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Channel 4’s The Great ADHD Myth? Documentary Dramatically Divides Viewers
A documentary questioning whether attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a genuine condition or a social construct has aired on Channel 4 – and it’s proven predictably divisive.
The show, titled The Great ADHD Myth?, has prompted a wave of responses online from doctors, charities and people with the disorder who are concerned it will contribute to stigma surrounding the condition.
A reactionary survey by the charity ADHD UK in the wake of the documentary revealed that (at the time of writing), of 1,566 people who watched the show, 92% believe it has increased stigma surrounding ADHD, while 93% do not believe the show was fair in its representation of the condition.
ADHD UK’s CEO and co-founder, Henry Shelford, told HuffPost UK: “We are shocked by this programme. The fact it got commissioned at all speaks to the stigma around ADHD – a stigma that is now likely to get worse because of this show.”
The charity had previously penned an open letter to Channel 4 urging it to make a series of changes to the documentary before its release, including a review of the title and for the broadcaster to “make clear on screen where contributors’ views sit relative to mainstream clinical consensus”.
What was Channel 4’s ADHD documentary about?
The documentary followed NHS psychiatrist and Daily Mail columnist, Dr Max Pemberton, as he spoke to medical experts who questioned the conventional narrative around ADHD.
One such expert, Dr Iona Heath, the former president of the Royal College of General Practitioners, said: “It’s certainly not a medical condition as far as I’m concerned.” Another child psychiatrist said: “In 100 years’ time people are going to wonder, ‘How could we be so gullible?’”
The show posed a number of questions including whether ADHD is a disorder or social construct, how it should be treated (including whether diet and lifestyle changes could help), whether medication is the right approach and who benefits from increasing diagnoses.
Dr Pemberton – who remains certain he doesn’t have ADHD – underwent a private assessment (costing £1,200) and was diagnosed with combined ADHD and a prescription for medication.
The documentary also followed a family who wanted to see whether holistic lifestyle changes could eliminate their 10-year-old son’s use of ADHD medication. The pills “take my fun-ness away”, he said, however the programme noted at the end he did go back on them.
ADHD UK’s survey found 80% of those surveyed said it wasn’t “responsible” for a broadcaster to film a 10-year-old stopping his ADHD medication for television.
In response, Channel 4 told HuffPost UK: “The welfare of the boy and his family were of paramount importance both before, during and after the production process. An independent doctor, his GP, and a health and safety company were consulted.
“Advice was also taken from three independent psychiatrists on the medication break. This programme was produced in compliance with the Ofcom Broadcasting Code.”
The Times’ review of the show called its arguments “convincing, or at least the start of a necessary discussion”, although they did note “there was no real counter-argument offered to the idea of ADHD as a ‘myth’”.
Meanwhile the Guardian said Dr Pemberton “answers his questions convincingly”, highlighting the remedies proposed at the end, such as changing diet, screen and activity levels first, adapting schools to children’s needs, and making medication the last resort “seem neither radical nor uncompassionate”.
Both publications gave the doc four stars.
The show sparked backlash from people with ADHD
The NHS says ADHD is a “complex neurodevelopmental disorder, which starts in childhood and often persists into adulthood” and “is associated with significant impairment”. It’s also recognised by the World Health Organisation (WHO) and the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE).
It is marked by a persistent pattern (at least six months) of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that has a direct negative impact in more than one setting – ie. home, school, work – on academic, occupational, or social functioning. Research suggests 3-5% of the population are impacted.
Shelford, who has ADHD, said the latest Channel 4 documentary “is a travesty in its missed opportunity to help slay myths around ADHD; instead, it has added to them”.
He said ADHD “can be extraordinarily tough” and pointed to UCL-led research which showed UK adults with diagnosed ADHD have a shorter life expectancy. There was a reduction in life expectancy for men with diagnosed ADHD of between 4.5 and nine years, and between 6.5 and 11 years for women.
“Our failure to support people with ADHD should be a national scandal – instead we’re getting TV shows undermining the disorder,” he said.
“We have already complained to Ofcom and will be following up with a more detailed complaint.” The charity has also encouraged others to make complaints to the regulator.
“We are worried that this will cost lives by putting people in need off getting an ADHD assessment and from getting support,” added Shelford.
Others were quick to share their thoughts on the controversial documentary on social media after it aired.
Clinical psychologist Dr Emily Compton-Smith wrote on Instagram: “We should absolutely be able to discuss diagnosis, and where things could be improved.”
That said, she was “troubled” by “how one-sided the programme felt,” she continued, adding that “what felt missing … was the voice of the people actually living it”.
She also aired concerns that “many people will watch it and come away more sceptical of ADHD, while people with ADHD will once again be left feeling like they need to justify themselves”.
Adam Dance, the Liberal Democrat MP for Yeovil, who also has ADHD, shared a cross-party letter which he’d sent to Channel 4, saying he is “deeply concerned by the framing and language used to promote the documentary and by the potential consequences for people with ADHD and their families”.
Meanwhile others praised the show as “fantastic” and “inspirational”.
One in five (20%) people who watched the show and responded to ADHD UK’s survey said the programme had caused them ‘severe’ distress, with 38% saying it caused ‘significant’ distress.
In a statement, Professor Subodh Dave, President of the Royal College of Psychiatrists, commented: “The way we speak about neurodevelopmental conditions really matters. It can fuel harmful stigma experienced by people living with the condition and risk discouraging people from seeking the support and treatment they need.”
Off the back of the documentary, the expert called for greater scrutiny of the quality of assessment patients are receiving, and whether people are able to access the right support at the right time.
He added: “The focus should be on improving access to high-quality assessments and care by addressing waiting lists that leave many people without vital support for years at a time, not questioning the legitimacy of a well-established neurodevelopmental disorder.”
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Suranne Jones In Doctor Foster Season 3 Photo As Slow Horses Star Joins Cast
The TV comeback a decade in the making is almost upon us.
Earlier this year, it was revealed that a third and final season of the domestic drama Doctor Foster was coming to our screens in 2027, with Suranne Jones returning as TV’s most chaotic GP.
More details about the new series have been revealed, including exactly what’s in store this time around.
The official synopsis had already teased: “Ten years ago, on discovering her husband Simon was having an affair, Gemma Foster enacted a masterful revenge. But the fallout was devastating when her 15-year-old son Tom disappeared.
“Now, in series three, Gemma is still a GP, still in the same house, but on the brink of a fresh start: she has met someone new and is getting married. But as the wedding day draws closer, and friends and family gather, shadows from the past begin to re-emerge threatening both her happiness and her reputation.”
“As Gemma fights to protect those she loves and expose whoever’s intent on hurting her, will she be able to put the past to bed, dispense justice, and claim the future she deserves, before it is too late?” the teaser concludes.
Gemma’s new man will be played by Slow Horses actor Dustin Demri-Burns, with Adam James, Thusitha Jayasundera and Anna Madeley also set to return after their appearances in the first two seasons, alongside series leads Tom Taylor and Bertie Carvel.

Meanwhile, Riot Women star Rosalie Craig will play a new character, joining the series alongside fellow new additions Gracie Oddie-James, Lois Baglin, Karima McAdams, Anjana Vasan, Michael Balogun, Christina Balmer, Justin Salinger and Ash Tandon.
Suranne previously claimed: “When I got the call to ask if I wanted to return as Gemma Foster, I knew the time was right. We needed space from the first two series, and we needed Tom – Gemma and Simon’s runaway son – to return as an adult with questions.
“For me, this time around it’s about accountability and questioning – ‘can we ever truly sever ties with our past and the damage or traumas that haunt us, so we can fully move forward?’. Gemma and Simon have so much to unpick!”

Doctor Foster became a huge hit when it debuted in 2015, with the cast also including Jodie Comer and Victoria Hamilton, whose character later appeared in her own spin-off, Life.
Suranne’s leading performance in the show earned her two NTAs, a Royal Television Society Award and a TV Bafta.
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Wings Over Scotland | Before Action
Our solicitors have today sent the letter below to Police Scotland.
(Click pics to enlarge.)
It’s worth remembering what this is about.
– Peter Murrell was recently sentenced to over five years in prison for misappropriating approximately £400,000 from the SNP, which is the crime of embezzlement.
– John Swinney recently admitted that the SNP misappropriated close to £700,000 from donors to “ring-fenced” fundraisers for a second indyref, spending the money on party interests instead, which is also the crime of embezzlement.
– Police Scotland and the Crown Office have declined to prosecute the second embezzlement offence, saying that they investigated it before and somehow failed to notice what the First Minister has now publicly admitted on camera.
– Despite the First Minister’s admission, which came after the police investigation into the missing money was closed, Police Scotland inexplicably refuse to consider this as “new evidence” and reopen the investigation.
– Police Scotland and the Crown Office blame each other for the decision not to prosecute, but neither will release any correspondence between them on the subject to clear up which of them is telling something at least in vague proximity to the truth.
– Police Scotland and the Crown Office also both flatly refuse to release the written statement given to them by Nicola Sturgeon regarding the investigation following her seven-hour “no comment” interview.
(Sturgeon also refuses to release it, despite previously saying she would, and the Crown Office blocked Police Scotland’s attempts to interview her again on account of her lack of co-operation.)
The former First Minister, the current First Minister, the police and the prosecution service are all on the same side, saying the same thing: there’s nothing to see here, but you can’t see it anyway.
(Their being on the same side is all the stranger when you consider that two of them are supposed to be investigating crimes committed by the party the other two were leader and deputy leader of at the time.)
In the name of justice, transparency and accountability, we will continue trying to expose what all of them are united in not wanting you to know. As ever, we’ll keep you updated on how it goes.
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What Happens When an Actor Needs to Pee Mid-Scene?
I’ve been learning more about the urinary habits of celebs recently than I ever thought I would. First, it turned out that loads of singers use a pee bucket backstage if they’ve gotta go mid-concert (yes, really).
And now, it seems some on-screen talent have their own secret code to ask to go to the loo ― at least, that’s according to makeup mogul, singer, motel owner, and RuPaul’s Drag Race alum Trixie Mattel.
In a recent video, the drag star shared the behind-the-scenes secrets of reality TV. “I had to learn on my feet what exactly a TV set was,” the star said in the video ― and that included working out how to nip to the loo.
So, how’s it done?
“Did you know on television when you have to pee… you say, ‘I have to ten-one’, ’I’m taking her to ten-one,’‘she’s going to ten-one,’” Trixie shared.
“It’s a more elegant way of saying ‘go pee,’” the drag star added. “And on a TV set when I was 24 years old, my instinct was to go, ‘will someone take me to pee?’ And they’d be like, ‘you mean ten one?’”
Studio Binder confirms that 10-1 is walkie-talkie lingo for needing to pee ― and it turns out that 10-2 refers to needing to, well, go number two, as well.
They add that if you find you need more time in the bathroom than you’d expected as a TV cast member ― maybe that dodgy food from last night caught up with you out of nowhere ― you can ask to “upgrade your 10-1″ on the walkie-talkie too.
This will buy you more precious alone time.
“I have no idea where that came from,” Trixie shared, referring to the initial 10-1 code. Well, we think we might have answers ― the ten does seem to apply to the ten code, which refers to abbreviated speech you can use across telecoms, and one is, well, going number one.
But why you couldn’t just ask to pee instead is frankly a little beyond me. Perhaps I’m just inelegant…
There’s more pee drama (there’s always more)
This is less specific to TV shows in general and more applicable to drag ― but Trixie brought up the topic of urine again towards the end of her tell-all video.
“This one I’m going to be vague about, but we’re in drag for long days, and drag is very taxing on the body, and sometimes people don’t get to pee,” she said. “And sometimes pee happens… that’s all I’m going to say,” she added.
“I’ve never peed myself on Drag Race,” she pointed out, “but I know it’s happened. Whether or not people have said it happened, I think people have peed their pants and it hasn’t shown on camera so no-one knew.”
Basically, I’m learning that if you haven’t faced a pretty Medieval peeing system at least once in your showbiz career, you haven’t made it big. I knew fame wasn’t for me…
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BBC To Finally Air Mandy Special That Was Pulled From Last Year's Christmas Schedule
Diane Morgan in character as MandyFans of Diane Morgan’s hit comedy Mandy finally have the news they have been waiting for.
Last year, the sitcom’s festive special was mysteriously pulled from the BBC’s Christmas schedule just days before it was due to air, with reports at the time suggesting the broadcaster had decided not to air the episode until certain elements of it could be updated.
The BBC has now confirmed to TV Zone that the unaired Christmas episode of Mandy will now be part of this year’s festive line-up instead.
A description of the episode, which was filmed in January 2025, read: “Mandy rarely dabbles in global diplomacy, especially over Christmas when it’s so cold out and there’s good telly on, but when she does, you can bet that she makes a real difference to the balance of power in the world.”
While some fans speculated online that Donald Trump’s intended lawsuit against the BBC around this time may have caused the disruption, Radio Times later clarified that the US president was not referenced in the Mandy episode.
However, the comedy seemingly did reference Russian leader Vladimir Putin, with Popbitch alleging in January that the sitcom episode featured graphic scenes of violence involving Putin (or, rather, his body double) and a cheese wire.
Meanwhile, last month, Diane claimed during an interview with The Independent that she couldn’t say much about the episode being pulled, other than that the decision was made “because of world events”.
“I think they decided it was for the right reasons,” she said. “It was a complete accident. I’m never one of these comedians that tries to be topical – it’s just not what I do. It’s completely out of keeping with me,” the Philomena Cunk creator added.
This latest update on Mandy comes after the successful debut of Diane’s newest comedy, Ann Droid, which sees her play a social humanoid robot who forms an unlikely friendship with a widow, portrayed by Sue Johnston.
The first episode pulled in four million viewers in its first seven days, with a second series reported by The Sun to be in development earlier this month.
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Pro-Palestine groups call for Israel arms ban on anniversary of UK recognition
UK pro-Palestine groups have called for a full ban on arms sales to Israel. The demand comes a year on from the UK’s recognition of Palestinian statehood.
Palestinian Forum in Britain, Palestine Solidarity Campaign, Stop the War Coalition, Campaign for Nuclear Disarmament, Friends of Al-Aqsa and Muslim Association of Britain all co-signed the call.
Their 19 August statement said:
Nearly three years into Israel’s continuing genocide in Gaza, Palestinians still face killing, starvation and displacement, while British-funded humanitarian aid remains subject to Israeli restrictions.
The Government must secure an end to Israeli attacks and unrestricted humanitarian access to Gaza.
Across the occupied West Bank, including East Jerusalem, settlement expansion, settler violence and restrictions on Al-Aqsa Mosque continue to intensify – restrictions the Government must act to end.
A year on from the UK’s recognition of the State of Palestine, that decision has yet to be matched by action.
And:
Britain’s commitment to international law cannot be hostage to Israel’s election timetable. Real action means confronting Britain’s own complicity.
The groups also urged an end to UK arms sales to the settler colonial state:
That means ending the arms trade with Israel, suspending military and intelligence support that facilitate violations of international law, and stopping British businesses, banks, universities and charities from supporting occupation or settlement activity – starting with a ban on trade connected to Israel’s illegal occupation and comprehensive sanctions on Israel.
Their call comes ahead of a major national demonstration in solidarity with Palestine on Saturday 10 October:
Join us for the national march in central London to mark three years of the ongoing genocide. We call on people across the country to stand together in demanding justice and an end to British complicity.
Pro-Palestine groups on UK arms sales to Israel
In February 2026, Oxfam reported:
Since 2015, the UK has licensed at least £500 million worth of military exports to Israel.
However, given the opaque nature of the global arms trade, Oxfam warned this was likely to be a severe underestimate:
There are also a number of additional open licences in place that the government does not publicly report on, so the figure is likely to be much higher.
Stop the War Coalition vice-president Chris Nineham told New Arab that UK recognition:
was welcome, but, as we feared, it was symbolic.
He said the people of Palestine “need action”:
and we are calling on our government to end British support for Israel immediately.
We are working to organise another mass demonstration on 10 October to pressure it to take action.
It is essential that pressure is kept on the UK government. Whether through marches, protests, legal actions, investigative reporting and other routes, it all counts towards holding the UK establishment to account for its complicity in crimes against the Palestinian people.
Featured image via the Canary
By Joe Glenton
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Senior Engineer Explains What Happens When Lightning Strikes Airplane During Flight
I’m not an anxious flyer, but even I have to admit that the idea of a plane being struck by lightning mid-air terrifies me.
Perhaps it shouldn’t – after all, the National Weather Service of America said most commercial planes “are hit by lightning an average of one or two times a year.”
But why does it happen, and is it even dangerous for the passengers and crew inside?
There’s a LOT more lightning than I realised
Most lightning strikes to planes occur at altitudes between 5,000 and 15,000 feet, Simple Flying shared. That’s because takeoff and landing is when the vehicles pass through clouds, which are electrically charged.
Edward Rupke, senior engineer at Lightning Technologies, Inc. told Scientific American that planes actually trigger lightning strikes as they pass through non-striking, but electrically-charged, clouds.
“Actually, aircraft often initiate the strike because their presence enhances the ambient electric fields typical for thunderstorms and facilitates electrical breakdown through air,” the US National Weather Service explained.
The strike attaches itself to an extremity like the nose or tip of the plane first. Then, the electricity moves along the outer “skin” of the plane as it flies through the strike, eventually leaving the body of the plane when it leaves the polarity.
Is it dangerous?
It used to be. 1967 was the last noted commercial plane crash due to a lightning strike – the contact caused the fuel tank to explode.
Nowadays, however, planes are made from seamless aluminium or even more advanced composite materials that conduct electricity well enough to keep them away from the sensitive parts of the plane.
Occasionally, pilots might notice flickering lights or very brief interference.
“When it is suspected that a plane was hit by lightning, there is a mandatory inspection for damage, which can delay flights and be quite expensive,” the US National Weather Service revealed.
So, for that reason, pilots try to steer clear of thunderstorms.
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Screen Time Might Have Some Brain Benefits For Kids, Study Finds
Children’s screen time has (rightly) received plenty of scrutiny of late.
We know that excessive use of screens can impact concentration levels and negatively impact academic outcomes. Studies have also linked it to poor language development, as well as problems with development, including obesity, sleep disturbances, depression, and anxiety.
But what about the impact on brain function? Well, a new study from Finland found kids who had higher amounts of screen time during childhood ended up with better cognitive processing in their teen years.
Cognitive processing refers to the mental functions which are linked to thinking, learning, memory and executive function.
Researchers said the findings suggest screen time can support children’s and adolescents’ cognitive processing. But they stressed a key consideration here is what kind of things children do during their screen time.
The findings are based on an eight-year follow-up of the PANIC study on children’s physical activity and nutrition. The study involved 124 girls and 136 boys, whose average age was 15.
Physical activity and sedentary behaviour were measured by a device that combined heart rate and movement measurements and also by a survey questionnaire, while learning, attention and working memory were also assessed.

Doctoral researcher Petri Jalanko, from the University of Jyväskylä, said children should be encouraged to use screens in ways that promote active thinking, problem-solving, creativity and learning.
Parents shouldn’t just see screen time as harmful, he added, but should seek balance between physical activity and screen time that promotes active thinking.
The research tracks with previous research on brain function and screen time. A 2023 study of nearly 12,000 children in the United States found no evidence that screen time impacted brain function or wellbeing.
A study in older adults, meanwhile, found active screen use was generally associated with better cognitive outcomes, particularly in memory, executive function, and attention.
Passive screen use, on the other hand, was linked to poorer outcomes, including verbal memory and global cognition declines.
The latest findings come after a survey found almost one-quarter (24%) of parents of three‑ to five‑year‑olds find it hard to control their child’s screen time, and 98% of two‑year‑olds watch screens every day.
In the UK, the government has issued guidance on screen time for under-fives, suggesting under twos should avoid screen time other than for shared activities that encourage bonding, interaction and conversation (ie. FaceTiming family).
Meanwhile two- to five-year-olds should stick to no more than one hour of screen time a day, and screen time should be avoided at mealtimes and in the hour before bed, so as not to disrupt sleep.
Watching screens with an engaged adult where parents talk and ask questions has been linked to better cognitive development than solo use.
Slow-paced content is also considered far better for development than fast-paced social media-style videos.
Paediatrician Dr Joel Warsh, aka Dr Gator on social media, previously shared in his newsletter that he tells parents to ask four questions when it comes to the impact of screen time on their kids.
- Is my child sleeping well?
- Are they able to focus without screens?
- Do they play independently?
- And how do they behave when the screen is taken away?
If their sleep, focus and ability to play independently is on track, and they don’t have meltdowns or angry outbursts when screens are taken away, this is a positive sign.
The paediatrician noted that “sometimes it’s not about the number of hours” but rather the effect of screen time on our kids that we should pay attention to.
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Putin Aide Claims He ‘Feels Sorry’ For UK After Russian Embassy Threats
A top aide to Vladimir Putin has bizarrely declared he “feels sorry” for the UK after Britain was threatened by the Russian Embassy in London over its support for Ukraine.
Moscow’s representatives in the UK warned of the “consequences” following confirmation that British-made drones had been used in recent Ukrainian attacks in Russia.
The embassy claimed Britain was “deliberately opting for an escalation of the Ukraine crisis,” and said the “deeper its involvement in the conflict… the higher the price it will pay”.
UK prime minister Andy Burnham remained unperturbed by the threats on Tuesday, telling reporters that the UK was “providing support so that Ukraine can defend itself and that’s been the British position all the way through this conflict, by previous prime ministers – it remains the case with me”.
Asked about the spat with the UK on Wednesday, Russia’s foreign minister Sergei Lavrov tried to deliver yet another threat as he again suggested Britain is directly involved in the war.
He told the media: “I feel sorry for the United Kingdom, if it is going to stand with Ukraine until the very end.
“As for the substance of our Embassy’s comment, it means only one thing: President Vladimir Putin has warned of our right to act in any area of the world’s oceans, should anyone encroach on our interests or our property.
“We have exactly the same right to regard the proudly announced direct involvement of British missile forces in strikes against the Russian Federation as participation in the war. With all the consequences that entails.”
His remarks come after a former deputy foreign minister of Russia told BBC Radio 4’s Today programme that many in Moscow interpret the recent strikes from Ukraine as proof the UK is “part of the war”.
“The situation now is very dangerous, because the tension of conflict in Ukraine really is increasing,” Andrei Federov added. “The coming couple of months will face this tension, this escalation which can bring us to totally different situation unlike ever before.”
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I Came Out As Bi. Everyone Else Came Out With Their Opinions
Apparently, being a bisexual man means everyone has a theory about your life, except you. To some people, I’m secretly gay. To others, I’m basically straight. To a surprising number of people, I’m destined to cheat on whoever I’m dating.
Coming out didn’t free me from those assumptions – it just gave people permission to say them out loud.
Growing up, I didn’t know one could be two. I learned that gay and straight were monoliths – rigid archetypes dictating not just your sexual interests, but all of your behaviours. The way you spoke, the way you walked, even how you spread your legs could tell the whole world whose legs you were interested in spreading.
We didn’t need viral Andrew Tate TikToks telling us ‘the rules’; if you found yourself in violation of the Straight Code, one of your schoolmates would let you know posthaste.
Because I didn’t lisp or prance, I truly assumed I was straight. I liked girls, I watched sports, I was angry as hell without knowing why – the whole nine. I did google shirtless pictures of Orlando Bloom (love your work, bud!), but I chalked it up to a blip in my straightness, a gay cheat day, if you will. (Are they still cheat days if they happen five days a week?)
It didn’t help that I was raised religious. The preacher at my Baptist elementary school politely informed my second grade class that homosexuality was a “mortal sin”. (Thank God he did. Without that guidance, we would have turned Mrs Murrow’s classroom into an Athenian bathhouse.)
To add to my confusion, behind that preacher stood a statue of Jesus, splayed on the cross, like a scarecrow for queers. Crown of thorns, nails in wrists, and… shirtless? Looking, dare I say… chiselled? It felt like mixed messaging. If you’re going to build a scarecrow, one shouldn’t stuff it with delicious corn.
Even after I drifted away from religion, the internalised homophobia stuck around. Whenever I dated a woman, I spent the entire relationship worried she’d sniff me out. That I’d forget to close an incognito tab and everything would unravel. As it turns out, the emotional distance that anxiety bred wasn’t exactly a chick magnet, either.
The first person I came out to was a girlfriend. We’d been together six months, and she was openly bisexual, so I figured the time had come. When I told her, she said she was happy I told her, that she supported me, but her follow-up questions betrayed her seeming acceptance.
“Do you… prefer men?”
“No, I prefer women and actually, I’ve fancied one in particular of late – you.”
“Well… okay. But am I enough for you?”
“If anything, baby, you’re too much.”
She laughed at that, she kissed me, and we let it lie.
But the topic just kept coming up. Always, “I’m worried I’m not enough for you,” until one day she made it explicit: “I’m afraid you’ll cheat on me with a man.”
To me, this didn’t feel like a logical concern – if that was the plan, why would I have told you I was bi? If cheating was the intention, wouldn’t my best course of action be to withhold that information at all costs? That would be like if Sweeney Todd gave the police Mrs Lovett’s pie recipe – it’s going to arouse suspicion.
Those fears echoed one of the oldest stereotypes about bisexuality: that bisexuality itself isn’t real. Straight people assume you’re secretly gay. Some gay people assume you’re just not there yet. Everyone seems to think you’re eventually going to pick a side.
It seems she saw me not as someone who had desires for both, but as a closeted gay man sneaking a toe out of the closet. If my bisexuality is just a journey toward gayness, then I’m moving at a glacial pace, like the shifting of a tectonic plate.
A few months later, we broke up, and I found out through a friend that she had cheated on me with her male coworker. Maybe she wasn’t worried I would cheat on her with a man – she was worried I would cheat on her with that man. I may be bisexual, but I still prefer one at a time.
I had half a mind to mosey my way back into the closet at that point, but I knew that this pattern would repeat if I couldn’t be honest about it.
I thought that coming out would be a moment of epiphany, that the fetters of my sexual shame would morph into wings and I’d showboat above my withered chrysalis. The reality has been far less poetic.
Coming out began what will likely be a lifelong journey, a quest to identify who I really am under the vestiges of my concealment.
I’m happier now. I don’t worry about seeming gay anymore. The cat’s out of the bag. I don’t suffer through a Rusty Nail anymore; I order a piña colada and cross my legs as tightly as I please.
And when I do meet someone who says they don’t understand how someone could like both – or insists I must secretly prefer one – I tell them, “It’s okay. You’re just going through a phase.”
Maxx Eddy is a comedian blending stand-up and storytelling. He was named a New Face of Comedy at Montreal’s Just for Laughs Festival and recently made his American TV debut on Comics Unleashed with Byron Allen. Maxx Eddy: Bi Meets World will be performed at 5pm at Gilded Balloon Patter House, Edinburgh, from 5-31 August.
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