice to see.
Featured image via the Canary
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UN calls out Rapid Support Forces over “genocidal intent”
The United Nations (UN) has strengthened its language on Sudan. The international body said the foreign-backed war has a genocidal character. The move is welcome, but too late for the tens of thousands who’ve been murdered.
Genocidal intent
The three-year conflict between the Sudanese government, backed by Egypt and Turkey among other states, and the Rapid Support Forces (RSF), heavily reliant on arms from the UAE, has displaced and killed millions.
The RSF and allied militias are known for acting out their “racist Arab supremacist” ideology against non-Arab populations, murdered and ethnically cleansed from certain areas to maintain an Arab majority.
UN fact-finder Mona Rishmawi said on 18 February:
The body of evidence we collected — including the prolonged siege, starvation and denial of humanitarian assistance, followed by mass killings, rape, torture and enforced disappearance, systematic humiliation and perpetrators’ own declarations — leaves only one reasonable inference.
Rishmawi said:
The RSF acted with intent to destroy, in whole or in part, the Zaghawa and Fur communities in El-Fasher. These are the hallmarks of genocide.
The UN also launched a major humanitarian appeal to support the millions of Sudanese left starving and displaced by the ongoing war. It said that the:
Sudan Regional Refugee Response Plan (2026) aims to deliver lifesaving assistance this year to 5.9 million people across seven neighbouring countries: the Central African Republic, Chad, Egypt, Ethiopia, Libya, South Sudan and Uganda.
The plan will continue to prioritize aid for roughly 470,000 new refugees who are expected to cross into these countries, as well as thousands more who remain in border areas and have received only the most basic assistance.
El Fasher massacre
A report released by the UN on 19 February detailed the El Fasher massacre carried out by RSF in October 2025. The southern city was besieged by RSF for months. When it fell RSF massacred civilians wholesale.
The evidence gathered since:
Establishes that at least three underlying acts of genocide were committed: “killing members of a protected ethnic group; causing serious bodily and mental harm; and deliberately inflicting conditions of life calculated to bring about the group’s physical destruction in whole or in part.”
Mohamed Chande Othman, chair of the mission, said:
The scale, coordination, and public endorsement of the operation by senior RSF leadership demonstrate that the crimes committed in and around El Fasher were not random excesses of war.
They formed part of a planned and organized operation that bears the defining characteristics of genocide.
As the Canary has previously reported, British military equipment has turned up in RSF hands.
The UK is a major supplier to the UAE. In turn, the UAE is supplying the RSF. The UAE is pursuing resources (not least, gold) and control in Sudan as part of its increasingly colonial regional aims. And you can read about Israel’s dangerously under-reported role in the war here.
International bodies have been slow to respond to the crisis in Sudan. They are finally admitting there is an active genocide in Sudan. And, just like in Gaza, the British are playing a role in the slaughter.
Featured image via the Canary
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